What do you wish you had/hadn't done at your wedding?

[awkwardusername]

Right down to the tiny details!

I wish i'd chosen a dress i could sit down in.

I wish i'd had my hair done professionally in a beautiful up do.

I wish we'd ordered more food (we didn't get a single bite as we were out in the grounds having photos done and the guests ate the lot!)

I wish we could have just got married just us and the kids on a nice hot beach somewhere with bare feet and flower garlands, but it was DH's first wedding (my 2nd) and he wanted his whole family there at a proper 'do', so we did).

@Zeewest

Nothing, got married in a registry office 50 years ago. 5 family members there, then off to a pub. Cost about £50. Great time had by all.

Me too. First wedding in register office, 2 mates as witnesses, went for curry afterwards (1989), went there and back on bus! Cost about £100 in total.

Second one (civil partnership - and no, I don't regret the first one but I do regret hurting him): register office with 3 mates, posh restaurant for the 5 of us for lunch afterwards. Cost about £300 in total.

Wore clothes we already owned to both. Friends took a few photos.

Run away!

I wish I had more photos taken of me and my mum and nan. I only have one, that isn't just a group photo

Married him

Wish I hadn't invited most of our families!

I wish I'd spend more time enjoying the day rather than worrying about every detail

Taken more family photos - had professional ones but they seem very staged!

*Shouldn't have married.
*Should have done my own flowers - a bouquet from Waitrose would have been nicer than the monstrosity the florist came up with (not what I'd requested at all)
*should have organised cleaners rather than having to clear up the venue ourselves the following day.
*wished xh or xfil had stopped xmil from disappearing off with her family and friends during the reception so that she could be the focus of attention. Including a couple who couldn't get there until the evening and who we only got to say hello to.

Xmil's behaviour- wearing white, pointedly ignoring the speeches, general rudeness caused a lot of talk. Many people spoke to us about how shocked they were including people who had met her on other occasions.

First wedding - I wish we’d had a smaller wedding. I didn’t know many of the guests as both sets of parents took charge. They were paying for it, so the wedding day seemed to be more for them than us.

Second wedding - we organised and paid for our own much smaller wedding. The only thing I regret is choosing a platinum wedding ring instead of white gold. I was given a platinum ring on our 10th anniversary as DH was fed up with getting my ring replated every few months!

I asked DP this once.

'Get married' was his answer. Followed by 'Because it turned out she didn't even like me that much, never mind love me, she just wanted a big wedding and nobody else had asked her before'.

*not choosing

I too, wish we had eloped. Even though we've now been married for over 30 years, I said to DH that I would love to have married in the pandemic because it would have meant few people could be there. I felt obliged to invite family members most of whom I've only seen once since and that was at my father's funeral.

Met with the photographer to agree a list of pics and talk through how much I hate getting my photo taken.

Gone to the loo when I had the chance before the ceremony.

I wish I’d only invited the people I wanted there, not the people we thought we had to invite.
I wish me and DH had ‘left’ the venue instead of hanging on until the early hours of the morning to say bye to everyone.
I wish I’d had a small simple wedding instead of it costing an f-Ing fortune.

I wish we hadn't bothered with the disco after but people have come a long way and we felt under pressure

I wish I'd relaxed more.
I'm a fairly laid back person in general and people in work commented in the week before my wedding on how "unstressed" I was.
But the day before and a lot of the day of I felt like there was a weight on me to "do it right"
I went round the tables to thank people for coming during the breaks between courses, I made sure the food for the buffet was put out, I made sure I chatted to all our older relatives and guests during the reception.
I was so worried about keeping people happy I forgot to have fun myself.
The older crowd were glad to see me during the meal but after that would have been happy to mingle with their own peers and leave me to it.
Most of the younger crowd spent the night on the dance floor. I should have too!

Not had a traditional fruit wedding cake. I hate fruit cake!

Got a better photographer. I dont know why I scrimped on this (family friend did it, he is a professional but had recently started out) as I am obsessed with pictures. I never look at them and there are none up in my house and I wish there was...

Other than that, best bloody day of my life (is that allowed when you have birthed 2 kids?!) I loved every minute and would love to live it again!

The juggling jester on stilts in hindsight turned out to be superfluous to needs.

Unpopular opinion for MN but I wished I’d spend more money on it. I wished I’d gone for the venue I really wanted, bought a fancier dress, spend more money on flowers, got a bigger cake and splurged on the band.

I’m not a show off kind of person and I though a big wedding wouldn’t at be important to me but it turns out it was.

Think it's a bit rude to have set aside expensive champagne for yourselves and give your guests the cheap stuff.

We had a small wedding only 23 of us and a bbq in our back garden. I absolutely loved our day and would do everything the same except for letting my dad, his wife, MIL, BIL and SIL all stay at our house before and after our wedding.

We had my dad and his wife fly in the Saturday before our wedding (we had a weekday wedding) and leave the Saturday after and MIL etc arrive the day before and leave the day after.

It meant we had no time to ourselves, but did actually mean we had one of my favourite parts of the day - I’d had my hair done and had a shower at mums went home to drop stuff off DH had just got out of the shower and we had 10mins alone to catch our breath and exchange cards with each other, it was so nice amongst all the chaos!

I wish I hadn't been pregnant but that was our own fault I could've got drunk and danced and gone on a honeymoon abroad then lol

I don't regret anything else really. My Nan didn't come because she goes away every year to a meet up in Devon, and she 'might not be around much longer to be able to go'.... 8 years later she's still around! I am disappointed she wasn't there though, but never mind!

@Dunlin

The juggling jester on stilts in hindsight turned out to be superfluous to needs.

aaaaaaand we HAVE a Winner!

@Ihopeyourcakeisshit where if I say it was the cheap stuff

As it was, someone else drank it anyway!