New Forest pub bans under 12 year olds...

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It's all kicking off in the comments.

Do you agree with the pub's decision?

YABU No
YANBU Yes

Good for the pub
I wish they would all operate like this

Sounds amazing

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@AryaStarkWolf

God I wish all pubs would do this.

Especially in a Covid world.

Absolutely fair enough. Their pub. Their choice.

And they’ve been open and honest and polite about it too.

Good. It sounds as though they were far too patient with this family.

Hell would've frozen over before I would've asked other customers to move, rather than making the family leave.

There'll be plenty of other pubs they can take them to.

I agree, there's nothing worse than going out for lunch and having the occasion being ruined by other people's children (or dogs for that matter). So many parents think they can control their children but don't.

I was in a restaurant which wasn't very busy, but the parents thought it was entirely acceptable for their children to race round the room, under the empty tables, playing hide and seek etc - parents looking on indulgently at their 'spirited' DC it ruined what should have been a nice lunch out for DH and I. Yes, I am a parent but the minute my DC misbehaved in a restaurant one of us would take him out.

I am sure this pub will now get plenty of bookings from people wanting to eat out in a child free environment.

What if the child identifies as a fifty year old?

We take our DC to a local pub that welcomes families but is not family-friendly in the sense that there is nothing for children to do there, no concessions for them, hardly any soft drinks/snacks available - however the owners are happy for kids to be there, chat to them etc. But any kid running around or being rowdy wouldn't be welcomed at all. It's perfectly possible to have kids in a pub without disturbing anyone else (they play on their tablets/read/do puzzles or play games with other people at the table).

I don’t blame them. If parents can’t or won’t take responsibility for their children, then places only have one option.

Stop all children

It’s a shame a few has ruined it for the many, but sometimes you have no choice

They banned kids on every day apart from Sunday a while ago. It's a shame that the behaviour of a few have spoilt it for others. It's particularly s shame for any coeliac families as this pub is totally gluten free I believe. But it's up to the pub.

Pub perfectly within its rights to prioritise family atmosphere or child free atmosphere. I would not go often as generally go out as a family. It would be my first choice when out without children though!

Up to the pub. They will lose some customers but gain others. I don’t appreciate unruly kids when I’m eating out. Well behaved ones are fine. Problem is, the parents of the troublesome ones tend to kick off if you dare remonstrate with their little cherubs.

Good on them - I have 3 Young children and wouldn't dream of taking them to a pub to eat

There are plenty of family friendly restaurants these days to eat at - leave the pub for the grown ups

Absolutely spot on. We went out on xmas eve a few years ago for lunch at a local pub. We were a group of 4 adults and were sat next to a large table containing about 6 under 8 year old children and associated parents. It was hell. From the screaming, wailing, complaining about what they did or didn't like, then the parents doing performance parenting trying to placate them. It was actually unbelievable that the parents seemed to have zero awareness of where they actually were. We asked to be moved to a quieter area and one of the parents said "they're just children being children". Gobsmacked doesn't cover it - this is a PUB. It is not a ball park, or soft play or MacDonalds, but a PUB serving alcohol - a pub where up until a few years ago you could smoke in. When did pubs become a playground for children?

@Shoxfordian

Good for the pub I wish they would all operate like this

Not all but those that want to certainly should and people should have the choice as to where they want to frequent, not just pubs but all restaurants.

I have always told my kids bum in seats unless they need the toilet

I don’t like seeing children running around pubs and cafes especially when staff are carrying hot food and and drinks.

Places that have soft play areas, fair play. But proper restaurants, no

More than reasonable. I have a child under 12 and she’s really well behaved in restaurants (thankfully) but it doesn’t bother me I couldn’t take her there as their reasons are more than justified. Some kids and parents are just shits and ruin it for everyone.

Seems fair. I wish more places had such rules tbh. Recently went to a really nice restaurant for a night out with DH and 2 kids on the next table kind of ruined it with their unruly behaviour. Though I was probably just bitter because it was put first child free night out in ages and they were ruining my 'night off' vibe

Its up to them! I think they'll lose money from not having those family bookings but maybe it'll be made up for with adults wanting the child free environment.

Sounds great to me, wish it was nearer!

The pub owners are well known attention seekers, they've got a dog called Boris and they were extremely vocal about their love of Brexit. Knowing their views, and their regular clientele, I doubt it's just children that aren't welcome.

It's not just noisy children. Anyone who worked in hospitality knows how many families leave the tables....

I am with them. It's shame few ruin it for the good ones, but I am with them.

Good for them, it is a shame for the families who would like to go there with their children who actually behave themselves but, as so often is the case, the behaviour of the few worst ruins it for everyone else.

My SILs kids are an absolute nightmare at the table and as such we try and avoid eating out with them as much as possible. The kids run riot, shouting, screaming constantly asking to get down from the table or whining that they're "bored". Luckily my DD is old enough to understand that she still needs to behave appropriately even if her cousins won't, but I can't relax knowing they're ruining everyone else's experience (mine especially).