Am I overreacting?

[youngandbroken]

My 2 year old is unwell, she has had a high temperature for 3 days, has got progressively worse - just a temperature but seemed fine in herself on Thursday, developed a cough as well as the temperature yesterday and was a bit more clingy and tired but still cheerful until yesterday evening when she became very miserable, had more coughing fits that sounded very chesty and almost like she was gagging, she was also making grunt sounds when breathing at one point, today she has been extremely lethargic all day, only had a few bites to eat and only breastfed, slept or watched TV all day (she did have about 10 minutes of walking around trying to play earlier but has gone back to sleeping again now. I have said that if she gets worse I want to ring 111 to get advice but her dad says that I am overreacting and that I always overreact.

His examples of this are with our eldest -
I took her to hospital when she fell and cut the corner of her eye when she was about 18 months old, they couldn't glue it because she wouldn't stay still and so decided to leave it - he says because they did nothing I shouldn't have taken her. I also took her to out of hours when she wasn't drinking much and had quite dry nappies, although she did end up being ok and it was just a viral infection (admittedly she did also perk up alot when we were in the waiting room and started drinking again when we left). Also my doctor once rung an ambulance for me because they thought I had sepsis but because I was discharged after 5 hours of IV antibiotics he says I was overreacting on this too (although I wasn't the person who rang the ambulance) and he told everyone he could that I didn't have sepsis - I was only repeating what I had been told but I suppose he is right I didn't have sepsis because they did send me home.

I now feel like if I do ring 111 then firstly they might think I am overreacting, and secondly my partner will end up being very angry at me for over reacting.

I admit I do feel panicky when my children are unwell (more so when they can't tell me what is wrong) so I might be over reacting but I also don't know what justifies calling 111 now.

Call 111, that’s what they are there for. Your daughters dad, completely ignore him, he sounds ill informed, and a bully into the bargain.

With a 2 year old it could be anything but would suspect with a high temperature and a cough a Covid test would be what 111 will ask you to do ?

I mean call 111. But I did this the other week, for ds with similar symptoms and they sent an ambulance. So be prepared they may do that.

Definitely ring 111, it sound slide my sin did last year when he had covid.

Have you done a coronavirus test? Sounds a lot like how my DC was when they had a positive result.
Either way I wouldn’t hesitate to get medical advice if you are concerned, especially when it comes to a 2 yo.

Her Dad sounds a total twat to be honest.

I called 111 and subsequently took my DD (3) to A&E a few weeks ago as she'd had a temp over 40 for several hours which was rising after calpol and was super lethargic - the lethargy is a really concerning symptom in children. We were there for over 6 hours, and almost admitted until they finally managed to get her temp down and she started perking up.

Call 111, always trust your gut, you know when your kids are not right.

I haven't done a test yet, I'm waiting on one, I do have the ones for a fast result here but I don't think your supposed to use them if your symptomatic.

Just call 111. ignore your twat of a husband 😡

Immediately marching down to A&E is overreacting but the whole point of 111 is for them to assess the situation and use their training give advice. It's no different to asking your pharmacist for advice. I wouldn't think twice about calling them.

Call 111 especially if she was grunting with breathing.
Don't leave it any longer.

Ignore your dick of a husband. How dare he.

You know your baby best. Don't ignore you gist instinct. They will never think you're over reacting.

Gut not gist.

Call 111. It's just a phone call and it's what they're there for. It's not like you want to dial 999!

You shouldn't be fretting about taking any course of action because of your husband's potential reaction though. That's not healthy

That is exactly what 111 is for. To get professional advice when you are unsure. Its literally what the sevice is for. In no way will you be wasting their time. And, btw, I dont think you are over reacting at all. Yes toddlers can get temps often, but they can also go downhill very quickly. With the added breathing problems I would be concerned.

Ignore the dad, trust yourself.

Yes call 111 that’s what the service is for, to get advice

Her dad sounds bloody useless and bordering on neglectful, are you together?

Jesus he's a dick

Call 111

Lethargic and grunting warrants advice.

Hiis she having plenty of wet nappies?

Yes your partner sounds awful

You need medical advice and a test

Ask him which medical school he went to.
No way would I let my dh dictate to me about our dc...

Please call 111.

My son's dad is similar. He burnt himself when he was just starting to walk and his dad made me feel like I was the most dramatic person ever. I called 111 and they said to go A&E and he had MONTHS of bandages on his hand. Not the same situation I know, but honestly always trust your gut.

I'd ring 111. I don't like the sound of the grunting breathing, or the lethargy. Sounds like it might be Covid.

Your h sounds like a bully and a dickhead, btw.

she has had a high temperature for 3 days, has got progressively worse
You are quite right to get medical advice. You are not bothering them at the drop of a hat - You've held off for three days.

DONT DOUBT YOURSELF!! go with your instincts,.
oYour case WAS serious enough to have 5 hours of IV antibiotics - what would have happened if you hadn't got it ? now dare he mock you for being foolish because of it.
I've been in situations where high temperatures escalated or a wound developed tracking . He needs to wise up.
High temperatures can escalate and just because you get medical treatment/advice to avert a disaster - doesn't mean you shouldn't have got the treatment - only that it worked!

That's the whole point of 111. Yes they do always side on the heir of caution but the way I look at it is would I rather call and it turns out everything was fine, or not call and miss something serious?

Thank you all I called 111, thankfully she has perked up a bit and played for a little while so it's ok to just keep an eye on her (and obviously do the test) for now, but to call back if she gets worse again.

You absolutely did the right thing. I once tripped in the garden and was walking a with a limp. Dh said I would be ok but I made him take me to A & E. I came out with plaster up to my knee and on crutches. I had broken a bone in my foot. Also I fell by stepping on a ball I was in agony that night but Dh said to wait and go to the doctors on Monday this was Saturday. I went on the Sunday morning I knew the GP would tell me to go to hospital to have it x-rayed and how would I get there with DH at work also Monday would have been a Bank holiday

My elbow was broken and it took a good few physiotherapy sessions to get the movement back to normal. I don't listen to him and call him Dr xxx when he starts to voice his opinion on what might be wrong in a medical sense. He doesn't have a problem taking himself to the gp when he thinks he might have something wrong. Though the doctor was a bit when he went to them with chest pain and not straight to A&E .

I’d keep an eye on her overnight and it sounds like it could be the onset of croup. Hope she is better soon.

My child had this. The grunt is serious. She had all sorts of infections and ended up in hospital. She was also aged 2. Ring 111 and they will sort you 💐