Worst thing you have broken via rage?

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i broke my TV once via rage

Record player drunk angst aged about 25

When ds was about 2 months old, I was alone with him as exh was at work. Ds had been screaming for about 3 hours, nothing was working. Looking back, it was probably silent reflux but I was a first time mum and I had pnd and I was driven to distraction. I had a cup of tea, which I'd made a couple of hours prior with the vain intention of drinking, obviously that hadn't happened. In a fit of rage and desperation, I hurled the full mug of cold tea at the wall. It shattered everywhere, my sofa was covered in broken china and tea and I just sat holding screaming ds and sobbing because I now had a screaming baby, and a load of tea and china to clean up!! That was a real low point...

In terms of breaking something bad, a relative bought me a bowl for Xmas and I broke it literally half hour later. That was terrible!

Threw a large bag of flaked almonds across the kitchen in frustration over a cooking failure. The bag opened in transit and snowed over my COVID food hoard of tins and pasta. Still find slivers in corners, which tells you a lot about my housekeeping.

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll

Does 'wind' count - immediately after 'snapping'?

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My exBF's tablet screen. I threw it at him because I discovered that he'd been looking at hook-up websites on it. I was so not sorry.

Just remembered another one. I threw a large tub of moisturising cream at my exH in a rage. He ducked and it hit the wall behind him,smashed open and went all over wall and onto the carpet underneath. Not so much terribly expensive as terribly messy.

Funnily enough the two that stand out, my sister was involved on both occasions.

She locked me out of our caravan (we were living in it at the time whilst my dad built the house)... I needed in, she wouldn't let me, I was kicking the door and smashed the glass pane.

15 years later, i was again living in a caravan, this time on mothers drive (she'd turned a three bed house into a two bed house and then invited my sister to live with us...). I needed to get in the house to shower and get my stuff to go to a job interview.

She'd locked me out and left the keys in the back of the door so I couldn't get in. She refused to get up and open the door. I banged on her bedroom window repeatedly, escalating from fists to a plastic broom........ and eventually smashed the window!

Needless to say, did not go to job interview - however when sister told mother 'ooh shes so evil she smashed the window in', mother did actually ask her 'and why couldn't she get in the house'... and so it wasn't me that paid for the window!

@CheeseIsATypeOfMeat I'm only bitter about people throwing stuff in a rage because I watched windows get smashed and odd things from around the house get smashed up when I was a teenager by my "parents" it was scary and just awful to witness. It also made me realise that I'd hate to act like that. Which I'm sure most people on here would agree. Would you smash up your computer screen at work? Or drop a TV from a balcony or throw plates at your boss? It's just so horrible.

Fully agree. And it's not about being smug or not allowing people their feelings, it's about an 8 page thread where a large proportion of people are sharing stories of abusive behaviour - breaking someone else's things or shared things, throwing large items at someone or smashing them in their presence, usually with a non-violent 'provocation' - and people who disagree are called smug or not supportive of women.

Either you truly have no control over your anger - in which case you'll presumably be often in trouble at work, or with friends and endangering your own children and need professional support immediately - or you can control it, in which case the smashing is a choice and not at all ok.

It's awful to live in a house where items hold memories of the time someone else broke them to prove a point, and you can never be 100% certain that this time the plate won't hit you, by accident or maybe not.

I'm sure it must be.
I didn't have children, though.

Gee, typical MN response to my post I see!

Meanwhile in the real world, raising 4DC (3 teens at the same time), in this particular era, who are/were all addicted to screens/gaming/Social Media to the detriment of everything else including sleep and schoolwork despite constant warnings, plots can be lost!

They were all warned and I followed through. The two PlayStations were different DC some years apart due to loud swearing at it because they were losing games, getting up in the night to sneak on it. The first one was two older DC fighting over it so after many, many warnings out of the window it went! At least they have learnt cause and effect.

IIRC one phone was thrown out of a car window, after she was out hours after our agreed time to be home (late at night) with no text to explain and no response to my texts or calls so I was driving the streets looking for her, very concerned. She finally responded and asked to be picked up so when she got in the car, phone was removed and thrown seeing as she couldn’t be bothered to use it for its purpose which was to keep in contact! There were lots of warnings before that but the throwing out of the window was spur of the moment!

A different DC’s phone was smashed with a hammer after he missed an exam (GCSE!) due to being up all night on it, and hadn’t studied for it either!

Another one refused to hand phone over to be confiscated for lack of homework (phone call from school, not the first either) so I grabbed it, it fell on the floor then I stamped on it with boots on.

Best one was DC2 using my debit card for in game purchases, without permission. Phone went across the room.

They’ve turned out perfectly fine and we laugh about it now.

About 30 years ago I broke my (ex) DP's nose when I punched him because he was drunk (as was I).

I rarely drink now as I can switch if someone accidentally looks at me the wrong way. Red mist I believe it is called.

@PokerFaceGrace Oh well, you can’t complain then when one of your kids smash something up when they aren’t happy. Lead by example and all that.

I’m so glad I’m not an aggressive arsehole towards my kids. Even if we would all laugh about it afterwards!

TV here too , my then boyfriend now husband was ignoring me and pretending to watch tv and I just saw red so tipped the tv off it’s stand - it was my tv and I’ve never done anything like it since , it worked I got his attention and he realised I won’t be disrespected by any man ever

I threw a plate of spaghetti bolognaise at the ceiling once in a terrible rage

My toe. Lost my temper, I can't even remember what about, booted the sofa, forgot it was made of very hard wood, instant regret .

