Worst thing you have broken via rage?

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i broke my TV once via rage

I once threw the Christmas tree at my ex. He was covered in tinsel and bits of decoration. That was quite satisfying.

@AmIPeriOrAreYouJustAnnoying

Smug? Much? *@Waxonwaxoff0* You sound repressed to me.

That didn't really read as smug to me, to be honest. I'm in the never camp too, yes I get angry sometimes, but really not often, and I can't remember a time I was ever raging with fury. I think if I do get angry I'm more likely to let the energy escape by bursting into tears. I'm not claiming it's a virtue, it's just that some people don't get angry in the same way that some others do. I think one of the reasons for me is that I spend a lot of my working life calming down and playing very very angry people, so maybe I've internalised some of that...

Placating not playing, gah.

I punched my computer keyboard once and smashed it when our rival football team scored a winning goal in the final seconds of injury time.

I also smashed a landline phone in frustration at my XH.

Both of these incidents were many years ago and I try to control my temper nowadays.

A mug handle on a mug my kids has made, still feel horribly guilty.

It was after standing holding their bedtime drinks for around 40 hours repeating “bedtime” as they danced around me completely ignoring me. I just let go dramatically and yelled “I fucking GIVE UP”. Not my proudest moment and a reminder not to lose my shit.

Kitchen drawer. DS was a newborn, DD was about 4, they'd both been up all night (DD because of bad dreams, she was usually an excellent sleeper) and I was trying to sort breakfast out. DD wouldn't stop whinging, DS screamed blue murder whenever I put him down, and I just lost it and slammed the drawer so hard that the front part came off.

DH had just gone back to work (he left at 7am), so I was in the early stages of learning to cope with both of them on my own. I sobbed and sobbed afterwards, annoyed at myself for breaking the drawer. DH did fix it when he got home but whenever I use it I remember that morning. Unfortunately it's the cutlery drawer so we're talking daily use! It's still a bit wonky but you wouldn't know unless you know.

DC are 7&3 and I can make breakfast without incident, now.

Toaster 😬

I threw my wedding ring at my XH. It sailed past him and over the balcony and I never saw it again.

I don't miss the ring and I certainly don't miss him.

I’ve never broken anything in rage I thought it was something that only happened in films!

@OverTheRubicon

As someone who has been in an abusive relationship, some of these are pretty chilling, especially when it's not a one off and the things broken are not your own.

We all lose our temper sometimes. But when you break something when you're angry with someone, it is sending a really clear message that 'this is what I'd like to do to you'. And yes, the Relationships board is quite quick to call abuse, but actually Women's Aid and Relate would classify breaking shared or other people's property as abusive behaviour too.

I agree with this. This looks and feels like a thread of women proudly listing occasions they’ve smashed things in temper, or actually assaulted their partner.

Smashing things in temper isn’t funny.

Some terrifying replies here and some funny ones.

I have on a few occasions felt angry enough to, but have never carried anything through.

The thought of having to clean it up and replace things as well as the knowledge that I would be out of control of my own behaviour (which I find scary) has always stopped me. I can't get quite mardy though.

My own heart.

The kitchen cupboard door. It was s bad day and the kid wouldn't behave and I slammed the door shut and it felt so good I did it again and again until I actually managed to pul the hinge off on the inside. Obviously not great but it released the anger and frustration and no one got hurt

My parents’ glass kitchen door when I was 6.
My sister had stolen my comic and was reading it on the other side of the door, which she was holding shut while taunting me through the glass.
I kicked the door in a fury, shattering it completely. We hastily concocted a lie to tell the parents when they got home from work…

@ARoseDowntown

Interesting. I live with someone who has occasionally broken things in a rage. I find it baffling. Do you feel better afterwards? A bit sheepish? Catharsis? So odd to me, to take anger out on inanimate objects. Surely it’s better to bottle it up, think up a devious and evil plan, and take it out constructively on the person or situation that made you angry???

Better an object than someone's head

But when you break something when you're angry with someone, it is sending a really clear message that 'this is what I'd like to do to you'.

Absolutely & I don't give a FF as I think it's the perfect reaction to a DP pinning me against a wall by my throat & threatening to pummel my face in I kneed him in the balls first too before grabbing the bat to protect myself & smash his picture frames & would do it again in a heartbeat if any man ever dared to lift a finger at me. Not in the least bit ashamed of fighting back & I'm not a violent person at all, but we all have a fuse

This is cathartic, lost my rag with teen yesterday though didn't break anything.

Worst thing when I was with my ex husband was a plate,
with food on it. Threw it at the wall.

Soon realised if I did this again not only did it not change anything, but in losing my own dinner I ended up with another problem as well as my ex. Being hungry.

So I never did it again.

The wall, my husband's expensive laptop, and his computer monitor.

@ShinyMe - I'm like that too. I've never, that I can think of, broken anything in a rage. If I get really really angry I cry. It is the most useless physical response to anger ever and usually the person you are raging at goes all ...."ooohh you are upset" No you fuckwit I'm not upset I'm really fucking angry.

Nothing I don't think?

A kicked a hole in a wall

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Does 'wind' count - immediately after 'snapping'?

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My own glasses. I was so frustrated I kind of scrunched them into a ball in my hand hulk style. I regretted it immediately. In my defence it was that or seriously lose my shit with my 2 yo twins who just would. Not. Stay. In. Bed. And. Go. To. Sleep 😱😱😭

Smashed up a perfectly good pair of straighteners after my youngest dog died. I'd always accidentally turn them off all the time because the button was in an awkward place. It was annoying but I'd never lost it like that so I can only conclude it was my feelings for him suddenly bulging out. Felt weirdly guilty after as if I'd hurt them somehow? Grief is a strange thing.

I broke my sisters hairbrush in rage when I was a child, maybe about 8 or 9? She is 2 years younger.

We had different hairbrushes for our hair types. She was taunting me that she had fine hair because she was "fine" and I had thick hair because I was "thick". I threw her precious hairbrush on the floor and the handle broke off. My mum was a smacker and I was terrified she'd find out. Sister agreed not to tell her I'd thrown it (we said I'd dropped it accidentally) but whenever she wanted her own way she'd threaten to tell the awful truth.