To have second wedding at same venue as my first?

[Nahhh]

I’d love to know peoples opinions on this.

I’m getting married for the second time next year. We’re having around 20-30 people. I’ve spent months searching and the place I had my first wedding reception seems like the nicest place to host a small wedding in my area.

Would you think it’s weird for me to have my second marriage at the same place as I had my first? Albeit 10 years later....

Would people have the same issue if it was a church?

Bit insensitive to the first husband too.

This reminds me of Barry and Mindy’s wedding in Friends - “I remember when Barry got home from his first date with Rachel. What? You hired the same band, I can’t use the same speech?”

Even with 25-30 people there’s likely to be at least one knobhead who makes a similar joke.

You would have flash backs to Aunty Sue sitting at "that " table or your mate drunk dancing etc etc find somewhere else.

@ineedaholidaynow

Would people have the same issue if it was a church?

Yes, for me, I would have the same issue.

I wouldnt be allow to do that anyway. But, even, if I could, I would not use the same church.

Honestly, I would find it a bit funny, but it's your wedding so if the couple was happy with it, I'd get over it.

I think it also depends if you live very rurally or in a place with few options? There are some places where there are only a few (or two) venues for a wedding or a nice party or a funeral, etc. So it turns out that just about everyone has gotten married in the same “nice” hotel (or been waked in the same nice family pub) because it’s the only one there is. Maybe it’s less weird then. However, if you live somewhere with several venues, not only is it strange, but I think it’d feel a bit odd for you. Has it maybe been refurbished or redecorated since your first wedding? That might help it a bit.

Yes I'd find that odd and I really don't know why your new partner would be fine with it

Absolutely no way

I'd probably be fine with it. But then I've dates in the pub where we held DH's wake.

You never know, they might offer repeat customer discount.

Loyalty discount?

It sounds fine.

My initial reaction is 'Hell no!' I wouldn't want memories of my first wedding popping into my head on the day of my second wedding.
I'm sure there is a second option, I'd even go a little further afield if necessary to avoid this and I say that as someone planning their second wedding myself!

Guests will fill in gaps of the conversation about how the place has changed over the last ten years, how they have all changed over the last ten years. The whole day will be mutterings of the first wedding. It'll be weird.

Definitely weird

Yes it's very weird. I absolutely would not and I'd be a bit 😵 if attending as a guest.

Yes I think it's a bit weird but ultimately it's you and your partners day and if you are both happy with it then it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks. Do what makes you happy.
Although as a previous comment said, will people make jokes or comment on it? If they do, would it bother you?

As someone who just had her second wedding (in a different venue to my first!) it's a HELL NO from me! For all the reasons set out above...!

Nope 👎

My cousin did this - we definitely commented on it being weird on the day!

it's your wedding so YANBU to do whatever you want

I wouldn't, but that does matter.
as long as you are both happy about it then do it

bwahaha

I meant *but that DOESN'T matter!

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Very weird.

How many of your guests went to the first one?

My cousin did this - we definitely commented on it being weird on the day!

I mean you would wouldn't you just be natural to comment.