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To ask how much child maintenance you receive.

309 replies

Sailingthroughtheweek · 02/07/2021 12:07

I’m wondering where DC and I fit on the spectrum, just out of interest.

I receive £300 per month for one DC.
He lives 100 miles away and does no childcare at all, so that pays for breakfast/ after school clubs, holiday clubs and a bit towards her hobbies.

I’m very, very glad to be in my current position and not still married, so I’m not moaning at all, and also, I earn more than him so I don’t need more, but a £300 contribution to our DC seems low.

OP posts:
MorriseysGladioli · 02/07/2021 18:31

I consider that anything anyone gets is 100 percent more than I do.
I hadn't given it much thought before this thread, though.

Getawaywithit · 02/07/2021 18:32

So now imagine how it affects someone who has no child maintenance at all!

Well I get no maintenance and never have and I couldn’t care less that some people get huge amounts and are still able to claim benefits. That’s the system. It stops NRPs being able to toatally abuse their ex partners financially. It means children get fed and a parent can count on a minimum income. What would you rather? That there are women out there missing meals so they can feed their children?

lovelybitofsquirrell · 02/07/2021 18:33

Under
15£ per week. 2 kids.

He earns over 70k per year, but it self employed and declares hardly any earnings. He went self employed when I put in a cms claim.

BewareTheBeardedDragon · 02/07/2021 19:22

I get £1 per day for 4 dc, so 25p per day, per child. He tells the dc that he gives me money, he has given them the impression (deliberately) that he gives me considerable amounts of money regularly. They regularly tell me how rich and generous he is, and I grit my teeth and smile and say nothing. 😬🤬😬

SavageBeauty73 · 02/07/2021 19:24

Zero.

chickenyhead · 02/07/2021 19:26

Zero. 3 kids.

He took redundancy when we split. Gambled it. Doesn't work.

SpaceRaiders · 02/07/2021 20:14

He tells the dc that he gives me money, he has given them the impression (deliberately) that he gives me considerable amounts of money regularly.

Ha! Same here.

I get £18 per day, 2 dc. He went self employed shortly after divorce. His last paye salary was 150k plus benefits, go figure!

Bouledeneige · 02/07/2021 20:24

I got 10% of his income per child - I had two. Based on them living with me the majority of the time. That really depended on him being honest about what he was earning about bee the years. I'm not sure whether he was.

CatFaceCats · 02/07/2021 20:41

I get £1000 per month, he is a high earner.
Sees them every other weekend, is having them for 2 weeks in the holidays and will split other school hols with me.
But also we live 5 mins apart and kids quite often pop in to see him whenever they want.
We generally split big purchases (discuss it first, I wouldn’t just buy an iPad and expect him to pay half)
It’s all very amicable.

Zorinindustries · 02/07/2021 20:41

Zero.

Zorinindustries · 02/07/2021 20:41

But he does see them 5 days a week

Acappuchinoplease · 02/07/2021 20:42

I get £250 for 3 dcs

Fullofglee · 02/07/2021 20:43

140 one dc I think you get alot for 1 child.

Theworldisquiethere · 02/07/2021 20:45

1 child. Most he’s ever paid is £90/month. Least he’s paid while still paying is £30/month. Currently nothing at all though

feelingdizzy · 02/07/2021 20:48

He was supposed to pay £400 he didn't paid sporadically and then left the country ,under paid then nothing for years.Then he died and the ultimate irony (for the sake of the kids) I paid for his funeral !!

TheCanyon · 02/07/2021 20:48

£300 a month for 1dc, he works on the rigs and will only see her a couple of his off weekends. Paid fuck all til I met dh and cock swinging came into play. I've no idea what he earns, i guess a fair amount, always pleading poverty though shat himself and backed off big time when I said I'd claim through cms instead.

SummerWillow · 02/07/2021 20:50

My DC are adults now, but their Dad never paid me maintenance as he was either unemployed, a student or self- employed and not earning enough! Only since their adulthood has he got a well paid job 🤷‍♀️

blahblahblah321 · 02/07/2021 20:59

@TheCanyon

£300 a month for 1dc, he works on the rigs and will only see her a couple of his off weekends. Paid fuck all til I met dh and cock swinging came into play. I've no idea what he earns, i guess a fair amount, always pleading poverty though shat himself and backed off big time when I said I'd claim through cms instead.
Weirdly my ex was the opposite, he became much more relaxed (aka not so bothered!) about paying when I moved in with DH. I always found it strange, there's no way I'd want someone else financially bringing up my child?! He has taken full advantage though Confused
FrankieDettol · 02/07/2021 21:05

I get nothing

Getyourarseofffthequattro · 02/07/2021 21:09

@jimmyjammy001

It all comes down to how much your ex-dp earns, if you've chosen to have children with some dead beat that is work shy and is on minimum wage then you aren't going to get anything, if on the other hand you've chosen to have kids with someone who has got their shit together I.e a good career, house, savings, pension etc then you will get more online with their earnings
Wow, that's unfair. Would you call a woman on minimum wage a deadbeat or work shy? Bet you bloody wouldn't. Someone has to do the minimum wage jobs and often they're a damn site harder than higher paid roles!
MorriseysGladioli · 02/07/2021 21:50

Workshy and minimum wage don't necessarily go hand in hand.
I'm on little more than minimum wage, and I work damn hard.
Much harder than when I sat on my arse all day as a civil servant.

chickenyhead · 02/07/2021 21:51

@MorriseysGladioli

Workshy and minimum wage don't necessarily go hand in hand. I'm on little more than minimum wage, and I work damn hard. Much harder than when I sat on my arse all day as a civil servant.
I work my arse off as a civil servant.

It swings both ways, judging people.

MorriseysGladioli · 02/07/2021 21:52
Grin Doesn't it just? Either way, it's unpleasant and unnecessary.
Getawaywithit · 02/07/2021 23:42

It all comes down to how much your ex-dp earns, if you've chosen to have children with some dead beat that is work shy and is on minimum wage then you aren't going to get anything, if on the other hand you've chosen to have kids with someone who has got their shit together I.e a good career, house, savings, pension etc then you will get more online with their earnings

Utter bollox. Like many being cited here, my ex is a high earner with a successful business he controls. Accountant advising him. He’s never paid a penny but he has purchased plenty of property abroad, is mortgage free and drives a Porsche.

blahblahblah321 · 02/07/2021 23:51

@Getawaywithit

It all comes down to how much your ex-dp earns, if you've chosen to have children with some dead beat that is work shy and is on minimum wage then you aren't going to get anything, if on the other hand you've chosen to have kids with someone who has got their shit together I.e a good career, house, savings, pension etc then you will get more online with their earnings

Utter bollox. Like many being cited here, my ex is a high earner with a successful business he controls. Accountant advising him. He’s never paid a penny but he has purchased plenty of property abroad, is mortgage free and drives a Porsche.

You missed a bit @Getawaywithit ..

And a knobhead.

How can someone live that sort of lifestyle and not pay for their own children? The mind boggles Angry

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