Two kids close together at 35? Anyone?

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I turned 32 yesterday. Me and dh have 7 year old twins and we plan on trying again in a few years and having two close together so roughly pregnant at 34 birth at 35 and then pregnant at 36, birth at 37.

Has anyone had two close together around the same age as I will be?

Yes I did !
I had my 1st daughter youngish at 22 and then had my son in 2018 on my 35th birthday and my 2nd daughter in October 2019 when I was 36.
So 18 months between them.

I wish I had had another to be honest but husband had the snip in March lol

They are hard work sometimes but I work 3 days a week and that is a nice rest lol
I also have my 16 year old daughter to help abs her friends love playing/looking after the little ones.
I love that they have each other so close in age to play with each other and defo think it keeps you young having little ones.
I absolutely adore them and as I say wish I had at least one more really.

Some of my friends have only just started having babies at 37/38 and a few already have 2/3 and are still not finished.

I had DD1 a week after turning 36 and DD2 a week before turning 37. That might be a bit closer than you were thinking but it's worked very well for us.

Yes. Had first baby at 37 and second baby at 39. They are 4 and 2 now. Good age gap.

yes. but, menopause and puberty... just saying...like.

First at 36

Second at 37

12 month gap

Hard work to begin with but a really good age gap

As someone who went through a lot of fertility treatment to have my dc, it blows my mind that people plan X amount of children with an X age gap. It must be a lovely feeling (not meant sarcastically!).

Best of luck OP. Anybody I know with a small age gap says it was hard for the first couple of years but great once the children can play together and have similar interests/abilities.

I had 2 in my later 20s.
Had no 3 at 39.
The thing I hadnt actually though about was the impact of having teens and a toddler.
Jesus it was hard!

First at 35, second at 36…there will be no more 😂

My first 2 are 10 months apart. Had my 3rd when my first 26 months. They are 13, 14 and 14 now. If I had my time again I'd spread them out.

First at 32, second at 34, third at 35 (almost 36). In an ideal world I would do the same again and have a fourth but finances wouldn’t allow it right now.

It’s tiring, oh so tiring, and now there’s three I feel like someone is always ill!

33 & 34 here (18 month gap). The first couple of years was SO hard. With the first I slept when he slept, so could catch up in the day. with the 2nd, I was just shattered. They were fab play mates though.

I agree what somebody above said that you should get and stay fit. At any age this is important for having kids but mid to late thirties it is borderline essential.

Will your twins really want the family to go back to the baby stage just as they are old enough to have some more grown-up holidays, outings etc? Will they really want your energy to be largely elsewhere with toddlers as they are starting secondary school and hitting puberty?

First at 36, second at 37….the part with two under two is a blur of tiredness. Must admit I wouldn’t have wanted to do it much later!

You'll be fine for your age. It's a bigger age gap though. Why are you waiting a few more years though?

I would say only maybe unreasonable to assume you can plan it to that extent of when you'll get pregnant and deliver. Who knows if you'll have issues TTC or anything else.

Had mine at 34 and 36, it's fine. I find it tough (youngest coming one) but I think I would've done at any age.

Two kids 20m apart at 35 and 37.
Now 43, we survived

Had my first aged 34 and second aged 35. 14 month gap.

I did not cope well mentally for many factors but physically good births and recovered well. Both healthy children.

18 months between my two in my 30’s.
I always planned a small age gap which was hard work for the first two years but then got easier when the first started school at the same time as the second started nursery and then a year later both in school.

@sparemonitor the twins are constantly asking for a sibling. They would love for us to have more. We live abroad and travel alot and did so even when they were small so having smaller ones won't stop us!

We are not planning it to a T. The reason we aren't trying right now is we are building a home and have a lot going on, once settled will TTC.

So when you are 37 and everything goes according to plan, you will have two 13 year olds, one 2 year old and a newborn? You're a braver woman than me!

I don't want a large age gap with my kids, I know it works out well for a lot of siblings, but it didn't for mine. My older sibling was very resentful of my parents time and attention being taken up by the baby (me) when they were a teenager.

Also in a way I'm glad we waited this long. After the twin pregnancy I needed to recover - get my body back, focus on them and once they started nursery i furthered my career (I am a writer and work from home so essentially can work from anywhere which has been great). I definitely would not of had more in my 20s.

I had my 2dd at 35 and 37. It was hard work but largely because dd1 has ASD and at 9 is still v demanding. I would have gone for a bigger age gap if I'd realised how much work it would be.

However 2 years is a totally normal age gap and they have each other to play with. I would imagine it's much easier than twins.

Is it likely you'll have twins again since you've had them once?

@xmasbaby11 we could have twins again but my girls are identical so I've read that's not hereditary, just a spontaneous event. I would like a singleton pregnancy this time, as I found it very hard to breastfeed my twins so would like to experience that with a singleton - however whatever we are blessed with is of course great.

Thanks for sharing your story! Yes I'm happy with the bigger age gap that will be between my twins and my next pregnancy. I wouldn't of done it any other way. I say we will concieve two more, however let's see how it goes with the first pregnancy and birth and newborn stage first before I secure that decision 😅

Two year age gaps is pretty much the norm looking at my children (16 & 18) and their friends. I don’t think it’s a small gap.