Just call her by her name?!

[FF7RGEEK]

I have 4 DD, my youngest is 1 next month.
My MIL won't use her name, just calls her baby she says it is impossible to pronounce (it isn't) in the beginning she would try to say her name and call her something not even remotely similar to her name.
She now has other family members doing the same and they won't use her name either, even though they did to begin with.
DH, tells her all the time that she is being silly and to just use her name, she will then just fall out with us.
I know her name is unusual but it is beautiful (in our opinion) am I being unreasonable to tell her she has to use her name?

It’s a lovely name. And not hard to say. If MIL really struggles to say ‘Air Rith’ maybe advise her to seek out a speech therapist.

I have a common European name which is easy to say but hard to spell - but not once you have learnt it.

Not one of my DF's relatives learned how to spell it and most didn't learn how to say it.

TBH, neither of my parents liked them much already and this just added to it.

For your MIL if baby grows up repeatedly telling her Granny how to say her name, it's going to be Granny's loss of the relationship as no-one, most of all baby, is going to want to spend time around her.

I think the next time she calls her Baby, if she happens to be holding her, quietly take the baby back and say “Nobody puts Baby in a corner.”

beautiful name! She's being daft 😂

Not hard to pronounce. She is just being rude and stubborn.

@leli

Who names a child after a video game? Maybe that's what MIL is not so subtly trying to express.

People name their children after characters from books, movies, TV shows and even historical figures all the time, what is so wrong with naming a child after a character from a game? Final fantasy has a huge following, especially the earlier titles that most 80s and 90s kids grew up playing. The games had a big impact on a lot of people and are very meaningful to a lot of us!

Missing the point of the thread but what a gorgeous name

love the name-not hard at all to pronounce

my late nan couldnt pronounce my name properly no matter how many times she was corrected it was really irritating as a child it was like she couldnt be bothered

Some old people use to do this to me, they would take my name and change it into something they thought was more 'appropriate' (Catherine, Claire, Courtney, Chloe etc... basically any 'white/uk' name starting with the same letter) with cries of 'how will I remember that' or 'I cant say that' (its a simple phonic name) and the honest truth of it was it was their blatent racism showing.

Awesome name choice and she is being a dick! Definitely take the "old woman" approach until she sorts herself out.

I wish I had called my daughter Zelda.....

Just promise us that if you have a boy he will be called Cloud!!

Just here to give props to the name Aerith!
Stab MIL with Masamune if she doesn't start calling your DD her awesome name

@NeverDropYourMoonCup.
That Erith is pronounced Ear-ith, it’s only news reader and non locals that pronounce it Air - ith

Aerith is an amazing name! DH and I had Aerith’s Theme playing while we signed the register at our wedding.

I have a deep-seated hatred of people saying “baby” or “the baby” so this would really annoy me.

"People name their children after characters from books, movies, TV shows and even historical figures all the time, what is so wrong with naming a child after a character from a game?
Final fantasy has a huge following, especially the earlier titles that most 80s and 90s kids grew up playing. The games had a big impact on a lot of people and are very meaningful to a lot of us!"

B-but I thought that Fortnite, GTA and Fifa were the only games ever to exist, and if you let your son (because girls don't play games ofc) anywhere near anyone who has ever looked at a Playstation controller they are doomed to a life as an unlovable, forever alone manchild who will die in a darkened shit filled room hunched over a computer surrounded by their own filth. Or at least that's what MN told me?

There's no reason why that should be any more difficult to pronounce than eg Gareth. She's just being bloody-minded

However. The Japanese for earth is chikyu. The way the Japanese would write 'earth' in kana would basically be ah-su. So not a million miles from arse. So yeah I wouldn't emphasise that .
teddy, I seem to remember that "asu" means only earth in an electrical sense, written in katakana, being an English derivative. "-th" is a bugger of a sound for almost everyone but English speakers to make, hence pronounced -su.

Aerith is beautiful and I guessed the pronunciation correctly - it's really not tricky. Your MIL is the height of rudeness. Reminds me of a colleague who said she couldn't learn to say a child's name - it was Hafsa. So so offensive.

I love this name , lucky girl to have such a beautiful name

I figured it out from your username too. I mean, you weren't going to call your DD Tifa, were you?!

Not really relevant to your question, but I think it's a gorgeous name. I have never heard it before or seen it written down, it's a beautiful sounding name. Your MIL is a dick.

Pretty name. It sounds Welsh, Scottish or Irish to me,

What a beautiful name. Even if it wasn’t it’s rude and ridiculous to not use it. I would be petty and ignore any conversation or question that didn’t have her name used, when questioned I would say I didnt realise who they were talking about given that they didn’t use her name.

@FF7RGEEK

It is pronounced air ith

OP that's exactly how I pronounced it in my head so I don't see what her issue is.

Agree with PPs that as soon as Aerith can talk teach her to call grandma "old lady". "Oh no I'm sorry but little Aerith is struggling to pronounce Grandma!"

😂

Think up some less-than-respectful nick name for MIL, and use it all the time. I'm sure MN can help with suggestions.

" Biddy"
"Gynasaur"

For everyone saying it's easy to pronounce, could MIL struggle with her Rs and be embarrassed about it? (R coming out as W as in how Jonathan Ross would say it.)

I had to veto a couple of names (eg Freya) for DD as my mum was worried it would provoke her speech impediment which she tried very hard to hide.