Sick of being a personal taxi driver for family

[Pheobe2020]

Hi. I just wanted some general advice on how I can get out of giving people lifts in my car ? I probably sound horrible but it’s gotten to a point where people are generally taking advantage. And I do it because it’s family and I feel bad for saying no, but it’s really starting to take up my time.

I’m a full time student with two children , I work as well, and I suffer with depression.

It’s literally ever other day , can you pick me up with my shopping , can you take me shopping , then here then here , to the doctors etc, even tip runs !! I’m literally fed up. I feel like I spend all of my time running around for everyone, I paid for a car to make my life easier and wish I never did. Please someone tell me I’m not a horrible person.

Tell them to f*ck off, they'll soon get the message

I can’t believe your own mum thinks you’re being selfish!!

Does she spend her own days acting like everyone else’s taxi driver??

@Pheobe2020

how are you 🌸

Your mum sounds desperately unsupportive. Have a quiet word with her face to face and tell her it’s making you anxious/stressed/whatever. I think she’s been rude about it. You aren’t selfish, you need to protect yourself, so be strong, stick to saying no. You don’t need an excuse, just tell them to get a taxi, you’re busy/not prepared to drop whatever you’re doing to run them round, you aren’t their mum!

Hey girl omg I am literally in your position right now but I have been doing it since I was 18years old, all they care about is themselves and getting them too where they want too go, I get treated like I'm a slave dog driver for them no matter what I do for them cause that's how I am, sometimes I just want too leave my family behind and start fresh cause it's very draining.

‘No i can’t - I don’t have time.’

you don’t need to apologise.
you don’t have to rationalise what you are doing instead. Or debate with them how you are spending that time.

just

‘no.’ Maybe add the rest.

whats the worst that will happen?

if you want you could suggest a suitable alternative arrangement?