What do you wish you had/hadn't done at your wedding?

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Right down to the tiny details!

We eloped. No regrets.

Hirewiredays In the winter at a Scottish wedding, soup and sandwiches are served along with tea and coffee around 7:30. The "oldies" tend to go home after that and the music is changed and turned up.

We shelled out for a really expensive but bloody brilliant band which completely made the evening. Everyone was on the dancefloor for most of the night, even older relatives and it was wonderful.

I wish I'd organised the suits. Only job I left to DH and he.picked the cheapest ones possible that just looked shiny, baggy and awful!! Also photographer was a good photographer but a bit rude and arrogant and his attitude spoiled the day a little.

Wish I'd had my dress bodice taken in, I was talked out of it as was told it might be too hot and restrictive but looking back at photos it was too loose, i tried my dress on a couple of years later when I was a bit heavier after dc and it looked loads better being more fitted.
Also more food,we had a buffet and to stop people hanging around hungry while photographer took photos of me and dh we let people start buffet without us- big mistake- when we came in after our photos there was nothing left ( think caterers were a bit mean with portions) so we had no food at our own wedding!

I wish I hadn't caved to pressure from my mum and invited all my aunts and uncles that I never see / don't like and just had the small wedding I wanted in the first place!!

I wish I had worn a big white dress!

We got married in Vegas and I wore a suit (which is what I wanted to wear at the time)

But before I decided I said to people (including DH DM friends) how I wouldn't look nice in a dress and nobody disagreed

@SmidgenofaPigeon

Honestly let’s just agree to disagree about the champagne. No one died

Aye, well it might have been better to do so without being accused of having a stick up my ass etc. not a shit one

Said no to the offer of money from our in laws (they then felt they had the right to invite who they liked as they were paying for the meal/ drinks).
Eloped.
I absolutely love being married and did have a lovely wedding day but my god the build up and planning was dreadful and totally not worth it for one day. I don’t know how/ why people do it to themselves.

[quote MaBroon21]@SmidgenofaPigeon

If I were you I’d ignore the posters who are looking for a fight. Just let them get on with taking out there misery somewhere else.[/quote]
Differing opinions doesn't mean looking for a fight.

Turned up.....( first wedding anyway!)

I wish I'd looked in the mirror before the photographer started.

I wish I'd known exactly what the food would be.

Wish I hadn't invited my in-laws..

I wish I had sat down in my wedding dress when I was shopping for one. When I was standing up it looked lovely, when I sat down the boning sort of pushed my boobs up and forward so it really did give everyone an eyeful! I can't look at the photos of me signing the register without blushing in embarrassment now.
Other than that we kept it very very simple and spent all our money on the best food, drink and wedding photography we could afford. We figured nobody else cares about flower garlands etc. Wouldn't change another thing.

Had more of our friends and fewer of my parents' invited. They were paying off hospitality...

Spent quite so much
Spent quite so much time worrying how it suited everyone else.
Left early because it was expected.
Invited people I didn’t even know because my parents and his wanted them.
Served the cake rather than pudding. That darn thing is still turning to stone in my loft.
I’ve been married 37 years and I’d marry him again, that’s the important thing.

I didn’t want a wedding but had one. I wish I stuck to my guns and had just a registry service and meal with about 10 of our closest family and friends. I live on the other side of the world to my friends and family so it was an even for them, not my husband and I. I still regret the wedding even after 12 years. All that money we could have saved!

I was really really hungover on my wedding day. Terrible choices I used to make.

Sorry I know that’s not what you want from the this thread. Ignore me I’m clearly still bitter about a lot of things

I have one photo of just me and my Dad. An amateur one of me and him walking in. I treasure it but wish I had more. I didn't have a professional photographer or any other expensive stuff like cars and flowers but now he's no longer here it's one thing I wish I had more of. I never thought I'd feel like this, I have my life in photos with him.

Spent less and had the smaller, more informal wedding we wanted, rather than being talked into a grand country hotel do with all our parents friends invited. I didn't enjoy the day very much and dont look back on it with any fondness. I didn't even get to choose the food as my mum chose as she was paying for the venue.

The planning consumed us for well over a year and I cringe about how much time we spent and how much we talked about it with friends and family.

In the end the venue was too big for the number of guests, and my dress chain too long so I had to sit out much of the dancing.

The small personal details matter the most. I loved my homemade centrepieces and the flowers we bought from Tesco to decorate the hall where we had our ceremony and the playlist my husband made the day. The rest of the day was pretty forgettable bog standard hotel wedding

I wish I had the guts to not invite people I didn’t really want!

I wish we hadn't gone down the traditional route and got married in a church with a reception afterwards. Neither dh or I are religious but my bloody mil managed to wear us down about having a religious ceremony.
I wish that we hadn't listened to anyone else and had the wedding we wanted, just the 2 of us on a holiday/honeymoon.
I wish that we hadn't arranged our honeymoon for the next day which meant that we had to get up at 4.30 on the day after our wedding.

Having said that we're still married 20 years later so I guess the wedding isn't that important in the grand scheme of things!

I’m getting married in a few weeks and I think the only thing I will regret is that Covid is preventing my sister and her family from attending from overseas. I’m not having a bridesmaid, but my sister would have been, had she been able to come.

Glad we didn't have an evening do, got married where I grew up and had about 50 guests. As the day went on those with children, or had had enough retreated home/ to their rooms and the rest of us sat outside having a lovely time with no music, no desire to dance, no pressure to make sure people were enjoying themselves (but everyone seemed to have a good time).
We did do it our way, a civil ceremony and a church blessing, lots of cheaper flowers rather than a few expensive ones, no best man, no hen....