Just call her by her name?!

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I have 4 DD, my youngest is 1 next month.
My MIL won't use her name, just calls her baby she says it is impossible to pronounce (it isn't) in the beginning she would try to say her name and call her something not even remotely similar to her name.
She now has other family members doing the same and they won't use her name either, even though they did to begin with.
DH, tells her all the time that she is being silly and to just use her name, she will then just fall out with us.
I know her name is unusual but it is beautiful (in our opinion) am I being unreasonable to tell her she has to use her name?

It's weird that she's got other family members doing the same.
Would help to know the name though.

Surely you just use "Old Lady" as her name j til she gets the hint. If she gets offended, tough. She's being offensive!

It doesn't matter what her name is, unless it's Grannie-Isacyunt or something. It's her name.
If she won't use it, she needs to know it's going to be difficult to have a relationship with her.

It really depends on what it is.

My nana could never say one of her daughters married surname. She was would try and try and just couldn't seem to get there, she wasn't English though.

But also mil could be being a dick, I have no idea. But in my family we all had pet names given by our grandparent so it wouldn't hugely bother me. Or at least not enough to pull her in on.

Ffs. You know no one can comment without knowing the name.

Bevagse if it’s Lily, Mia, Sandrine, Tallulah then ages obviously unreasonable.

If you’ve made up something unpronounceable or with strange silent letters then she isn’t.

For everyone asking what the name is, is there seriously any name you couldn’t pronounce if taken through it a couple of times (phonetically if necessary)? Genuine question.

She's trying to make a point passive aggressively. Do the same back. Create a voice note or CD or whatever with the pronunciation and send it her and say "it must be so frustrating for you not being able to say your own grandchild's name properly and I know you'd hate to upset her when she's older! So we've made this so you can practice". If she keeps fucking it up, offer to find her a good speech and language therapist.

Is it X Æ A-12?

I voted YANBU but if it's the above YABU.

If it's a name from your culture or heritage then she's being shitty.

If it's a stupid embarrassing made up name then I have some sympathy for her stance.

But she should still grow up and use the proper name.

My sympathies. My son is 19 and his grandparents still haven't bothered to learn how to say his name. It isn't difficult, but it isn't an English name and they just don't see why they should (it is a very common name where I live, and is part of my husband's family history and culture, but it isn't about them, so must be ignored).

They have made up a nonsense name which they use for him (it's a very infantilizing name and my son hates it), but he never answers to it. He also never visits, phones them or has any kind of non-essential contact with them. He's a very understanding boy and if they had tried, he would have understood or told them to call him by his first 2 initials (he gets this at work because there are 2 people with the same first name there), but they have just met something which isn't familiar to them and decided it has to be changed.

And yes, as PP say some accents make some names harder to say.

My DH’s name ends in ‘th’ - a close friend is Iranian and can’t say it - she ends with a ‘fff’ or ‘t-‘ sound.

oh the old lady idea is good.

Just start calling her another name, worzel or something, and don't use her name until she does

I don't feel it is unreasonable so thanks for those that agree.
I think those that said to make it awkward I think that's what I'll do from now on.

Her name is Aerith.
Which comes from the word earth in Japanese, but is also a name of a character in a video game (mine and DH's all time favourite game)

My Irish Catholic Nana refused to use my first name, as it was the name of a Protestant Queen … she gave me a nickname, which we use in the family. She died when I was quite small, and I love the nickname

Make it clear to her that she won’t see DD until she starts using her name. You will be surprised how quickly she will learn it.

It is pronounced air ith

Good job you didn't love Super Mario op!

YANBU the baby needs to know her name.

@Ellpellwood

Going by your username, is it Aerith?

thats a really pretty name. I don't understand how that is hard to pronounce at all, especially as someone else said with a bit of practice and hearing others say it.

She’s obviously unreasonable. It’s a perfectly straightforward name to pronounce even just seeing it written down.

Oh Aerith, Aerith the baby.

Worked for Nessa.

Seriously she’s nuts, ignore her, it’s an absolutely beautiful name.

ellpellwood it is.!

Beautiful name! She’s being rude