What do you wish you had/hadn't done at your wedding?

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Right down to the tiny details!

[quote SmidgenofaPigeon]@OSullivans good! Nothing wrong with it in the slightest![/quote]
The only thing wrong with it is that - I know from experience - it’s much nicer drunk slowly in bed on honeymoon!

Paid more for a photographer ours was DH mate who although a professional and paid was pretty useless!

Not bothered with an old classic car for arriving at the church complete waste of money and wasn't very comfortable!

Arranged a silent disco for after the band finished (all music had to be off by 10pm)

@Blossomtoes luckily we had lovely gifted champagne for that!

DH and I had two bottles of our absolute favourite and very pricey champagne that was just for us. Everyone else was well furnished with Prosecco and wine I’m so by this one. Such poor form. Just save your luxury champers for your honeymoon when it’s just the two of you!!!

I would do a much more casual party if I did my wedding again - bbq, barn, outdoors. But I think maybe I’ve just changed/mellowed over the years and I was more keen to do stuff with more glitz and glamour when I was younger.

Said I do 😂😂

My wedding was pretty perfect. Didn’t spend huge amounts. Kept it very personal. Focused on the guests with lots of food, warm drinks, no long waiting around for them whilst we spent hours getting photographs, kept things moving, booked food that was a little quirky but not way out.
Worst weddings I’ve been too were those were outward appearances were everything, venues miles from anywhere ( including where the B&G lived) those where B&G disappeared for lengthy formal photo shoots, poems in invitations with demands for money, Oh and two or three day wedding weekends with pre/post drink parties/dinners/barbecues are the stuff of nightmares but if it’s family, people feel obligated to attend.

I wish I hadn't been so anxious - I couldn't sleep at all the night before and spent most of it crying. I am still married 33 years later so it isn't that it was marrying the wrong man. I think it was because my Dad left when I was a child which made me very insecure and full of anxieties about relationships etc

A pre nup. I wouldn't have my kids if it wasn't for my xh so can't change that.

@RealhousewifeofStoke - spot on.

Nothing... my wedding was last Saturday and I couldn't have wished for a better day. Perfect wether, and no restrictions! I'd have probably booked an extra night in the hotel we were staying at though as it was gorgeous.

We also had an extra night at the hotel after the wedding night and that was so worth it. We were shattered and didn’t have to worry about packing up going anywhere. Could open all our cards and presents too.

Thought a bit harder about my hair and make up. Didn’t want to be a Bridezilla and thought it didn’t matter. But looking at the photos it did.
Spent a bit more on a photographer and got them to edit and tidy them up rather than getting a memory stick with about 900 photos on it - most of which are unusable.

Agree re the extra time at the hotel the next day and some downtime if you can.

I remember waking up at 9ish after a late finish wedding and liking out of the hotel windows to see the poor bride up and dressed loading a million flower arrangements into her car.

I suspect she’d rather have been in bed.

Wish I'd told the photographer that the "cute little girl" in the luminous orange raincoat was the daughter of someone we barely knew and that she didn't need to ruin be in every group photo however much she wanted to be

I agree with Ihopeyourcakeisshit.

How rude to get yourselves fancy champers and give your lowly guests cheaper prosecco. I'm glad they drank it

the get away car...from the house to the church and church to reception venue...it was suppose to be a beautiful vintage rolls royce but we were married in december(weather issues) and unbeknown to me a white caddy with leopard print interior picked me up, it felt like a bad mafia movie.
the photographer should have been chosen more carefully the style of his photo's were weird...just plain weird.

a white caddy with leopard print interior picked me up

I’d have loved that.

I wish I hadn't gGot to the end.

My life would have been so much better if I'd never married the abusive fucker.

Honestly let’s just agree to disagree about the champagne. No one died

@SmidgenofaPigeon

If I were you I’d ignore the posters who are looking for a fight. Just let them get on with taking out there misery somewhere else.

@slavetoawhippet

Married him

I loved our day. One if the best things we did was to get an amazing balloon modeller who entertained both kids and adults. He was brilliant and worth every penny.

I don't regret having a church wedding wedding although never really thought we would.

I don't regret not doing doing things like favours, table settings etc.

I wish the day had been longer but it was probably long enough for the guests. 2pm ceremony.....away by 10pm. (There were quite a lot of kids so we knew it wasn't going to be late).

I wish I'd taken my mum with me to the wedding dress shop - I popped in on impulse. But I think she would have pressured me to buy one.

I'm glad I made my own bouquet and saved ££££ but I wish I'd put a few.more flowers in it.

I wish I hadn't allowed my mother to have a say. All the things she thought were vital I could not have given a shit about. All because she and my Dad offered us £500 towards the reception.

And we ended up with loads of guests who were their friends (older family members) rather than any of our own, actual friends. Think person you used to call "Auntie Olive" when you were 7 because she was an ancient neighbour who occasionally babysat you. Or someone who went to school with your mother who exchanged Christmas cards with her and maybe saw her once every few years for lunch.

Didn't honestly need them at my wedding 25 years later instead of my own friends.

Set a budget for the flowers. They were beautiful but we spent too much on them.
Not bothered with champagne for the top table and stuck to cheaper fizz instead.PIL don't even drink.
Not paid for cheese and biscuits at the end of the meal. No one ate them.
We had 50 people all day and evening, no night do. I wish we'd just spent less overall and put the difference in our retirement pot.
I can count on two hands the number of people at the wedding either of us ever see anymore.