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AIBU?

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Football dilemma

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Pumba3 · 08/07/2021 18:37

We are going on holiday (staycation) on Sat for 1 week and it’s great that England are in the final, however my husband wants to drive back to our house ( apparently the TV is bigger and he can watch it with his friends). Now whilst I don’t have an issue with this he has refused point blank to take his own car (we were planning on taking one car on holiday) and insists on leaving me at the cottage with four children under the age of 10yrs without any transport. Am I being unreasonable to insist that if he must watch the football at home he at least takes his own bloomin’ car!!

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SummerHouse · 08/07/2021 19:19

@MouldyPotato

Why doesn't he want to watch it as a family and make memories?

This is either comic genius or you have a very different type of child to mine.

MindyStClaire · 08/07/2021 19:28

I was six during Italia 90 when Ireland were in the world cup, I still remember it, it was magical. I don't give a shit about football, but if I were English and had children old enough to understand, I'd want to watch it with them.

Your DH is being completely unreasonable.

Leeds2 · 08/07/2021 19:33

Why won't he agree to taking two cars?

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Pumba3 · 08/07/2021 20:17

Because according to him “he’s just being practical, we don’t need two cars for the whole week”. I truly don’t mind him going home for the match I just don’t particularly wish to be left stranded without a car!

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MoreHairyThanScary · 08/07/2021 20:34

Well he can use public transport to get home then!

Morechocolatethanbarbara · 08/07/2021 20:50

Considering most wives (& DC) would be hurt by Dad disappearing mid-way through a week-long holiday for the sake of a bigger screen 🙄 he's getting off really lightly here.

He takes his car or he goes home on public transport, or he stays at the Holiday cottage those are his options.

If he does go home you also get the equivalent hours to disappear and do your own thing Dc & husband free.

30degreesandmeltinghere · 08/07/2021 20:52

How long will your 'be stranded with 4 dc under 10'? Seems a bit dramatic!! Surely a holiday means no dragging dc around in a car? Especially 4!!

Frazzled2207 · 08/07/2021 20:54

Yanbu at all. How ridiculous. What sort of message does it give his kids that he doesn’t want to watch it with them and instead would rather go and watch it at home “on a bigger tv”.
The extra car is a side issue. Is public transport not an option if he really can’t stay

RuggerHug · 08/07/2021 20:55

Pubs have big TVs. I'm sure if that was really the issue he'd find somewhere near where you're staying to watch it.

Doublechocolatetiffin · 08/07/2021 20:56

I would be extremely pissed off if my DH suggested that. I wouldn't want my holiday to be that disrupted for the sake of watching the football on a better TV. Can't he go to a local pub if he really wants a big screen? I'd be irritated at being left on my own with 4 children whilst on holiday. I certainly wouldn't entertain the idea of him taking the car too! So no I don't think you're being unreasonable at all.

Frazzled2207 · 08/07/2021 20:57

@newnortherner111

It's not the leaving without transport it's the going back home.

I suggest if he goes home he does not come back until the end of the week to pick you up.

Err no because then OP would be stranded all week with four kids and no car

sweeneytoddsrazor · 08/07/2021 20:58

It would depend on where you are in relation to local facilities for me. If you are in the middle of nowhere, 2 cars if you are in a beach front property then not so bad.

FictionalCharacter · 08/07/2021 21:01

Why is he refusing point blank to take his own car? How nasty of him to want to leave you there without transport.

StCharlotte · 08/07/2021 21:02

Make sure you keep the car key in your knickers and make him get the train home.

BlowDryRat · 08/07/2021 22:33

YANBU at all. My exH used to strand me with the DC and without transport. It's horrible.

IcedSpice · 09/07/2021 08:09

@Pumba3

How far from home will you be, and for how long will you be stranded

TheFuckingDogs · 09/07/2021 08:14

I would just not arrive at holiday cottage until the Monday, he can’t watch it at home but with you and the kids present and then he can drive you all to holiday on the Monday!

PicaK · 09/07/2021 08:15

That's very arrogant and self centred of him - the car argument.
I'm not into football at all but I can see what a big deal it is for so many.
Why don't you all come back?
Put your foot down on the having no car thing. I'd be quite hurt at the lack of consideration that shows

Shadedog · 09/07/2021 08:23

If he thinks you don’t need two cars, why doesn’t he get the bus? If he wants to drive and you are using one car then you need two cars.

Bryonyshcmyony · 09/07/2021 08:26

I'd let him do what he wants.

Bryonyshcmyony · 09/07/2021 08:28

It wouldn't bother me much at all. He's right about not needing 2 cars. Tbh I wouldn't go until early Monday morning as I'd be as keen as him to watch the match on a decent TV.

Aroundtheworldin80moves · 09/07/2021 08:37

What is the plan for Monday? If he's drinking Sunday night he may not be fit to drive until later on the Monday...

The great thing about cars...they don't mind being left on a holiday cottage driveway for a few days while the other car is used. Its not going to get jealous!

Pottedpalm · 09/07/2021 08:40

If he is watching with his mates and (hopefully) celebrating, will there be drinking and a hangover? So he won’t reappear Monday morning with the car, more likely late Monday ir even Tuesday. I wouldn’t be happy with that.

Nuggetnugget · 09/07/2021 08:41

I would be so annoyed with this. He's very self absorbed. Then on top of that taking the car too.
Of course take two cars!

Swallowridge · 09/07/2021 08:46

You will have no car for Sunday and most of Monday ( being realistic). Unless there are two days of activities on the doorstep you need the car. That's just the facts.

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