Adult children

[Lappy41]

Me (41) gf(40) moved in together in Feb.

She has 3 kids, 11, 18, 20, and I have a 4 year old, we also have 3 dogs between us.

Now the issue I'm having is that the 18 and 20 year old do absolutely nothing about the house. They never walk the dogs, they never clear the yard of dog poop, they leave plates and things in there room, or on the side (we have a dishwasher!)

They leave empty food containers on the side instead of putting them in the bin.

The 18 year old will ring his mum from the house while we are out and ask things like...when u get back can you get a pizza from the freezer for me! (The freezer is in the garage about 10 steps from the door front door)

We asked them to do a rota of jobs
Fill and empty dishwasher
Clear doggy poop up
Walk the dogs

They both said they keep forgetting, so we drew up a fair rota, and they still do nothing.

This is not only causing tension between me and my partner, but also taking up the time we have together as we are doing these jobs.

The 18 year old is in college part time, the 20 year old has just started her first job, she pays us £60 a week board, and now thinks because she pays she doesn't have to do anything.

I'm getting to annoying with them both for being so lazy.

Any and all advice welcome.

@Lappy41

Leave... take your 4 year old and your golden retriever and live your own happy life.

These teens are horrid and as everyone says.. this will never change.

Good luck Lappy 🎉

And are they dogs paid and cared for by the kids or their mom? I don't think they should be walking and poppa scooping your dog.

and what of their OWN 2 dogs... ?

@QueenBee52

And are they dogs paid and cared for by the kids or their mom? I don't think they should be walking and poppa scooping your dog.

and what of their OWN 2 dogs... ?

Well that's why I asked if they were actually the kids dogs or not.

TBF kids are usually the ones who want pets. It's not unreasonable to expect teen and adult DC to help out with the care. It's good they learn that pets are a big, ongoing commitment before they move out and buy dogs.

Pick your own dog shit up.

I could never live with someone whose parenting skills are so weak. Her kids will always see you as the enemy, who MADE them do extra chores. The only way to solve this is to live apart until the kids leave home.

@SofiaMichelle

Pick your own dog shit up.

He does.... 🙄

@Lappy41

Ye, I totally agree, however is asking them to do 3 jobs a day between 2 people unreasonable?

dishwasher takes 5/10 mins
dog walk, 20mins
clear dog mess up, less than 5 mins.

If an 18 and 20 year old are unable to do this between them with a even split rota drawn up, what can they do.

what also really gets to me, is that I drop the 20 year old off at work in the morning, which means I have to go 10mins in the total opposite direction.

They can do it. They just don't want to. And frankly I don't blame them. They weren''t the adults who bought/chose the dogs. Those people were you and their mum. Why should they pick up/walk other people's pets?

It sounds like you and your gf have very different parenting styles. They didn't grow up lazy without some input from her.