What time shd kids be asleep at sleepover?

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My 9yo is having a sleepover next wknd with a couple of friends. What time do you reckon is time to get serious and say they need to go to sleep. Don't want to be awful to them but don't want them up too late either. What do you reckon?

I have never bothered with setting a bed time, just a time after which they have to be as quiet as possible so the rest of the house can get some sleep, usually about 10/11.

I went in and did lights out around 9.30/40 and they were probably asleep by 10.15/30.I could hear them whispering when I went to bed at 10, but they weren't up and roaming around so I figured they would just wear out.

You got 9 year olds to sleep at 10.15? What did you slip in their cocoa?

I ask that I don't hear a peep after 12.

DS was definitely in the ‘I’m up for an all night camp’ and I have had texts from him at 2am gloating that he was still awake.
During one sleepover DS went to, one boy clambered out of the window down on an extension roof and walked to the 24/7 garage to buy more sweets n the early hours of the morning, totally unbeknown to the host parents (not me thankfully!) I always hated sleepovers and barely hosted any!

IME Sleepover is a total misnomer.

Usually asleep by about 5am and sleep until about midday the next day.

3 x 10yo girls. I had to go in at 1:30 to tell them to shhh and then I went back to bed. No idea what time they conked out but they all had to be crowbarred out the next morning when their mums came to get them.

Even a bacon sarnie didn’t rouse them.

I just had a sleepover with cousins. There was much banging and crashing and things were getting close to tears at about 11pm. So I had to grab my pillow and snuggle up to my youngest in her bed and they all calmed down and fell. Asleep. She was getting upset. They were all totally beyond it. I left once they’d all nodded off.

I class that as the nuclear option to call time on a sleepover. I didn’t really want to spoil their fun but when kids are getting upset and they are play fighting it’s time to get involved.

Aw it's nice you think they'll sleep.

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My 10 yo had his first sleepover at our house a week ago. They went upstairs at 9.30 and we're asleep by 10. We were pleased with that and he was delighted, normal bedtime 8.30 asleep by 9.

11oclock the following morning when they are home.

In all seriousness, what worked for me was providing them with snacks, enough dvds to last the night. I let them spend the night in the living room with instructions to keep the noise down. As long as I could sleep they could talk play etc, I just made sure they were in their sleeping bags before I went to bed.

They would usually be asleep by midnight at that age.

Lights out at 10.30 and I didn't want to be disturbed after 11pm. We had loads of sleepovers, most weekends , sleepovers don't equal the whole house up all night.

I just left mine to it, stopped them being too loud if need be. But most weekends they would have friends over or vice versa, late nights won't kill them....

Can't believe all these people saying 10.30/11pm for a 9/10 yr olds sleepover. I dont think you get what sleepovers sre supposed to be!

Sleepovers can be whatever suits your family/ household.

I’m not even sure what the issue is here, to be honest. They watch TV, mess about, spill Diet Coke on the air mattress, and at some point, conk out surrounded by pizza crusts. Which is entirely the point of the event, surely?