I don’t know why you’re getting so many negative comments.
I am an unpaid carer. It’s hard, thankless work and you lose a bit of yourself when caring for someone you love. We’ve seen carers struggle during the lockdowns and we really need to be honest about what support there is (little) and that not everyone can or should be a carer if if it’s potentially down the line.
I couldn’t do it again given I’ve already done it for over a decade. This is why I’m not having another child and I’ve told any potential long term partners no babies and any pregnancy will be terminated if my coil doesn’t work (one already with a chromosome issue) and why I’m picky about who I date. They need to understand this and I also don’t want to be a carer to TWO people.
It doesn’t make me a bad person, nor the op to consider if this is something she is willing to do or the impact on life not just for her but also him.
It’s better you think these things through and make the right choice for both of you now than invest time and love and end up resentful and both hurt because of the situation of health deteriorates.
On the flip side I have been very honest about my own health issues. That I get crippling migraine clusters along with other chronic issues that can mean I’m on antibiotics for lung infections or out of it for a couple of days due to the migraines. Minor compared to most but I require medication to manage it all.
I’m well aware not everyone wants to be with someone who has to cancel plans last minute due to sudden vomit inducing migraine. And you know what? That’s alright, they’d probably piss me off too with their inability to change plans.
On the flip side though OP I really would urge you to go to the diabetes U.K. website and research for yourself the long terms potential issues for type 1. A lot of diabetes ‘horror stories’ are more often linked to poor management in type 2 and the linked obesity rather than properly managed type 1 in an active, healthy weight male (assumption here)