to ask what age gap your children are?

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and if you think it’s a nice gap or wish you’d had them closer/further apart?

i have a 3 month old and can’t decide whether to start ttc again when she’s a year old so they’re closer together and have a nice bond growing up or whether to wait until we can get a bigger house (we have a 2 bed) and more job stability.

also looking at getting married in summer 2023 and i don’t know whether it would be better to try before or after - first dd took about a year of trying and i’m not sure i want potentially a 3/4 year gap.

6 years (two miscarriages in between) but worked out fine - they are close - too close sometimes when they gang up on me :)

I was so so broody when my first was born. It's very hormonal. Now he's almost 2 (dh wasn't ready to ttc) and I feel a lot less broody now. We will try soon though as if time is on your side, 3 or 4 years seems best for parents and child.

There will be 7 years between our when this ones born. I hated the thought of having them too close together, I wouldn’t cope!

18 months between my two DS. Perfect gap.

22 months between DC1 and DC2, 2 years between DC2 and DC3.

I like having a fairly small gap because I prefer being immersed in all the baby stuff and then gradually emerging (rather than taking a step 'backwards'). 3 under 4 was hard though!

2 years 4 months gap. Girl then boy. I think the gap is fine. In retrospect I might have wanted more of a 2 year gap, but I wasn't ready and also life makes other plans at times (miscarriages etc).

15 months between mine which was perfect for us

Maybe should have mentioned before but was aiming for a 4 year gap - I could never handle too many tiny ones at once - then the 2 miscarriages - so.

But it worked out perfectly.

You can never tell whether siblings will be close or not, it's luck IMO.

4 year gap for my eldest two, then a 3 year gap for my youngest two. Preferred the 4 year gap as was there to settle son into school, it was like have an only baby during school days. They get on brilliantly and play together well. The only tricky thing is finding common interests for the whole family, although it is nice to carve out individual time with each of them anyway.

Less than two years between mine. They don’t really like each other much but I think they will when they’re a bit older. Currently teenagers.

I have 3 boys and there is a year between each. It was incredibly hard work when they were babies (3 under 3?!) but worth it. They are currently 8, 9 and 10 and despite the occasional bit of bickering, get on really well.

I have 3.5 year age gap, and I couldn’t have done it any sooner! Recommend waiting if you want to be able to give the second child anything near the one-on-one attention the first one had. You won’t be able to exactly, but the first would be preschool age so you’ll have more time with you and the baby.

I've got almost 11 years between mine

2.5 years. Absolutely perfect as same gender too so lots in common as they've got older and so easy to plan days out, holidays etc.
I outsourced much of the early years though as we had no help and went back to work pt at four and five months each time. Nursery fees cost us many thousands.
Now 16 and 18 and I would choose the exact same age gap every time.

2 years between 1 & 2.
3 years between 2 & 3.
5 years between 1 & 3.

I have just over 3 years. It worked well for us. I would have liked a slightly smaller gap, but it took a while to convince DH that having another was a good idea and then 6m ttc.

It was good though as dd1 got her funded hours the term after dd2 was born and so I got plenty of 1 to 1 time with her. Also dd1 was potty trained, could dress herself etc. She did hit a very grumpy threenager faze though at around the same time though, so that was tough. Maybe if she was younger having a tiny usurper in the house wouldn’t have bothered her so much!

Growing up there have been times when they seem close in age and times when they don’t. They’re now in there teens and seem closer than they have for years. I wouldn’t say they’re best friends, but they get on well and have a good relationship. I wouldn’t change the age gap now. Dd1 will be off to uni in a couple of years and I’m glad that dd2 will be around still for a few more years and they won’t both be leaving in a short space of time.

3 years 2 months. They are 13 and 10 now and do argue. However, they are often found cuddled up on the sofa.

It was good when she was small as I used his funded hours to keep him in nursery part times, which helped.

17 months. Hard at first but definitely getting easier. They're 2 and 3 now.

12 months

Hard to begin with but easy after a couple of years - similar interests and stages and great fun. No jealousy.

Teens now. They bicker occasionally but get on really well

21 months. One school year apart. September and June babies. Was difficult but doable. They’re friends as well as sisters. Don’t know how it’ll work when dd1 goes to Senior school in September.

3.3y gap, a 5y gap and a 23month gap.

All have their pros and cons.

My brother is 5 years older than me and he was able to help my mum out when I was a baby (he also took most of my baby photos!) We get on but aren't majorly close or anything.

My DHs nieces and nephews are close in age (by a couple of years at most) and have close bonds.

There's no guarantee of a close bond despite age though due to possible conflicting (or too similar) personalities.

4 years between DC1 & 2. 18 months between DC2 & 3.

They all get on really well but DC1 & 2 are closest.

20 months.

For us, it’s been perfect. The first year was a bit of a killer but now (at 8 & 7) they are such a little team it’s great. Days out are easy because age wise they are interested in & capable of the same things, independence wise they support each other so dh & I get time out we wouldn’t if we had a younger one.

Basically we got the intense sleepless nights, nappies, baby stage out of the way in one big burst and now reap the rewards!

DS2 was born when DS1 was 2years 1 month. Youngest is 6 months now, I would have chosen a bigger age gap but second pregnancy was a lockdown surprise