Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To buy a treat for DD if she does a covid test

59 replies

BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:25

She’s 7. Came down with a cough last night, I suspect it’s a cold as it’s swept round her class but will be doing the test today anyway.

We’re booked to go to a test centre and DDs had tests before so knows what to expect. She’s said she’ll only do it if she gets a pick n mix from Tesco (near to the test centre) afterwards.

Just me and her at home so I’d have to leave her in the car to grab the pick n mix.

AIBU to do it? I have no symptoms, and would wear a mask and sanitize my hands as I go into the shop.

Or do I just wait until we get the results?

OP posts:
CeeceeBloomingdale · 04/07/2021 08:41

You can't go to a shop, the whole household needs to isolate. Order some through Amazon or a local delivery company or a friend to drop some off. Special needs or not the rules still apply.

covidcloser · 04/07/2021 08:42

@PacifyLulu

Alternatively, tell your 7 year old that taking the test isn’t a negotiable activity.

This. I am a bit Hmm at the 'She’s said she’ll only do it if she gets a pick n mix from Tesco'

By all means treat your kid, but you do this on your terms, not hers

MadeOfStarStuff · 04/07/2021 08:44

The whole household needs to isolate until her test is negative or for 10 days if it’s positive. How is this still a question? Of course YABVU to go into a shop for sweets when you should be isolating!

You can order pick and mix online or take her to Tesco when the isolation is over

PacifyLulu · 04/07/2021 08:44

Find a different reward that can be ordered online/ delivered? It’s not that hard OP

Mamamamasaurus · 04/07/2021 08:44

PCR aside - why is your 7 year old dictating to you? YOU are the parent. So do some parenting.

Ifitquacks · 04/07/2021 08:48

@Mamamamasaurus

PCR aside - why is your 7 year old dictating to you? YOU are the parent. So do some parenting.
Absolutely delightful how people are so critical of parents trying to parent a child with special needs. What a supportive place this is.
Original poster
BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:48

@Mamamamasaurus

PCR aside - why is your 7 year old dictating to you? YOU are the parent. So do some parenting.
Usually she doesn't but medical treatment and stuff like blood tests I accept bribes if she does them as I know she really struggles due to sensory issues.
OP posts:
Shouldbedoing · 04/07/2021 08:49

So whatever it takes.but don't go.into.Tesco yourself

Shouldbedoing · 04/07/2021 08:49

Do whatever

Geamhradh · 04/07/2021 08:51

In fairness, the OP only mentioned the SN after several posts querying why the child needed to get a treat for doing something that's a legal requirement.

Ifitquacks · 04/07/2021 08:57

@Geamhradh

In fairness, the OP only mentioned the SN after several posts querying why the child needed to get a treat for doing something that's a legal requirement.
She mentioned it before the posters attacked her parenting though.
Original poster
BlackCherryCandle · 04/07/2021 08:58

Off to do the test, will not be going anywhere near the supermarket will update when I get back how it went.

OP posts:
Glitterandmud · 04/07/2021 08:59

Could you see if there's any local pick-n-mix businesses, probably find them on facebook, if you just ask the question on a local buy sell or local chat group and explain the situation I'll bet people will tag them or they'll get in touch themselves and be able to arrange to drop off.

Ifitquacks · 04/07/2021 09:00

Anyway, mine don’t have SN and have had to have a few tests. I’ve bought them a little treat every time because it’s a pretty shit test for a young kid if done right.
Hasn’t turned them into spoilt brats, manipulative masterminds or anything like that. Just made a nasty procedure slightly more palatable. I’d be more concerned about a 7 year old who decided to cough every time they wanted a sweet in response. Mine wouldn’t dream of being manipulative like that.

CeeceeBloomingdale · 04/07/2021 09:00

Usually she doesn't but medical treatment and stuff like blood tests I accept bribes if she does them as I know she really struggles due to sensory issues.

In that case you should be prepared and have a stash at home in case this happens. You know her needs and should prepare according. However I do hope the test goes well and comes back negative.

minipie · 04/07/2021 09:02

Good luck with the test OP. Do you have anything in your house that can be used as a bribe/reward? Any chocolate or anything she’s not usually allowed much of?

MissMissTorrance · 04/07/2021 09:07

1.The bribes may be around medical intervention now- but I'd watch that.

  1. Pick and Mix during Covid times- URGH.
  1. Do NOT go to Tesco.
MissMissTorrance · 04/07/2021 09:09

Actually Pick & Mix is Hmm at the best if times.

Deadleaf29 · 04/07/2021 09:10

I get it op. I have a few big bribes already stashed in a cupboard in anticipation of having to test my autistic child, although I suspect actually it would just be impossible unless we sedated them! I think people with compliant neurotypical children have no idea how hard these tests are for some children and that at seven it’s very hard to physically force them. All this “I just tell my child that’s what’s happening and expect complete compliance” - would you expect that if you were removing a limb without anaesthetic? Do you really imagine that a child gives a monkey about the fact it’s a legal requirement?!! Because to some children with eg autism and sensory issues these tests are excruciatingly painful and violating of their personal space. If bribery with a few sweets works then what on earth is the problem with that (assuming op can get them without breaking the rules)?

ElderMillennial · 04/07/2021 09:11

You can order pick n mix online so tell her she can have it but it won't arrive today

covidcloser · 04/07/2021 09:14

Absolutely delightful how people are so critical of parents trying to parent a child with special needs. What a supportive place this is.

Meh. Special needs are not an excuse to allow your 7 year old to dictate to you though.

Anticipate the situation and offer the bribe when telling the child she has to go for the test. That way the parent is in control, not the child. This is actually key to raising any child, but particularly one with special needs. Being critical isn't always bad, we learn from others.

vivainsomnia · 04/07/2021 09:15

You're making a drama where there was no to be. You just had to tell your DD that she would get a reward because you know how hard it is for her to take the test and it's fair that she gets something for it.

Then explain that you are not allowed to go to the shop until you get the results, so she'll have to wait a bit. Do you have anything at all that resemble a treat at home that she could have as soon as you are home until she gets the sweets she wants?

actiongirl1978 · 04/07/2021 09:17

@Deadleaf29 I absolutely agree with you.

DS is the same, he actually vomits if I try to take him tonthe dentist so has never had his teeth properly looked at. We refuse the flu spray for him for the same reason.

I dread the idea of having to test him, thank goodness it hasn't happened yet.

And regarding bribery, I bought my son a Nintendo switch game for having his haircut last year as he would sob and cling to me and jot have it cut otherwise.

OP do what you need to do, though I'd have a hunt and see if you have any haribos in the back of cupboards to avoid the shop.

Mummasdiary2021 · 04/07/2021 09:18

Just get the poor girl some sweets

Skyeheather · 04/07/2021 09:18

Could you make her a homemade gift voucher/IOU, to be redeemed for a Pic n Mix when she gets her negative result or send a friend/relative to get it over a video call so she can see what there is and still chose what she wants.