What do you wish you had/hadn't done at your wedding?

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Right down to the tiny details!

My wedding was just what i wanted aborad with just close family there

My dsis first wedding too much food that was wasted as the wedding meal over ran so noone was hungry and the evening guests seem like they ate before they left home-not that my dsis lost anything as our df paid for it but still horrible to see so much food go to waste

Used a different photographer. Ours was truly awful. Recommended by a friend, beautiful portfolio etc.
Our wedding was a very small covid-compliant wedding in Aug last year and he focused heavily on documenting the weirdness of the situation ( masks, social distancing, arrows taped to the church floor, empty pews) rather than trying to capture any of the joy of the day. We had documentary style photography rather than more traditional group photos for obvious reasons (didn't want to make our guests stand close to each other). But the photographer kind of went rogue. The pics he took are comically weird and awful, including my sister coming out of a toilet and the best man changing his socks and shoes behind the church before the ceremony. I look awkward and uncomfortable in all but about two photos and no-one told me my hairdo was unravelling. I had a bit of a cry when I first saw the photos, but almost a year later I can see the funny side of the situation, and I hope that one day our kids, nieces and nephews can have a good old laugh at this record of our totally bonkers pandemic wedding.
I don't regret having a pandemic wedding though. There were a whole bunch of personal, religious and visa related reasons that we wanted to crack on and get married rather than postpone. We did everything safely and in compliance with covid safety regs and kept it small. Basically i got off the hook from having the massive wedding that my family had somewhat railroaded me into having. But the photos are honestly some of the worst I have ever seen. I would share them here for your amusement but don't want to out myself

I wish I'd had a proper wedding instead of eloping. It was all very nice, but we were left with a feeling of an anti climax as we had dinner and then went back to our hotel. We wish we'd had people there to celebrate with. However we're planning on renewing our vows with a massive party later this year when the restrictions allow

We eloped in New York and it’s the best decision we’ve ever made.

It was an intimate, romantic day just for the two of us and the entire holiday cost us about £7k including spends, our outfits, rings, photographer and marriage license.

We look back on it fondly and I’m so glad we didn’t bother with a traditional wedding.

I wish someone had told me when the evening buffet was served. It was an Indian curry type thing and apparently delicious. But it had been tidied away before I even knew it was out.

I just wish I hadn't done it at all!

Wish I had taken Dad's offer on the way to church and not married him.

Turned up & got married

@Olinguita I'm so sorry but your description of The Covid Wedding Photos is tragically funny. Seems he forgot he was being paid to do a wedding shoot, rather than film a sad documentary.

Wish I’d done the whole thing differently really.

Wish we’d had a videographer, DHs goddaughter did a beautiful reading and I’d love to be able to listen to DHs speech again, i blubbed through most of it.

I also wish we’d not bothered with the photo booth or used the venues recommended provider, the one we chose (and I knew as a friend had used them for a big event he organised) was shit and it took my friend having some serious words about his own booking to get our money back.

I wish I remembered to put my fancy headband back on, I took it off while my train was being taken up and I’m not wearing it in any of our couple photos.

I’m glad I took my own camera and gave it to my best friend, photographer was brilliant and we have some beautiful photos but he was only there till we cut the cake, some of my favourite photos are of us being silly and mucking about at the end of the night that were taken with my camera - it also meant we had some to look at straight away.

Put some money behind the bar. We had no idea how flipping pricey the drinks in our venue were, at least the first couple would have made the difference for our guests 🤦‍♀️

And that I'd have been less focused on running around making sure everyone else was having a good time and trusted that they were!

I got married last week and I don’t regret a single thing except letting my annoying in laws wind me up! The wedding itself was perfect. We spent money on everything that mattered to us (photographer, outfits, hair and makeup, free bar, DJ) and nothing that didn’t (fancy venue, favours, three course meal - we had burgers and chips). We got married at 4:30 in a tiny civil ceremony with immediate families (because of Covid restrictions) and then had a huge party with 140 ish, so there wasn’t really any two-tiering of guests. We spent a lot on the photographer, hair and makeup, and outfits - we paid for everything for the bridesmaids and my DH had a bespoke suit, plus of course my outfit was the most expensive one I’ve ever worn - but I don’t regret a penny of it because the photos are absolutely sensational and that’s really worth it to me when it’s all you get to keep from the day. God knows my dress is fit for nothing except cutting up to clean windows with now!

Not invited his parents. They didn't turn up (without telling us) and we had 2 different seating plans etc. Had to send my best mate and his husband to finish the table plans when it was obvious they weren't coming. Should have just not invited any of them.

Haven't seen them since. Bliss.

Hired a venue out and supplied the drinks from Asda and no children! Everyone can let their hair down and have a few drinks, not have to worry about looking after their kids and no financial burden from buying drinks and works out so much cheaper than everyone buying from a licensed bar, just pay someone to dish the drinks out.

I wish I had made my wedding dress. I had my dress made by an experienced seamstress. I was an older bride so had chosen a silver blue satin fabric for the dress with an attached silver blue lace shrug with long sleeves. (Sounds awful but the design was just what I wanted)
My dress was ready 2 weeks before my wedding. It cost a fortune and I hated it. I bought an off the peg ivory wedding dress from a bridal dress shop. The staff were so lovely because I was in tears.
I so wish I had made the dress myself. I could have done a much better job but I thought it wouldn't feel special if I had made it myself.

Worn a bra. I thought the dress looked lovely until I saw the photos and you could clearly see the shape of my boobs underneath it. I was mortified.

Also, wish I'd had my hair done professionally rather than doing it myself, it lasted until after the ceremony and all fell out it looked a mess in the reception photos.

@slavetoawhippet

Married him

This.

At both of my weddings? Actually marring the two idiots that I did! Never again!

One of the things I remember fondly was unplanned. A dear family friend was very ill with breast cancer. She hoped to come to the wedding but on the day she was just too poorly. My DH and I made a detour to her house on the way from the church to the reception and popped in to say hello. We spent a lovely quarter of an hour in her garden, then we went on to the reception. Obviously we arrived a lot later than our guests, but everyone knew where we were and nobody minded. She died shortly afterwards and I'm so glad that we did it.

Wished we hadn't booked the first holiday the woman in the shop told us about. It was so shit. Wish we had booked a week somewhere lovely.

I wish I'd had a better photographer, he was ok but didn't get many group shots and got a bit carried away on photoshop adding in candelabras that weren't there etc
I'm a hobby photographer so do spot mistakes and rubbish composition easily which doesn't help.
Having said that the album has been in the loft for 10 years and the only photo on the wall is a candid one that a friend took.

My two favourite things were my dress and video, my Dad has since died and I love seeing his face when he watched me walk into the living room and listening to his speech.

Wish I’d paid a bit more attention/been a bit more specific about the flowers…. I thought the florist was quite tasteful, until the day before when I saw she had made up all our vases with PINK water! This was in 2003 so not the eighties……. urrgh

My photos are shit!
The whole thing was an 80s nightmare .,
Still , it's not about the day eh ??
Lol 😂

I wish I hadn't done the big white wedding. It was a beautiful wedding but it wasn't the wedding I had planned in my head.
I wish I hadn't listened so much to our parents.
I wish I hadn't wasted so much money on what is essentially just a day.
I wish we had used some of the money as a deposit on a flat rather than then renting for years.
I wish I'd had a pre-nup and protected myself and my assets/potential assets.

I wish I'd not had a meal and buffet. What a waste of money!

I wish I'd chosen a simpler, cheaper dress.