So, a friend of mine(let's call her Louise) has a garden with a pool and also has a DD who is 8. She is a lovely friend and we get on well. My DD is 2 and plays a lot with her's. I received a text from Louise asking us to a pool party in a few weeks. Great. I ask what I can bring, and she goes on to tell me that really the party is for her DD and five friends from school, and in reality she is worried about having so many children at the pool as her DH won't be around, so she wants another adult there to help. To be honest if there are more older kids going I know my DD won't be herself as she is shy and I worry enough about her at the pool to really be able to help out with strangers' kids as well.
So, AIBU to sit out the party, but leave my friend without help? Or should I be kind and lend her a hand, even though I don't even know these children?
Yes, YABU. You should help.a.friend in a tricky spot.
No, YANBU. Friend needs to be responsible for her own party planning.