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Peak (ex) MiL- still think about this, how weird is this?

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Evangeli · 29/06/2021 13:54

When DD, now 18, was a baby, we lived very close to my (ex)PiLs, and we were together a lot. One day we were at their place, baby DD was in MiL's (retired schoolteacher, tho' can't remember if she was retired at the time) lap and fussing, and I was doing something else couldn't immediately get her or whatever. MiL was talking to baby DD "are you hungry, need boob?" and then she actually got out her boob and placed it in baby DD's mouth who began screaming and refused it. MiL laughed and I took DD and began feeding her. I didn't say anything, but I was kinda weirded if not grossed out by this, and MiL obviously thought it was perfectly normal since later she was chatting about this to anybody who'd listen "...DD was crying and even tried to give her my boob but she didn't want it..."

fast forward 17 years, we live in different countries and haven't seen (ex- although that was not the reason)MiL for over 6 years...

That scene still crosses my mind once in a while, especially on Mumsnet where people post shite about their PiLs all the time- how weird or normal was it? I only saw her do it that one time. She was pretty classic MiL in other aspects too, but that one really stood out.

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LadyFidgetAndHerHandbag · 30/06/2021 11:31

@pantjog

I was once at a friend’s house when she was looking after her friend’s baby while the friend went out for lunch.

Friend’s baby started crying and refused to be comforted. Babysitting friend tried putting (non-lactating) boob in baby’s mouth. Baby wasn’t impressed. At the time I found it slightly strange and a bit illogical (why would baby like a non-milky boob from a random?) but it was meant well (to comfort the baby) and not at all creepy. I’m not sure if she told the mum…

My birth mother did this but actually fed the other child. She was looking after another child in an emergency and they were hungry and inconsolable. Birth Mum was used to double feeding (I have twin sibs) so just plugged me and the other child in to make her life easier. I don't think she told the other mother.
BraveBraveMouse · 30/06/2021 11:33

It's totally normal for grandmother's to relactate and feed in some cultures. Usually so the mother can work.

But to do this in a culture where it is not normal and where the mother has not given permission and is nearby is disturbing.

PerciphonePuma · 01/07/2021 02:02

That's sexual assault

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Pollypocket2021 · 05/01/2022 21:27

@Evangeli

When DD, now 18, was a baby, we lived very close to my (ex)PiLs, and we were together a lot. One day we were at their place, baby DD was in MiL's (retired schoolteacher, tho' can't remember if she was retired at the time) lap and fussing, and I was doing something else couldn't immediately get her or whatever. MiL was talking to baby DD "are you hungry, need boob?" and then she actually got out her boob and placed it in baby DD's mouth who began screaming and refused it. MiL laughed and I took DD and began feeding her. I didn't say anything, but I was kinda weirded if not grossed out by this, and MiL obviously thought it was perfectly normal since later she was chatting about this to anybody who'd listen "...DD was crying and even tried to give her my boob but she didn't want it..."

fast forward 17 years, we live in different countries and haven't seen (ex- although that was not the reason)MiL for over 6 years...

That scene still crosses my mind once in a while, especially on Mumsnet where people post shite about their PiLs all the time- how weird or normal was it? I only saw her do it that one time. She was pretty classic MiL in other aspects too, but that one really stood out.

I wish you’d had knocked her out. This is sexual assault.
Amoozbooze · 05/01/2022 22:18

It is not sexual assault! Knocking her out would definitely be actual assault!

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