Worst thing you have broken via rage?

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i broke my TV once via rage

😫 a plastic kids toilet step. I threw it into the corner of the kitchen, my DS was being a pain using it to climb up to try to get the knives off the side. He wanted to chop things. I took it away and and threw it across the room. It smashed and it was quite an expensive one. Still feel bad about loosing it in and haven't managed to replace it.

I've also thrown my phone at the wall when I was starting to sort out an insurance issue and my DS was trying to press on the screen. I broke the screen, so wasn't my best idea.

My Dad did this type of thing a lot and I try not to but I guess it's a learned behaviour. Trying to break the cycle, it's hard. Kids are restless and don't understand when they are young.

I had an ex at uni who turned into a stalker after we split up. After the student hall bar closed he would frequently come to my room and angrily knock on my door. It was awful. I used to let him in as he was making such a noise that I didn't want to disturb the other people on my corridor. One time I couldn't face him so didn't open the door and he put a fist through the hall window.

I was so angry and upset that I threw a bunch of keys at my wall which damaged some precious photos. I am really not one for angry outbursts but was driven to it and I was the only one to suffer.

Stalking by ex stopped when I confided in a mutual male friend who clearly had a word.

@PokerFaceGrace

Gee, typical MN response to my post I see!

Meanwhile in the real world, raising 4DC (3 teens at the same time), in this particular era, who are/were all addicted to screens/gaming/Social Media to the detriment of everything else including sleep and schoolwork despite constant warnings, plots can be lost!

They were all warned and I followed through. The two PlayStations were different DC some years apart due to loud swearing at it because they were losing games, getting up in the night to sneak on it. The first one was two older DC fighting over it so after many, many warnings out of the window it went! At least they have learnt cause and effect.

IIRC one phone was thrown out of a car window, after she was out hours after our agreed time to be home (late at night) with no text to explain and no response to my texts or calls so I was driving the streets looking for her, very concerned. She finally responded and asked to be picked up so when she got in the car, phone was removed and thrown seeing as she couldn’t be bothered to use it for its purpose which was to keep in contact! There were lots of warnings before that but the throwing out of the window was spur of the moment!

A different DC’s phone was smashed with a hammer after he missed an exam (GCSE!) due to being up all night on it, and hadn’t studied for it either!

Another one refused to hand phone over to be confiscated for lack of homework (phone call from school, not the first either) so I grabbed it, it fell on the floor then I stamped on it with boots on.

Best one was DC2 using my debit card for in game purchases, without permission. Phone went across the room.

They’ve turned out perfectly fine and we laugh about it now.

I know a few parents like this who insist it is all hilarious to everyone now. Not one of the children found it funny once they were old enough and psychologically ready enough to process it (and that latter can take a while). They laughed because they were effectively told to and it helped to avoid having to confront the effect it really had on them, but they never truly found it funny to have their possessions destroyed by an enraged, out of control parent. Why would they?

I feel sick reading this. It's a litany of abuse.

Thanks for giving me the first laugh of the day @EarringsandLipstick. Hysterical drama llamas like you who throw the word ‘abuse’ around willy nilly make me sick too.

@DrSbaitso

psychologically ready enough to process it

Good god . People really are pathetic these days.

@PokerFaceGrace

Hysterical drama llamas

It figures you'd say that - a way to ignore the valid points I made.

You've written about repeatedly, deliberately breaking your DC's devices. Once with a hammer. Because he failed to study for an exam, stayed up & missed it.

In fact, you should have been acting like a parent, removing the device ahead of time, and ensuring he slept.

What did you do on the morning of the exam? Just let him sleep in?

Your actions were 💯 abusive & appalling to read. (If true).

@PokerFaceGrace

Did you not feel completely ridiculous when after breaking the devices you rocked up with replacements, that presumably you paid for? Hardly a great life lesson for them.

@PokerFaceGrace your actions towards your kids were unstable, aggressive and damaging. I would have been very frightened living with a parent like you.
They probably laugh now with you because they know that disagreeing with you would lead to you losing your temper.

I think it's a bit ridiculous to smash up something that you've paid good money for to teach teens a lesson. You're just losing out yourself as well. Surely just sell it on?

[quote PokerFaceGrace]**@DrSbaitso

psychologically ready enough to process it

Good god . People really are pathetic these days.[/quote]
So pathetic that they can't face the fact that parents repeatedly breaking their children's possessions in a rage will take some time to handle?

I bet you still wonder why your kids were so difficult. OK for me to smash up your phone?

I'm sure any abusive men wanting justification for their actions, can just lurk on this thread for evidence we have it coming.

Seriously, some of these are lucky they didn't Seriously injure anyone. Most aren't, but a few are.

I throw stuff all the time. Bipolar rages are all consuming and especially now I’m pregnant it’s ramped up. Never at anyone and usually not in anyone’s presence.

Oooh yes. Mine has got to be a laptop. I broke it after a furious row with dh on the phone.

We were absolutely skint, had so many money worries and the laptop was a work one of dhs which we had to pay for to replace.

Dd1 was then about 1. I only realised she was watching in terror halfway through. Not my proudest moment but we were dealing with (or clearly not dealing with) a lot of shit at the time. It was the first time I'd broken something and unfortunately it set a horrible kind of precedent in our relationship for the next so many years.

Wow, PokerFaceGrace
Calling people pathetic, hysterical drama llamas when they are rightly shocked by your post...
You are/were abusive. You don't see it, but everyone else can. Including your laughing children who will not be unaffected by your behaviour,

@cakewitch I threw a plate of spaghetti bolognaise at the ceiling once in a terrible rage

Cloudy with a chance of meatballs

I was affected very badly by PMS and violent mood swings related to my menstrual cycle and ever since I was a teenager would fly into violent rages and break things regularly.

The worst instance was about 12 years ago. My cramps were so bad, I had to leave work and go home but I had a really important task to complete with an immovable deadline so I continued working from home. I was already in paid, in a foul mood and then my laptop crashed, losing about 3 hours of really intense and complex budgetary work (of course I hadn't saved as I went along). I had just gotten myself a large glass of water when this happened and without thinking I threw the glass at the laptop. Glass shattered, laptop screen shattered, water everywhere. I then crawled under the desk, curled up and cried solidly for over an hour before tackling the clean up.

It was the wake up call I needed though. Made a GP appointment the next day and started the journey of dealing with my periods. I am a different person now.