Does blood vessels in my nose count?
I screamed so long and hard at teenage DS that my nose bled.
I then screamed "and now look what you've made me do" for good measure.

@Kinkybutkind

My vagina... two hours of rage and hate fuelled fucking after a particularly bitter row and it was sore for a week afterwards. In my defence, it was a long time ago.

This is fantastic 😂

@imisscashmere

Wow, this thread is really eye opening. I consider myself a very angry person and I’ve never broken or smashed anything. The most I think I’ve done is banged a fist/ slapped a hand on the tabletop and screamed, and felt very sheepish afterwards.

I read this as "Banged a fish" and was baffled as to how you thought that was totally normal 😂🐟👊

They’ve turned out perfectly fine and we laugh about it now.
Kind of a weird ending to that take of unbridled rage and damage?
Bet your kids are nowhere nearly as amused as you are.

@PokerFaceGrace none of your explanations justify your abusive and destructive behaviour.

I carved “Cheating cunt” into the back of my ex’s prized Gibson Les Paul guitar. He was away on tour and foolishly sent me and a girl he’d met in Brighton the night before the same selfie of himself all cuddled up on the tour bus, it was back in the days when texts listed the other numbers they’d been sent to at the same time. I rang this other mysterious number and this girl told me the whole story.

He sold the guitar years later on eBay and made more money than it was worth based on the story and me vandalism to the back of it, men are fucking trash.

@PokerFaceGrace

Gee, typical MN response to my post I see!

Meanwhile in the real world, raising 4DC (3 teens at the same time), in this particular era, who are/were all addicted to screens/gaming/Social Media to the detriment of everything else including sleep and schoolwork despite constant warnings, plots can be lost!

They were all warned and I followed through. The two PlayStations were different DC some years apart due to loud swearing at it because they were losing games, getting up in the night to sneak on it. The first one was two older DC fighting over it so after many, many warnings out of the window it went! At least they have learnt cause and effect.

IIRC one phone was thrown out of a car window, after she was out hours after our agreed time to be home (late at night) with no text to explain and no response to my texts or calls so I was driving the streets looking for her, very concerned. She finally responded and asked to be picked up so when she got in the car, phone was removed and thrown seeing as she couldn’t be bothered to use it for its purpose which was to keep in contact! There were lots of warnings before that but the throwing out of the window was spur of the moment!

A different DC’s phone was smashed with a hammer after he missed an exam (GCSE!) due to being up all night on it, and hadn’t studied for it either!

Another one refused to hand phone over to be confiscated for lack of homework (phone call from school, not the first either) so I grabbed it, it fell on the floor then I stamped on it with boots on.

Best one was DC2 using my debit card for in game purchases, without permission. Phone went across the room.

They’ve turned out perfectly fine and we laugh about it now.

I get it. Devices can be such a bone of contention. It’s like they’ve taken your child over and you want to show them they’re just bloody things.

It drives you mad. Literally.

I have also stamped on or smashed at least of each DC’s phones. Again completely provoked and also replaced

This is horrific. Provoked or not - you did this regularly.

I'm in agreement with all @CheeseIsATypeOfMeat posts. I'm someone who can get angry easily. I could never imagine breaking anything as described here, especially where it's as a result of throwing it at someone or is someone's property. It's abusive.

@PokerFaceGrace

Gee, typical MN response to my post I see!

Meanwhile in the real world, raising 4DC (3 teens at the same time), in this particular era, who are/were all addicted to screens/gaming/Social Media to the detriment of everything else including sleep and schoolwork despite constant warnings, plots can be lost!

They were all warned and I followed through. The two PlayStations were different DC some years apart due to loud swearing at it because they were losing games, getting up in the night to sneak on it. The first one was two older DC fighting over it so after many, many warnings out of the window it went! At least they have learnt cause and effect.

IIRC one phone was thrown out of a car window, after she was out hours after our agreed time to be home (late at night) with no text to explain and no response to my texts or calls so I was driving the streets looking for her, very concerned. She finally responded and asked to be picked up so when she got in the car, phone was removed and thrown seeing as she couldn’t be bothered to use it for its purpose which was to keep in contact! There were lots of warnings before that but the throwing out of the window was spur of the moment!

A different DC’s phone was smashed with a hammer after he missed an exam (GCSE!) due to being up all night on it, and hadn’t studied for it either!

Another one refused to hand phone over to be confiscated for lack of homework (phone call from school, not the first either) so I grabbed it, it fell on the floor then I stamped on it with boots on.

Best one was DC2 using my debit card for in game purchases, without permission. Phone went across the room.

They’ve turned out perfectly fine and we laugh about it now.

I feel sick reading this. It's a litany of abuse. It's even worse that you categorise this as some form of natural consequences because you warned them.

A different DC’s phone was smashed with a hammer after he missed an exam (GCSE!) due to being up all night on it, and hadn’t studied for it either!

What I can't understand is why you just didn't remove it?

Preferably before he stayed up all night & missed the exam. And your GCSE! in parentheses is baffling too - do you not think as a parent you have some responsibility for a child taking a GCSE exam? To step in and remove phone in advance possibly?

The thought that you actively sought out a hammer to break their phone is awful to contemplate.

What lesson was even learnt as you said you replaced the phone each time? So they watched you intentionally destroy it, then you paid your own money to replace it? I can't see what lesson they learnt there.