To not want to do EVERYTHING for him?

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My partners half brother (18) lives with us. He can't seem to do anything for himself.

Partner usually makes him toast if he asks but this week partner was on nights so he was asleep, the first few days I made him toast with no problems but today id had enough and I told him he could make it himself and all he had to do was put bread in the toaster. He then said he ‘wouldnt have anything then’ and went back upstairs. He then told partner when he woke up that I was being horrible to him and I called him lazy(i didn't). Partner didnt say anything though.

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This is a regular thing when DP is working nights and I've now had enough. He's always asking me to do things that's just an example.

Stick to your guns! My teenager used to do this, texting his 'orders'! Just ignore and refuse. He'll soon get hungry enough to start sorting his own food out. He may even start to offer to make some for you!

Why is he living with you? There's no way I'd be pandering to him, making him toast etc. If he lives with you he needs to contribute to chores, learn how to cook etc. So tell Dh he better crack on teaching him some basic life skills.

He goes hungry. His problem.

You have a problem if your partner expects you to do things for his brother. In which case, you should get rid of both.

What the actual fuck did I just read?

No you are not being unreasonable thinking an 18 year old can make his own fucking toast? And why is he lying and putting words in your mouth?

Is there a good reason why this exceptionally entitled young adult male is living with you? I would be going on strike, immediately. And telling him to leave.

Oh my stars. Send him my way, I'd enjoy the project of turning the lazy little turd into something resembling a functional human being.

Let him go hungry then! Sounds incredibly lazy. Best just ignore him.

yanbu! He's an adult. He won't let himself starve, he'll have to get up and do it for himself eventually. Seems your partner agrees if he didn't say anything to you about it!

Then don't do it for Christ sake. Is there a reason that he is living with you ?
Talk to your partner. You are not there as his personal maid. Make a rota so that he has to put a wash on in the week, wash up or load/unload the dishwasher he is not a baby. He can put the bins out.
Why does he think that you should do everything for him ?

My 11 year old gets told to do this himself, ditto glasses of water, cereal, anything that doesnt involve actual cooking. Let him humpf.. What a sad little boy, whining that you don't wait on him hand and foot.

why is he there.
why should you do anything for him.
why does his brother wait on him.
is he disabled.

If you'd said he was lazy, you'd have been perfectly correct. Why is Mr Teen Useless 2021 living with you and being so remarkably repellent, anyway?

Does he understand that you're not his mum? I would be thinking twice about this relationship if your DP doesn't start to sort this nonsense out pronto.

This is madness! Your partner is also a dick for allowing his brother to behave this way. They both need to get a grip.

He makes his own or he goes hungry, it is that simple.

Oh my god that’s ridiculous.

Even if you were his mother that’d be absolutely ridiculous. Your DP needs to stop enabling this.

I am currently going through this with my son, the transition from mum doing things to doing it himself. He is 9, though! 😂

I'd be having words not only about his laziness but going telling tales to your BF and lying

Oh god OP, why is he even living with you?

" How old are you? "

"I'm sure some of your friends know how to make toast, shall I ask them to help you out?"

Why is he living with you?
Where are his Parents?
I would be talking to your Partner about him treating your house as a hotel.
Does he pay board?

Omg. YANBU. Can you send him home to his parents?

Can he move out?

Why is he living with you?

This isn't going to end well. I'm presuming you are young (ish). 20s perhaps?

I wouldn't want to mother a teenager at that age. Why would you?

Can't you just be kind? FFS how much time does it take to make some toast?

@Majorfluff

Can't you just be kind? FFS how much time does it take to make some toast?

You're funny.