To buy a treat for DD if she does a covid test

[BlackCherryCandle]

She’s 7. Came down with a cough last night, I suspect it’s a cold as it’s swept round her class but will be doing the test today anyway.

We’re booked to go to a test centre and DDs had tests before so knows what to expect. She’s said she’ll only do it if she gets a pick n mix from Tesco (near to the test centre) afterwards.

Just me and her at home so I’d have to leave her in the car to grab the pick n mix.

AIBU to do it? I have no symptoms, and would wear a mask and sanitize my hands as I go into the shop.

Or do I just wait until we get the results?

Bribes would certainly be in order if my almost 8 year old needed another test.

First one was part of a a study and he hated it. Second one was because he had symptoms - we were in the car at the test centre for 30 minutes trying to persuade and bribe him to have it done. He was so upset at he hated the first test and was scared of the second one, it was making him gag.

It was awful trying to persuade and cajole him to have it done. Eventually offering him 3 hours of iPad and a chocolate bar just got the test done - but only just

If he wanted a pick and mix next time to brave it, I’d find a way to get him one - either by delivery or asking a friend to get one.

YANBU to get her a pick and mix but YABU to go into the supermarket yourself until a negative test comes back

@actiongirl1978

And regarding bribery, I bought my son a Nintendo switch game for having his haircut last year as he would sob and cling to me and jot have it cut otherwise.

But did you offer this bribe or did your child tell you that they would not go for a haircut unless you bought the game? I think that's the difference. I have to bribe one of mine a lot. It works for us. But I work hard to ensure the offer comes from me, not her. That's vital IMO.

@covidcloser

Absolutely delightful how people are so critical of parents trying to parent a child with special needs. What a supportive place this is.

Meh. Special needs are not an excuse to allow your 7 year old to dictate to you though.

Anticipate the situation and offer the bribe when telling the child she has to go for the test. That way the parent is in control, not the child. This is actually key to raising any child, but particularly one with special needs. Being critical isn't always bad, we learn from others.

Yeah but as you know there are ways to be supportively critical and ways to make a parent just feel like shit. One way tends to be helpful to the poster, the other doesn’t. Obviously.

Yeah but as you know there are ways to be supportively critical and ways to make a parent just feel like shit. One way tends to be helpful to the poster, the other doesn’t. Obviously.

Tbh I don't really know how to write something other than how it is. I struggle with that. My point isn't any less valid as a result.

Post on Facebook and get a sweet cone delivered. Always lots of people doing them. Or order one online and let her choose.

@covidcloser to be honest yes I offered. He does try it the other way sometimes for things of less value - eg chocolate biscuits, but this is more of a negotiation!

Took half an hour to cajole her into doing it but she did it. She squirmed with it in her nose, retched when it was down her throat and then eventually vomitted thankfully nowhere near the swab.

She was retching in the car on the way home and I thought she might vomit so went on the motorway to the drive through costa and got her one of those iced drink things think it might be a strawberry frostino? Shes had one with ExH anyway.

She still wants her sweets when the results come in but it stopped her retching anyway.

Now she's having some quiet time with her ipad and netflix.

Well done OP, and your daughter. It can be a really unpleasant test. I hope you get a speedy negative!

There was a backstory which wasn't noted in the OP. Had it been mentioned that the child has SEN, many replies would have been different. Most people would read my reply as a x-post.