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Original poster

To buy a treat for DD if she does a covid test

59 replies

BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:25

She’s 7. Came down with a cough last night, I suspect it’s a cold as it’s swept round her class but will be doing the test today anyway.

We’re booked to go to a test centre and DDs had tests before so knows what to expect. She’s said she’ll only do it if she gets a pick n mix from Tesco (near to the test centre) afterwards.

Just me and her at home so I’d have to leave her in the car to grab the pick n mix.

AIBU to do it? I have no symptoms, and would wear a mask and sanitize my hands as I go into the shop.

Or do I just wait until we get the results?

OP posts:
HelenaJustina · 04/07/2021 08:27

If someone in the household has symptoms such that you are accessing a PCR, you should behave as if she is positive until you find out otherwise. That means all of you self-isolating, not shopping or mixing at all.

FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop · 04/07/2021 08:28

Just do it

kimlo · 04/07/2021 08:29

is there anyone who will go to tesco and leave one on your doorstep?

LadyPenelope68 · 04/07/2021 08:29

She’s got symptoms so you both isolate until she gets the results, so no, you can’t go into Tesco just for pick n mix, how ridiculous.

Greenandcabbagelooking · 04/07/2021 08:29

Nope. She can have a treat delivered from online, or a shop bought one if negative, but you should not be going into supermarkets until you know she does not have covid.

I hope your daughter is well,soon, but please don’t put others at risk of illness or isolation just for some sweeties. You can buy pick and mix online.

Original poster
BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:29

@HelenaJustina

If someone in the household has symptoms such that you are accessing a PCR, you should behave as if she is positive until you find out otherwise. That means all of you self-isolating, not shopping or mixing at all.
When I rang 119 to book the test they said only she has to self isolate unless the test is positive and then the entire household has to.
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sirfredfredgeorge · 04/07/2021 08:29

You are not allowed into Tesco if anyone in your household has symptoms.

So no, you're fucking insane, if you believe in the restrictions such that you think you should test your child for a cold, but then ignore the actual mechanisms to stop the spread, then all you're doing is putting your child through unnecessary procedures and stress.

To me you'd be less unreasonable to say, in my opinion this cough is not a new continuous one, therefore we do not need to test, as at least that's honest.

Yafilthyanimal · 04/07/2021 08:29

You should all be isolating if someone from your household is doing a test because they have symptoms.

This is not a new recommendation.

Treehaus · 04/07/2021 08:30

If you want her to cough everytime she wants a pick and mix then sure...or wait until the result and if its negative then go out and choose a pick and mix, if positive get one delivered.

Theunamedcat · 04/07/2021 08:30

Just order from amazon ive got sweets from there before

Blurp · 04/07/2021 08:30

@Treehaus

If you want her to cough everytime she wants a pick and mix then sure...or wait until the result and if its negative then go out and choose a pick and mix, if positive get one delivered.
I'd do this.
IWantT0BreakFree · 04/07/2021 08:30

YABU. You can’t be sure it’s just a cold and it’s not fair to risk other, potentially vulnerable, people’s health just for some sweets. There are plenty of workarounds. Maybe a friend or family member could drop something off for you. You could order her a Happy Meal if you have a local McDonald’s that delivers. Or she can wait until you’re not isolating and have her pick n mix then.

Sprogonthetyne · 04/07/2021 08:31

Can you ask someone to get it for you and hide it in your bag / car to give her after the test?

PacifyLulu · 04/07/2021 08:31

Ffs OP, what do you think might be an appropriate thing to do in this situation whilst trying to reduce infections?

PacifyLulu · 04/07/2021 08:32

Alternatively, tell your 7 year old that taking the test isn’t a negotiable activity.

Obbydoo · 04/07/2021 08:33

Seriously. 15 months into this and people still don't get it! Do. Not. Go. Into. A. Shop. FFS.

Lifeinabeautifullight · 04/07/2021 08:33

Yes, bribery is fine..but perhaps find another way to get sweets, online, ask a friend etc

Geamhradh · 04/07/2021 08:33

She does a test.
She stays at home.
She doesn't get a treat because she's done a test. (unless she's a puppy learning to wee in the right place)

Hellocatshome · 04/07/2021 08:34

Terrible idea and not just because you are not allowed. If she said I'll only brush my teeth if you buy me sweets, I'll only do my homework of you buy me sweets would you even be considering it?! I dont know if its just me but seems a pretty spoilt thing to say. Fair enough if you said you would get her a treat after but a 7 year old issuing ultimatums wouldn't fly in my house.

Original poster
BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:35

@PacifyLulu she has additional needs, she knows it's not negotiable but she might kick off and invalidate the test - SN is sensory issues, she doesn't like anything near her face. If she knows she's getting a reward she's more likely to kick off.

I'll have to risk her not doing the test when we get there then. No family to ask and most of my friends are single parents so would be dragging a small child to the shops to buy sweets for mine.

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Geamhradh · 04/07/2021 08:36

@Obbydoo

Seriously. 15 months into this and people still don't get it! Do. Not. Go. Into. A. Shop. FFS.
I keep checking the dates to see if these are zombie threads from about April 2020.
championthewonderhorse70 · 04/07/2021 08:37

Could you say you'll get the sweets when the tests comes back negative

Original poster
BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:37

*if she knows she's getting a reward she's less likely to kick off I mean

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HandsSpaceArse · 04/07/2021 08:39

YABU for letting a 7 year old set the rules. Fair enough if you offered but not her demanding.

HandsSpaceArse · 04/07/2021 08:40

Sorry, didn't RTFT Blush