DF has been making noise recently about how much he misses his grandchildren (mine and Dsis children) and how he hardly ever sees them because they're so far away from where he lives.
Dsis and I live at opposite ends of the country, we both moved for work (we are both trained professionals), we are settled and not looking to move. The area we grew up in was deprived with few opportunities for careers, we both moved away for uni and never went back. We have both been successful, although I am no longer in work as full time carer for my child.
DM died before we had our families, and DF lives with his partner. She has grandchildren that all live locally, within 10 mile radius, and they are in each other's lives on a daily basis. DF sees her with her grandchildren and feels he should be in that position too. He has asked me if I've ever considered moving back to the area I grew up in, and I had to answer honestly no. It's not a place I desire to live in, and my DH would be utterly miserable there.
DF doesn't seem to understand that we are no more able to move than he is. In fact we are much less able to move than he is, he has money and capital, but he's made his life with his DP now and that was his choice. We have him to visit when we can, and it's a bit harder for us to visit because of DS complex needs but we do our best. Recently he's been getting increasingly hostile when talking about us about how lonely he is and how he shouldn't have to travel so far to see his grandkids 'at his age' (late 60s).
AIBU to think this wasn't a situation all of our making and that, to some extent, he has made his own bed so he has to lie in it? I realise that sounds cruel so please know I would never actually say that to him!