I have a couple of relatives who always ask for gift ideas for birthdays, Christmas etc. They ask me directly what I would like and they also ask for ideas for my parents and siblings. I've heard one of them say before 'it's best to give me an idea or you'll end up with bits of tat you don't need' - which happens on some occasions, think little trinket-type things that just clutter up your house. They sometimes ask for cash for themselves for presents.
I'm getting married and am being asked by each of them if we have a gift list. We don't have a list as we've been living together for years anyway and more or less have everything we need. We have told them this and they have said, well let us know or else we'll get you a kettle.
AIBU to think that the point of a gift is that you choose it thoughtfully with the recipient in mind? This is how I buy gifts. I think it's more or less pointless to give specific ideas for example, here's a book I've been wanting to read, you can just pay for it for me, or buying someone something because you feel obliged to but without putting any thought into it, i.e. a kettle which of course we have already...for a wedding gift a nice piece of serveware, or a special tablecloth would seem like good and obvious choices to me if there was nothing else indicated...AIBU to think this is too much to expect or should I be sending out links to John Lewis website?