Two kids close together at 35? Anyone?

[Sunshine4you]

I turned 32 yesterday. Me and dh have 7 year old twins and we plan on trying again in a few years and having two close together so roughly pregnant at 34 birth at 35 and then pregnant at 36, birth at 37.

Has anyone had two close together around the same age as I will be?

Yes I had my first 34, second at 36. The first year was hard but it’s great now (3 and 5 year old). Wouldn’t want to leave it much later, it’s exhausting!

Yes, I was 34 and 36, I did have 2 MC in between, so wouldn’t leave too late

Age difference is fine

Yes almost exactly that, except I snuck in the second a few weeks before I turned 37. It’s quite a normal age to have a baby and only a slightly smaller than average age gap.

Why do you ask, do you have any particular concerns?

First at 33 and second at 35 here. 14m gap. You'll be fine!

33, 35 (twins) & 37. All boys & I've been a lone parent for years. It was hell for about 8 years but it's fantastic now they're all teens. They're extremely close, the banter has me in stitches, well worth the effort. But for goodness sake, get & stay fit. Also, get a hobby that gets you out of the house & away from the kids a few hours a week.

What’s your question about - the birth/newborn stage? In which case you will have to wait and see.

And if the last baby is twins….

First at 34 second at 35

Thanks ladies. I've done it before with the twins so I'm not so worried about having two babies close together as I don't know any different!
Just wanted experiences relating to having them at that age mid 30s. Appreciate reading all the comments so far!

my twin girls will be aged 9 when the next will be born if all goes to plan, and I know they would love a sibling so I know they will enjoy helping me.

I had first at 36 second at 38. I am not as relaxed about parenting as my younger friends and I am more tired than them. My friend similar age to me had her first child in 20's and 4th child in late 30's and admitted it was much harder with her last child than she had expected . I think your age will make a difference!

36 and 37 here, 18 months age gap.

Was fine, but started menopause as they started puberty... DH wants a shed....

I had 2 fourteen months apart at 33/34 all planned
We have absolutely no regrets they’re now almost 18 and 19 and very much have shared experiences and gone through stages together
Would do it again in a heart beat

DH and I were both younger children with much older siblings and didn’t want that for our own dc

I had one at 34 and one at 36. There's 18 months between them.

It was hard going when second was born, but much easier than a bigger gap as they got older IMO. They had the same interests and roughly same abilities so shared friends and could play well together.

Yes, I had my two at exactly those ages. They're great buddies. No regrets about having them at that age.

The first year was hard but all fine once we'd got through that.

If you've got twins already, you'll be fine.

Yes and it’s bloody brutal.

But you have twins so honestly it’s got to be a breeze compared to that! My hats off to all the multiples mums.

I had two with 15 months between them in my mid to late 30s. Two under two was FUN.

It’s hard but it’s also lovely, their bond is so adorable to see. I wouldn’t change things but I can’t deny that I’ll be happier when they’re a bit older and we’re out of the nappies and sleep deprivation stage.

Age wise I don’t know that I’d have been better when I was younger, I’m tired now but so are the 25 year old mums I know. Mums are tired full stop.

You just adapt don’t you, if you’re fit and prioritise looking after yourself then really, age is kind of irrelevant. I’m 40 and I’m fit and active and generally look after myself - in many ways I’m far more active and able than some of the younger mums I know.

It’ll be great, go for it! We can sleep when we’re dead

33, 35 and 39. The last child didn’t sleep through the night until he was 3 and he has a separate medical issue which means he’s had over 30 hospital trips in the last couple of years. He is 5 now and it is amazing I am still functioning tbh. It was exceptionally hard and I am still recovering in a lot of different ways.

@Sunshine4you

Thanks ladies. I've done it before with the twins so I'm not so worried about having two babies close together as I don't know any different! Just wanted experiences relating to having them at that age mid 30s. Appreciate reading all the comments so far!

It just seems like such a normal thing I'm still confused about what exactly you're asking? The age gap doesn't sound particularly small - a couple of years give or take a few months is very much the norm I thought, and in many areas so is having children mid 30s.

I had my twins two weeks before I turned 38, older DS was 4.5

I think having your first two on your 20s is making you feel that 30s is terribly ancient rather than a typical age to have kidsm

36, 38, 40, 42. All fine, though quite tiring.

32,33,34 and 35 it's knackering, but you've got twins I reckon you'll find it a breeze x

Yes, first at 36 and second at 37. The first couple of years are a blur, but it seems to have worked out well now (the oldest is 8 tomorrow).

Sorry maybe I wasn't clear. Nothing to do with 30s being ancient! Just wanted to know the experience of women in their 30s who had two close together that's all as it feels like I'm starting all over again. I know I have twins but feels like a long time ago that I was going through pregnancy, birth, and the newborn phases. Just wanted some insight 🙂

First at 35, second at 37, third at 38. The age gaps are both about 19mo.

Factor in a 1st miscarriage at just turned 34, up to my 9th at 45 (an accident) and that I'm showing clear signs of perimenopause that I can now see started back when I was 44/45, and my hormones have given me a real battering.

I can't believe I survived looking back. The toll on my body has been significant. I've had so many hormone related issues - carpel tunnel operations on both hands, SPD badly with no.2 and a bit with no.3, plantar fascitis, really dodgy immune system, fatigue (the worst of it all!). The brain fog after no.3 didn't really lift until she was 4-5.

I had 3 in nappies at once. 2 breastfeeding at a time. Both physically draining. Post-natal depression in spades, which we knew would be likely and had prepared for, but the exhaustion!!

I'm painting a dismal picture, but I've loved so much of it! Kids close together means they have playmates, you get the joy of their interaction (though heading towards teens that is not so joyful right now!).

For me the harder part of having kids older and close together is that I don't find many others in a similar position. Peers I know well have kids that are pretty independent. It's easier to hang out more with friends with kids the same age as mine, and they tend to be significantly younger - ie not in perimenopause. My life feels a bit disjointed for that reason.