What time shd kids be asleep at sleepover?

[notanymore2]

My 9yo is having a sleepover next wknd with a couple of friends. What time do you reckon is time to get serious and say they need to go to sleep. Don't want to be awful to them but don't want them up too late either. What do you reckon?

It's a difficult one! I usually plan for lights to be out and children in bed by ten - but accept that there will be talking and whispering for a bit after that. Then cross your fingers they sleep in!

I would say 10 o clock/ half ten. Anything before that and they won’t sleep through excitement.

I'd plan for lights out at 11 and hopefully asleep by midnight.

The trick is to make sure they're picked up early-ish the next day, so you don't have to deal with too many tired kids 🤣

The word sleep generally has no place in a,sleep over. Its an overnight visit

If they go to sleep at all it's a bonus, trust me.

Don't even try to manage it, get some ear plugs and have copious amounts of alcohol/chocolate to hand.

I've got 3 DDs and had many a horrendous night with them and their friends.............

It depends on how many, if it's a group probably 12 or 1am by the time the giggling stops, lights off at 11 I'd say if it's a birthday sleep over.

@WorraLiberty

The trick is to not have sleepovers 🤦‍♀️ 🤣. I have a nearly 10 year old girl and the thought of it gives me nightmares. I’ve successfully managed to dodge this bullet…. so far at least.

I'd leave them to it, surely that's part of the fun? My guess would be that someone will start to flag and decide to go to bed, then the rest will follow suit. We all need sleep and we all give in to it eventually....

I know it's called a "sleep" over, but I'm afraid I've got news for you op...

I'd be getting really shirty around midnight! Having been through this a number of times, anything earlier is optimistic, anything later means the morning is carnage!

You do know when sleepovers are planned, the entire plan is too “stay up all night and have snacks” right?

I thought all kids tried to stay up all night (not that any of us ever lasted!) so good luck with throwing a bed time in with that!

@Talkwhilstyouwalk

Yes I agree. At age 9 they will call it a day at some point. Reminds me of being in year 7 though when none of us slept at all. I got home and threw up everywhere out of sheer exhaustion (and probably too many sweets) and then proceeded to sleep the day away.

[quote Chillychangchoo]@WorraLiberty

The trick is to not have sleepovers 🤦‍♀️ 🤣. I have a nearly 10 year old girl and the thought of it gives me nightmares. I’ve successfully managed to dodge this bullet…. so far at least.[/quote]
Fair play and long may it continue! 🤣

I call them awake overs!!
Definitely get them
Collected at 9am the next morning and be prepared to write the day off!

What time does he usually go to bed? I would do lights out about half an hour/ an hour later than usual, provide a “midnight snack” around then and allow an hour or so for chatting. Past 11, I would probably read them the riot act. But depends on the kids, how quiet/noisy they are being, and how well they can deal with late nights.

Just tend to leave ds and his mates downstairs in airbeds sofas etc… they are always alders when I go down at 8am. 😂

Think boys less excitable however. Phones/ps5/vats of Diet Coke minimal noise

11pm
My DD went to one in a group for a party (aged 9) and says they were still up at 1am and next day was a write off

I say let them go to sleep when they want. I used to love an all nighter at 8yo with lots of horror films but most of my friends always fell asleep before midnight, I think most kids are more sensible than we think these days 🤣

I have four 9 year olds up stairs singing and giggling as I type!

Going to sleep doesn’t sound like it’s on the agenda any time soon!

I always left my kids to it, provided they weren't too noisy. Not convinced they ever got much sleep but that's part of the fun.
I remember having sleep overs when I was a bit older and didn't get much sleep then either.

depends on the children.
one of my dc (slightly older) was on an outdoors activity day with friends and sleepover after.
dc watched one movie but most fell asleep around 10pm.

other sleepover dc were still giggljng and telling stories way past midnight.

Sleep at a 9 year olds sleepover? I wouldn't bank on it. Just let them do their own thing

If they let you sleep you're winning

@Keepingitreal14

I have four 9 year olds up stairs singing and giggling as I type!

Going to sleep doesn’t sound like it’s on the agenda any time soon!

Haha!! Good luck with that one . So nice to hear kids laughing under the same roof again though isn't it, to an extent.

probably before sun up, unlikely before midnight.
realistically don't expect any sleep and as a parent stay awake all night guarding the door for potential escapees.