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Teaching my DD to ride a bike

99 replies

Dav3nport · 06/07/2021 21:50

Aibu?

If you asked Grandparents not to take stabilisers off the bike because you wanted to do it, but then 3 months later you receive a video from them with the stabilers off and bike riding with no conversation having happened.
I had my heart set on this and I have been getting DD's psychological buy in over time.
Their justification is they didn't know / didn't remember, and what's the big deal anyway.

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Dishwashersaurous · 06/07/2021 21:53

More context needed. Why was child and bike with grandparents?

If they do regular childcare and are also teaching child to ride a bike then I'd be ecstatic and start planning where we could cycle at the weekend.

NerrSnerr · 06/07/2021 21:55

Has she been asking for the 3 months for them to be taken off and you haven't got around to it yet? I could possibly see why they just did it if that's the case.

BarbarianMum · 06/07/2021 21:55

The thing is, just because it was a big deal for you doesnt mean it was a big deal to them, so maybe they really did forget. Doesnt sound like it was such a big deal for your dd either.

So - well I'd be a lot bit gutted. But if the relationship is usually good and they are loving grandparents I'd try and get over it.

KindergartenKop · 06/07/2021 21:56

Teaching them to ride a bike is a bit of a pain in the arse. I'd be pleased I'd dodged that particular bullet.

Chattercino · 06/07/2021 21:56

I'd be enormously proud of my child's achievement.
I think you are overthinking it and clearly she was ready to have the stabilisers taken off.

TheLovelinessOfDemons · 06/07/2021 21:58

My aunt used to take over everything with DD, so I know how you feel.

Buddrinker84 · 06/07/2021 21:59

My dd was a pain in the arse to teach. You dodged a bullet. There was nothing magical about it.🤣

dalrympy · 06/07/2021 22:00

You are being precious. I would love that my child had that experience with grandparents.

AnneFuckingKirrin · 06/07/2021 22:02

@Buddrinker84

My dd was a pain in the arse to teach. You dodged a bullet. There was nothing magical about it.🤣
Same here. My ds was a massive pita too. No magical moments, just a load of shouting, crying and storming off.
Sally872 · 06/07/2021 22:03

If they taught her in one afternoon she was very ready. If she asked to try I wouldn't blame them for doing it and I could believe they forgot conversation from 3 months ago.

How old is child? Has she been asking? Or riding her bike alot with grandparents?

TheNoodlesIncident · 06/07/2021 22:04

Teaching DS to ride a bike resulted in our both (DH and I, not DS) having horribly aching backs, so maybe consider that they've done you a favour rather than being annoyed?

If you find them irritating generally then I guess you won't be prepared to look on the positive side but instead just be resentful and ungrateful. Three months is a very long time to a young child who wants to learn though, so I'd say they'd been patient long enough.

Dishwashersaurous · 06/07/2021 22:04

Unless child is unusual based on previous experience the grandparents must have spent hours with the child and the bike if the child can now actually cycle

NerrSnerr · 06/07/2021 22:05

How old is she and was she desperate to learn?

MrsFin · 06/07/2021 22:06

What on Earth does this mean? I have been getting DD's psychological buy in over time ?

Teaching a kid to ride a bike is a PITA IMO. There's a hell of a lot of running up and down and I'd just be glad that DD can ride a bike.

Wearywithteens · 06/07/2021 22:07

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Spanglemum · 06/07/2021 22:08

Misses point of thread: kids don't need stabilisers. They're an unnecessary extra step.

Misty9 · 06/07/2021 22:09

I'd bloody love it if someone else would teach dd, 7! In fact, might suggest it to their grandad... Grin

Dishwashersaurous · 06/07/2021 22:09

Spangle mum - was waiting for someone else to say it

Ninibest · 06/07/2021 22:10

I teached my 6 year old to ride until I gave up, finally he learned on his own lol. At least you have help to teach your child

Noselinh · 06/07/2021 22:12

Have you taught any other children to ride a bike? Was a huge pain to reach my 5 years old and if anyone had taught him, I would have been very grateful to them

yikesanotherbooboo · 06/07/2021 22:13

This is far from something to get worried about .

Spanglemum · 06/07/2021 22:14

@Dishwashersaurous Ha! I had to say it. Balance bikes all the way here!

lovelybitofsquirrell · 06/07/2021 22:15

They have done you a favour tbh. Teaching kids to ride a bike is the most frustrating thing in the world.

lovablequalities · 06/07/2021 22:15

It's not a thing.

Memes or social media or the internet might have convinced you it's a thing but all the parents I know give zero fucks about this.

Parenting is not a MasterCard "priceless" moment. Parenting is laughing, shouting, crying, kidding, jumping, cleaning, wiping, sleeping, cuddling, pushing, stopping, helping... you know? Cracking on. The bike thing is a total nothing in the grand scheme.

Plus, it takes fecking ages. There's masses of times you can shout "Steer! Keep going!" at the,m.

lovelybitofsquirrell · 06/07/2021 22:16

I had my heart set on this and I have been getting DD's psychological buy in over time.

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