To miss being young…a lot

[Lippykids]

Thinking about it a lot recently, for some reason..midlife crisis? 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’m 43, with a toddler Dd I adore (years of fertility treatments etc resulted in miracle pregnancy and birth at 40)
I had years to have adventures and build my career, I lived a lot (aside from I wish I’d slept with more men/had more relationships) my life hasn’t been dull..I live abroad and life is..’Nice’ I have a nice car, nice house, take my Dd to the supermarket, on play dates..it’s all great, so why do I miss my youth so much? That wild, crazy time, that amazing skin and flat stomach. The feeling anything was possible, the road trips, nights out and just..fun.
Is this it now?
Anyone else feel like this?

I'm 42 with a 5 and and a 3 year old. I have zero desire to be any age or time in life other than this.

Even though I did more fun and adventurous stuff I also really yearned for the financial and emotional security I have now, and I wouldn’t pass that up. Absolutely. Pretty much every year that has passed has allowed me to relax more into my life.

There is nothing, nothing like the freedom of being 20. You just have absolutely no idea at the time, or just how much life changes. It is the most incredible age and I would relive it in a heart beat. I remember it like it was yesterday and cannot believe it was so long ago. Cannot relate to this at all. Being 20 was fun, at university and with the responsibility only of meeting essay deadlines. But the future was such a scary unknown. I didn't know who I was or where I was going to be or what I was going to do. My 20s were infinitely more lonely than my 30s.

But the future was such a scary unknown. I didn't know who I was or where I was going to be or what I was going to do. My 20s were infinitely more lonely than my 30s

Ah see I can't relate to this. I just didn't think about it. I was solely in the now. Thinking I would be 20's forever. I'm now very aware of my age and the fact that actually, I don't own the fountain of youth.

I do agree that I was lonelier though.

@unstabletoddler

There is nothing, nothing like the freedom of being 20. You just have absolutely no idea at the time, or just how much life changes. It is the most incredible age and I would relive it in a heart beat. I remember it like it was yesterday and cannot believe it was so long ago.

There is also nothing like the stress and worry of having children and I think that plays a huge part of feeling 'old' even when you're not.

I agree.

If you are lucky enough to have plenty of money as we did, everything is possible and your life is so hedonistic.

I don't think my kids are going to have it that good despite all their opportunities.

But then I don't see them getting tied down with kids either.

They all see having kids as hard work and too selfless and it doesn't appeal🤣...clealy we haven't made it look effortless!

@Draineddraineddrained I loved the mix of people that we came across whilst travelling both as single women and as a couple.
Really nice, fun, interesting, generous people.

I was so blessed.
I'd love to do it again but my SIL who attempted something similar when she retired, scuttled back to her luxury hotel very quickly as she found she couldn't hack it.
She happily reverted to her 5* escorted tours.
Perhaps I'll be the same.

I do sometimes watch Glastonbury and think how much I'd love to have a day of my youth again.. but I am far happier now and hope to take the kids when they're older. Do it comfortably!

I maxed out my 20s and as I progressed into my 30s, started to long for the life I have now. Going out drinking lost its sparkle. I am more excited by making a nice home and days out now. I look forward to seeing what life brings my toddler & baby.