Need to get out of relationship please help?

[babyblues21]

I have a small baby and PND. Partner is making my mental health so much worse. How do I go about getting out of this? I'm so scared

I have a good job but I'm on maternity leave so my money is a lot less right now. Where do I start?

What resources can you use? Do you have family or friends you can stay with? Can you call women’s aid? Take some steps towards leaving

What will women's aid do?

Have you family or friends who can help you?

@nimbuscloud

Have you family or friends who can help you?

Not really

@babyblues21

What will women's aid do?

They will give you advice and point you in the direction of resources that you can access. Above all they will listen.

If you feel afraid do NOT hesitate to ring the police.

Or find a time to tell your HV. Slip her a note if necessary. Tell him you have something unpleasant going on in your lady parts to show the Gp or HV if he never gives you privacy. Or at the pharmacy.
I wouldn't mind betting he's been telling you that the baby will be taken off you because you're mental. This is not what will happen. There are tens of thousands of mothers with MH diagnoses parenting away, happily and safely. Congratulations on having the self preservation instincts to spot what he's doing to you and your MH when your baby is still tiny. You can do this

Women's aid can potentially provide you with a flat within a Refuge, along with anything else you may need. Even transport to & from.

I lived in one once and they were fabulous. Literal life savers

I'm having strong suicidal thoughts but every time my baby smiles at me I feel guilty for my thoughts

Do you have a joint bank account ?
Do you have your own bank account ?
Do you have family that you can go to ?
Do you have any child benefits, are they paid to you in your account ?

Do you own your home or do you rent ?
If you rent, whose name is on the agreement ?

OP, aside for leaving, have you spoken to a GP ?

@WantingToWonder

OP, aside for leaving, have you spoken to a GP ?

Been trying to call crisis team all day no one is answering

@DinosaurDiana

Do you own your home or do you rent ? If you rent, whose name is on the agreement ?

Rent privately and both names are on it

Try 111 and ask to speak to them.
If you’re really struggling with your MH and are concerned for you and your baby, 999.

@DinosaurDiana

Do you have a joint bank account ? Do you have your own bank account ? Do you have family that you can go to ? Do you have any child benefits, are they paid to you in your account ?

No joint account, have my own account and a good well paid job. Child benefit in my name.

No family sadly

Do you have parents/family, would they help you ?
Are they near to you ?

Would I be entitled to any benefits or help with nursery fees? I earn £46k

Just seen that you answered that one !

What are you scared of - your partner, your MH or leaving ?

My partner has a child from a previous marriage and I know for a fact he swindles the maintenance as well. So he would do the same to me no doubt

@DinosaurDiana

What are you scared of - your partner, your MH or leaving ?

Mostly at this moment it's my MH and suicidal thoughts. But I'm also scared of leaving and doing this alone

Can you afford to rent somewhere on your own ?
I’m assuming you’d be liable for your half of your current rent unless he agreed to take it over. How long is left on the agreement ?