How often do you think about dying?

[justcheckingreally]

NC for this as. Just to make it clear, I am not depressed, I live quite a happy, fulfilled life. Obviously have stresses that more money could fix but don't we all. I was chatting with my cousin and we were both saying that actually we wouldn't really care if we died. Obv I don't want to and possibly if it came to it I would be petrified. But in the sort of die in your sleep way. Life is super stressful, housing, work etc its a never ending story and I really wouldn't care. I sometimes think it would actually be quite peaceful. I would never ever think about hurting myself or anything and I am quite aware of the pain left behind due to personal losses but am I normal in having thoughts like this? Or am I kidding myself me and my cousin are in fact suicidal depressed women.

@claralara42 huh? What did I lie about? No sure I'm following...

I do think about it often because I have bad anxiety about things in general, but dying and leaving my kids is my worst fear. From my own point of view, I don't think I'd care that much about dying, but I don't ever want my kids to have to come to terms with the fact they'd never see me again.

@claralara42 right, you're just being rude now. Please leave if you are offended by my thread, I won't be responding to anymore of your rude comments.
If you want to have a discussion we can, you are allowed to disagree with me, just don't behave like a keyboard warrior.
I would be really impressed with myself if I was able to write all I that I have, whilst being drunk tbh.

@claralara42 Empathy. You have none. A LOT of people do not enjoy life, for whatever reason. And it is not for you to judge.

@cookiecreampie I agree with you. My brother committed suicide when I was 19 and I witnessed how it broke loved ones around me. It's truly heartbreaking.
I do think parents dying, especially from old age is much different. My grandma died at 93 and it was actually a really nice funeral where we celebrated her long life. Obv it was sad and we cried but my brother's was traumatic.

@claralara42 it's clear you don't understand depression or suicide in the slightest. People who attempt to take their lives aren't selfish, they're desperate. You need to educate yourself

This thread is actually bringing me great comfort. I am terrified of dying, but reading all the different perspectives has actually made me feel a bit better. Knowing that some people feel like me, also that other people have beautiful death stories or they are more relaxed about it. All of it helps to paint a well-rounded picture of human nature, thoughts, anxieties etc. I will probably re read when I'm feeling anxious in the future.

Quite often now that I'm a parent.
I used to be terrified of dying, in the sense that I didnt want to leave life behind as I hadn't lived enough of it.
I'd just miss "living", seeing the trees, feeling the breeze, breathing, looking at the sky and the clouds, feeling the grass and how cold leaves on a tree feel even when it's hot outside. Watching butterflys and other bugs go about their day, seeing a flower bud open.. I could go on..
And no I havent had it easy in life incase anyone thinks I must have if I think this way. Quite the opposite actually. But that's the only thing that ever got me through the hard times. Even with all the bad things that happen theres still so many incredible, beautiful things about the world that we can only experience whilst we're alive.
I think actually being alive is amazing even if theres no point in it. Even if we're all an accident, we might as well enjoy it whilst we can. No point in looking for answers, I'm just trying to take it all in whilst I still have the chance to experience it all.
I know I'm going to die one day and I'm really ok with it and not scared now, only thing I hope for is that I live long enough to see dd grow, knowing she gets to adulthood safely and can care for herself. Not really bothered about "me" now. But I'm still stopping to smell the roses on my way through it.

Thinking about this a lot at the moment. Was told last thursday that I need open heart surgery. I have a very strong feeling that I won't be coming home.

@kizzywizz goodness I'm so sorry. I'm sure you're in amazing hands. Have a good cry, it's crap but try not to let it overwhelm you. Millions of people have open heart surgery every year and do amazingly well. Technology has come so far. Sending you lots of hugs and gin

Everyday. But not in a bad way. I’m just happy that my ovarian cancer was caught very early and that my prognosis is good. But, even if it turns out not to be so good the last 8 months has made me think about death a lot and I’m at peace with the eventuality whenever it happens. Hopefully much later than sooner.

[quote justcheckingreally]@claralara42 right, you're just being rude now. Please leave if you are offended by my thread, I won't be responding to anymore of your rude comments.
If you want to have a discussion we can, you are allowed to disagree with me, just don't behave like a keyboard warrior.
I would be really impressed with myself if I was able to write all I that I have, whilst being drunk tbh.[/quote]
Oh stop it. I'm not being rude. You started a thread about a topic, and when I commented you said "nobody is talking about that" even though it was exactly the point of the thread and you were talking about exactly that. YOU were extremely rude to gaslight me and pretend otherwise.
Get some help for your obvious depression, don't be nasty to people online who only commented on what you actually said.

@incywincyspiders

I am completely opposite of most people on this thread. I CONSTANTLY worry about dying and what happens next. I've had out of body experiences and also do actually have memories from before I was born (I know no one will believe me but I do) so I actually can't believe there isn't anything after death yet I'm still terrified 🤣

I'm also terrified of other people dying as I just don't understand how people are here one second and gone the next. When you look at dead bodies you just know that the person is no longer in there - they look completely different.

I'd love to hear your pre birth memories, if you don't mind sharing? claralara42 I agree with PP, this thread doesn't sound like it's the right one for you. People have been sharing their opinions in a nice way, you simply come across quite aggressive. Of course you are welcome to stay and debate, but perhaps take your foot off the pedal a bit?

Rarely. I worry more about something happening to my husband (he's a very healthy 33 year old) but again this is rare.

I thinking about dying fairly regularly, likely because I work in a role where I encounter death on a fairly regular basis
I’m very comfortable talking and listening around death too.

Every bad day
It’s me personal red flag 🚩

I feel the complete opposite, I genuinely love being alive. I love life... I love even boring things like chilling out and watch tv or reading a book, I love love love being around for my kids. I'm terrified of dying and leaving my kids without me and I just don't want life to end... I really love being alive.

I don't think about it often at all, except on the few occasions I've had some kind of potentially worrying symptom (which has subsequently turned out to be nothing bad). Even then, I'm only really scared by the pain, illness and process of dying. I'm not remotely scared by the idea of being dead. I'm an atheist and believe that when you die, that's it, there's nothing afterwards.

I had some pretty bad psychiatric problems for a lot of my 20s and feel like I missed out on a lot of time because of it. In the last couple of years I've unexpectedly got a lot better and have been thinking about all the things I could do with my 'new' life, some of which I'd never even have considered possible before. The possibility that I might die young before I get the chance to try any of them crosses my mind several times a day - it's not that I fear death itself, so much as I do dying before I get to make something of what feels like a second chance. But it's not an intrusive thought that really bothers me, just something that occurs to me momentarily and then goes away. It's quite a good reminder to get on with all the things I want to do now, and not take it for granted that I'll have time 'one day' - kind of like how it's easier to motivate yourself to work on a project when you know you have a deadline coming up!

Thinking about dying has ruined my whole life! I won't go in a car in case it crashes, I won't go on a plane, I hardly leave my house as it's my "safe zone"
The fear of death has completely taken over my living years

[quote justcheckingreally]@LostThings I don't know if you're religious or belibe in the Bible, but if it makes you feel any better, the idea of hell is a false doctrine that doesn't actually exist in the Bible so don't worry about that 😉.[/quote]
But a hell-like place is referred to several times in the Gospels. The parable of Lazarus and the rich man, for example.

This series from a Prof at the Uni of Toronto about the Meaning Crisis is pretty good - why there is a mental health crisis and lots of nihilism. Good thought-provoking stuff.