Just call her by her name?!

[FF7RGEEK]

I have 4 DD, my youngest is 1 next month.
My MIL won't use her name, just calls her baby she says it is impossible to pronounce (it isn't) in the beginning she would try to say her name and call her something not even remotely similar to her name.
She now has other family members doing the same and they won't use her name either, even though they did to begin with.
DH, tells her all the time that she is being silly and to just use her name, she will then just fall out with us.
I know her name is unusual but it is beautiful (in our opinion) am I being unreasonable to tell her she has to use her name?

This reminds me of Catastrophe where no one can pronounce the baby's unusual Irish name, not even the American father, and the mum gets very irate about it.

It’s a beautiful name

Lovely name and yanbu! I always over think how to pronounce a particular name and stumble over it but I'd never just replace it!! (For some reason I struggle with Evelyn) The issue is with the person speaking not with the baby ffs.

What a beautiful name and I pronounced it correctly just by reading it before I got to your pronunciation. She’s just being awkward, I think. Your DD will put her right soon enough.

Beautiful name.

I agree with the pp who said call her Old Woman

Thank you all.

All our other children have more traditional names, but I have wanted to call one of my daughter's Aerith since I was a teenager and as our last was a suprise and our definitely last child I decided I wanted it, my DH agreed and that was that.
We love it, out game obsessed 7 year old loved it and often says to my great nan "it's Aerith not Aeris, that's the wrong game" 🤣🤣 my great nan laughs it off and says she doesn't have her teeth in 🤣

love the name! You could understand maybe someone mispronoucing it, having read it for the first time but after that she is making some sort of bizarre point...very weird!

Wow what a beautiful name

@AndAllOurYesterdays that is one of the best recurring jokes in that series. It’s brilliant. I actually KNOW a Muireann (mwirrin) in real life.

It's a lovely name and easy to say, I'd be very annoyed at this silliness.

Love the name. I hadn't heard it before. (And like a previous poster I pronounced it right in my head before you confirmed the pronunciation, so it ain't difficult!)

Could you choose any other name than your MIL's real name - eg if her name is Audrey start calling her Wendy - and explain that you don't like her real name so you won't be using it anymore until she starts using your daughter's real name?

Mispronounced names are easily straighten out but she just refuses. I'm going to call her old woman and go from there. If my great Nana at 96 can say it (with her teeth in) then so can she

I love the name as well Op.

My FIL always pronounced my DD name incorrectly, it’s one of the reasons why I hate him.

Are you gonna have any more kids @FF7RGEEK?

You have an absolutely huge array of difficult-to-work-out-pronunciation Irish names from which to choose, you know!

Aerith isn’t at all hard to pronounce!

She's being rude.

She's being very silly. I'd just ignore her. Use Aeriths name constantly in conversation with her. 'Do you want to hold Aerith MIL'. 'Did you see Aerith's new toy MIL'. She'll get over herself soon enough. She won't still be calling her Baby when she graduates.

I do hope you aren't going to encourage your children to call their grandmother "Old Lady" as Gran/Nana etc is far, far too hard for them to pronounce

Genuinely thought you were going to say the baby's name was Z#pthsh*$°¶ and pronounced "Bob." Aerith is a lovely name.

Everybody can learn to pronounce sb name unless there is some kind of impairment.
But there are endless threads on MN making fun of names and explain (justify) potential bullying.

I love the name. It's not hard to pronounce at all.
I worked with a family who named a child after a video game character. God it's fabulous I was quite envious!

If I saw her name on my register I'd say it how you've explained it so that's made me happy and also shows how easy it is. I generally allow myself two mispronunciations of a child's name before I feel terrible and get all grovelly- correcting someone once or twice is fine but any more than that and they just aren't trying, in my opinion. Not that your MIL is even trying!! It's a pretty, and not at all tricky as it turns out, name.

YANBU
Can you tell her you’ll call her old woman if she doesn’t start using the correct name. And give her a pronunciation lesson?

Are you sure she cant honestly say it? I have an aunt that we use to tease mercilessly (I feel bad now looking back) because there was a name she could not say right. No matter how hard she tried, it would come out wrong. She could break it down into syllables okay, but when just trying to say it all together it came out wrong. Is it the TH at the end she struggles with?

out game obsessed 7 year old loved it and often says to my great nan "it's Aerith not Aeris

Just leave him to do the nagging then!

She'll quietly come round, probably faster if you make it seem like a non-issue.

@FF7RGEEK

I don't feel it is unreasonable so thanks for those that agree. I think those that said to make it awkward I think that's what I'll do from now on.

Her name is Aerith.
Which comes from the word earth in Japanese, but is also a name of a character in a video game (mine and DH's all time favourite game)

That’s a lovely name OP certainly not a tongue twister, your MIL is being ridiculous. But even if your daughter didn’t have a lovely name like Aerith it’s still rude and stupid to not use the name because she (MIL) doesn’t like it.