My brother is not really a nice man, he is arrogant, thinks he is better than most people, always bitchy and nasty about his own family. He has been with fiance (Sarah) approx 4/5 years she is in her 20s and seems such a lovely genuine girl, successful, kind and would do anything for anyone. She has had some really tragic things happen to her at a young age.
The poor girl doesn't have any family of her own, she is financially very stable and stands to inherit a multimillion pound business. Brother told me this, he is always talking about money and how much things cost. He is very money orientated. But he is a really smooth talker and can manipulate very easily.
Ive heard from Sarah's friends (but been sworn to secrecy) that brother talks to her like garbage, he uses the C word a lot and can be really nasty. He is controlling and has manipulated her into falling out with some of her closest friends. Now this i can totally believe because i know what sort of person he is. His father (we have different dads) was an extremely abusive man and he possesses so many of his traits already.
Their wedding is this year. Would I be unreasonable to send Sarah an anonymous message to encourage her to wait a while longer before marrying him. I feel that in a few years down the line he will show his true colours and she will regret marrying him. Shes only young in her 20s and is so swept up in the wedding planning at the moment that i think she is blinded by it. I worry that he may be marrying her for financial gain as he has been the one to put pressure on getting married sooner rather than later.
I love her to bits and she would make a great sister in law, shes great with my kids the family all get on with her but i dont want to see her get hurt. I know she can make her own mistakes but this is a really big one and would end in her losing out significantly in the financial aspect.