Hi everyone I could really do with an outside perspective here please ! So basically, last year I had baby number 3, we were just coming out of full lockdown and I have 2 other children 5 and 3. My mum was great and would come round a few hours most days to help while my husband worked very very long hours in the first few weeks. As a thank you, I paid towards an anniversary break for her in the cotswolds with my dad who also contributed but I paid the majority and spent the time finding the place etc. Mum didn’t seem too over excited to be going and it was suppose to be a surprise but my dad ended up telling her where they were going (after lots of asking!) and she trip advisored it! It was a cottage in a lovely spot and had a centre of excellence certificate. One review mentioned dogs and this put mum off. Anyway they went down and I get a phone call once they were there to say that she wasn’t staying it stunk of dog and there was dog hair everywhere and they were making the 4 hour journey home again. It was very matter of fact (no sorry love I just can’t stay here, just it stinks etc etc) I said ok and I was sorry and I’d talk to them later. She said don’t worry I’ve got your money back which I received a few days later and paid back what my dad had paid. A few family members made a few jokes about was it really that bad etc and mum made me feel really uncomfortable on a number of occasions like I’d booked a really dirty place for them but I never said anything. Anyway fast forward 3 children under 5, lockdown, homeschooling, my husband working ridiculous hours, I run a business I’ve not been coping with, Christmas etc, my mum sits me down and says she’s been hurt with me for a long time (there’s been a lot of tension between us and I never knew why) and she’s disgusted with me because I never rebooked her anywhere. I’ve since treated her to Christmas presents, Mother’s Day treats (a lovely outdoor planter which she complained wasn’t what she wanted), I phoned up to pay for her hair when she was at the hair dressers etc etc but she’s gone to town about the break away. She thinks I’ve handled it, in her words ‘disgusting’ and I should have rebooked her somewhere. She even complained that we’d taken the kids away for the weekend for their birthday and not done something for her. We later took mum and dad to cornwall with us and didn’t ask for a penny. I’m so hurt that this keeps getting brought up and to be honest think that my mum is being so out order in keep bringing this up. Especially knowing how much pressure I’ve been under this year and I’m pregnant again. Please can someone give me their perspective on this. I feel really cut up about a lot of things and this is just one small part of it.