What do you wish you had/hadn't done at your wedding?

[awkwardusername]

Right down to the tiny details!

I wish I’d thought to offer tea and coffee along with cold drinks for the post ceremony drinks & nibbles. My relatives spied a tea van (we were in a public place) and descended on it with glee. We could probably have saved a fortune on Prosecco if we’d just given everyone a cuppa.

Agree with tea and coffee

More food, more nibbles for the in between bit

I wish I had recorded the speeches.

Sorry, posted too soon!

Also wish we'd paid for a professional videographer - we tried to save money by getting a friend to do it but the result was just awful and pretty unwatchable. I can't say that I'd watch it much, but it would be nice to have video of the day, especially for those who are no longer with us.

We did spend a lot on a photographer though so have great photos and don't regret that one bit.

Married him

Said on the evening invites that there’d be a buffet. All the day guests were too full, and a lot of the evening guests had eaten beforehand incase. It was only allowed to be out for two hours and it was gutting to see so much wasted 😭

You got in first Slavetoawhippet

Chosen a better husband!

Listened to my parents. It wasn't their wedding.

@UserAtLarge do you mean you wish you hadn't listened to them, or that you had?

I second videoing the speeches & the first dance - my son did a lovely speech & I’d love to be able to watch it again. I wouldn’t have paid a professional but wish I’d gave asked my mum or someone to video them. Other than that it was all lovely 🥰

@slavetoawhippet

Was gonna say married him too !
(We are still married though , but it's not easy at times!)
His mum made it miserable. It's never looked back on as being a happy time really.

Thrown my bouquet (I forgot) and eaten more (I was so caught up in the day I hardly ate and completely missed the evening buffet!)

Everything else was perfect.

More food and quicker. The wait for the guests was ridiculous and people were grumpy.

Not mine but others - sorry but booking your wedding on a Thursday 4 hours away is just annoying - sure I'll change my entire summer holiday plans for your wedding.

Also done the rounds properly after the meal and said hello to everyone. You get pretty swept up and I thought I’d get to chat to everyone and thank them for coming so I didn’t want to make a big deal of going round formally but I should have done. There’s not much time in the day to get to everyone.

DH and I had two bottles of our absolute favourite and very pricey champagne that was just for us. Everyone else was well furnished with Prosecco and wine. It was just our treat kind of thing. But when we went out for photos, it got put in the general lot and we never got to drink it. I wish we’d have told someone so they could have kept it back for us!

Not listened to my mum when she said she had ‘plenty’ of dried flower petals for confetti and I shouldn’t get anymore. On the photo there’s about three rose petals in the air 😂

Attended

@UserAtLarge

Listened to my parents. It wasn't their wedding.

Not listened to them. They made a big song and dance how certain stuff was really important to them, and I felt I had to compromise what to give them some of what they wanted.

Really annoyingly, my dad insisted that it was very important to him that his brother (my uncle) attended and it would be extremely distressing for him not to see me getting married. We'd otherwise been going for really small - immediate family and very close friends only. Ended up inviting the uncle and his family and felt we had to invite other people on DH's side so not to cause offense. Uncle then turned up 3 hours late and missed seeing me get married anyway.

Wish Had not had: flowers in dressing room. Wasted.

Wish had... eaten more at the reception. So much lovely food I barely tasted.

@slavetoawhippet

Married him

This.

I wish I'd eloped.
Both our families ruined it with petty squabbles.

Wish it had been less formal. Not really my style. If I go again it'll be a hog roast and barrels of cider affair

I don't regret marrying him as I could never regret my dc, and it was a lovely weekend but now divorced!

But yes, eaten more, didn't even get any of the hog roast, and just left overs from the buffet.

Our photographer was useless, bad photos and the colours aren't even right - grey dresses ended up looking navy luckily a guest was an amateur photographer and took loads which ended up being loads better but £500 down the drain!

Loved doing the reception in the garden at home with lots of input from friends and family in particular the informality of the above ^
But -
Wish I'd worn a veil.
Wish I'd had more input in the standard register office ceremony (we could have, but didn't bother - that was a mistake).
Wish had got a good photo of me and DH with my grandparents who both died soon afterwards.
Wish the photographer had stayed longer into the evening; she left when we all sat down to eat.