My 2 year old is unwell, she has had a high temperature for 3 days, has got progressively worse - just a temperature but seemed fine in herself on Thursday, developed a cough as well as the temperature yesterday and was a bit more clingy and tired but still cheerful until yesterday evening when she became very miserable, had more coughing fits that sounded very chesty and almost like she was gagging, she was also making grunt sounds when breathing at one point, today she has been extremely lethargic all day, only had a few bites to eat and only breastfed, slept or watched TV all day (she did have about 10 minutes of walking around trying to play earlier but has gone back to sleeping again now. I have said that if she gets worse I want to ring 111 to get advice but her dad says that I am overreacting and that I always overreact.
His examples of this are with our eldest -
I took her to hospital when she fell and cut the corner of her eye when she was about 18 months old, they couldn't glue it because she wouldn't stay still and so decided to leave it - he says because they did nothing I shouldn't have taken her. I also took her to out of hours when she wasn't drinking much and had quite dry nappies, although she did end up being ok and it was just a viral infection (admittedly she did also perk up alot when we were in the waiting room and started drinking again when we left). Also my doctor once rung an ambulance for me because they thought I had sepsis but because I was discharged after 5 hours of IV antibiotics he says I was overreacting on this too (although I wasn't the person who rang the ambulance) and he told everyone he could that I didn't have sepsis - I was only repeating what I had been told but I suppose he is right I didn't have sepsis because they did send me home.
I now feel like if I do ring 111 then firstly they might think I am overreacting, and secondly my partner will end up being very angry at me for over reacting.
I admit I do feel panicky when my children are unwell (more so when they can't tell me what is wrong) so I might be over reacting but I also don't know what justifies calling 111 now.