MIL comments on my weight. AIBU?

[kettlechips123]

I generally have a good relationship with my mother in law. She is a lovely woman in so many ways - apart from one.

Every time I speak with her (be it on the phone or in person) she laughs if I mention I've been to the gym or eaten a healthy meal. She is always commenting about my "diet" in a negative way. She is never supportive and makes comments about my clothes sizes. Even though we are the same size?

If it is relevant I am 5ft 7 and just over 12 stone. I'm aware I need to lose weight and am trying my best but sometimes I fall off the wagon (with the year we've had it is very easy to!)

My husband just tells me to ignore her and that she doesn't mean it. He doesn't like confrontation so he wouldn't tell her to shut up. A bit annoying but not much I can do as I don't want to cause any arguments or ill feelings.

AIBU to be pissed off with her comments and mocking? Or do I need to pull up my big girl pants and realise that this is standard MIL behaviour (from what I've heard anyway).

Thanks all.

Also, people need to quit this tedious 'stop the ageist comments' trope. FFS, we should be allowed to call out someone on their behaviour, and be allowed to mention they're a generation or two older, without being called fecking AGEIST!

It's bloody ridiculous. How can we even say what we need to say, and set the scene properly, if we don't give full details?! Should we not mention if someone is female either, because it SEXIST?

Daft.

@Fuckitsstillraining

I tried "its hard to believe you made it to your age without realising its rude to comment on people weight", she never did it again.

I like this (or calling the old cow “Fatty” when replying to such comments). If both fail, go LC or, if necessary, NC.

When I was 17, my boyfriend's mother gave me a diet book and commented on my weight. I was only 46Kg at the time! It started a lifetime of yo-yo dieting. This post really makes me cross. Just tell her it's offensive and hurts your feelings. It's not generational - it's mean.

@FlaminEckVera

Also, people need to quit this tedious 'stop the ageist comments' trope. FFS, we should be allowed to call out someone on their behaviour, and be allowed to mention they're a generation or two older, without being called fecking AGEIST!

It's bloody ridiculous. How can we even say what we need to say, and set the scene properly, if we don't give full details?! Should we not mention if someone is female either, because it SEXIST?

Daft.

Sweeping generalisations about older (or younger) people ARE ageist.

I'm sorry if you don't like that.

You can, of course, describe a specific person's behaviour, but you can't then tarnish everyone of their age with such behaviour.

Oh, and ageism is against Talk Guidelines. Like sexism, racism, disablism, homophobia etc.

And it's clearly not just the older generation who make rude comments about people's weight. You only have to read the fat-shaming posts on here to see that!