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To want covid vaccine even though bf says I cant

318 replies

Trumanshow · 18/06/2021 22:47

So my bf lives with his mum who is pretty old. Apparently her dr has said she shouldn't have the covid vaccine as it's not safe and no one who has had it can come into contact with her for 10 days. So my bf says Im not allowed to have it done. As far as I know the vaccine can't shed and if his mum is old (80s but otherwise healthy) she will be fine having the jab herself! She believes crystals heal....

I'm pretty well educated and they are starting to make me doubt myself, Im booked to have first dose tomorrow (my hometown has had a massive surge in cases) but I'm scared of the fallout if I do. AIBU just to go have it done even though he says I cant?

OP posts:
Peace43 · 19/06/2021 07:11

Have the vaccine but get rid of the controlling boyfriend!

Hathertonhariden · 19/06/2021 07:13

The guy has the IQ of a syringe. Inoculate yourself against him at the same time as getting the Covid jab.

Nowthisisme · 19/06/2021 07:19

@Trumanshow

Thank you all. I was starting to think I was a lunatic for arguing about it.

Yes Notthecatswhiskers ... That's me (and him)

You are not the lunatic in this situation …
mathanxiety · 19/06/2021 07:24

Your BF is seriously out of order here, and you should dump him immediately.

He is an utter swine.

You need to grow a backbone and start taking yourself seriously.

Averyyounggrandmaofsix · 19/06/2021 07:24

I bet he's scared of needles and that's why he doesn't want it. Personally I think doing as mummy says is much more pathetic.
How old are you OP?

Pompom2367 · 19/06/2021 07:27

Op I agree get the vaccine no doctor would tell them that

Twoforthree · 19/06/2021 07:27

The doctor may well have advised his mum not to have the jab - for her own individual medical reasons. That doesn’t apply to everyone else.

Get the jab.

roguetomato · 19/06/2021 07:31

I think it's quite dangerous situation you are in if you started to doubt yourself with something so simple. Even that the fact that she can't have vaccine is true, then common sense is everyone around her needs to be vaccinated to protect her. If you started to doubt if opposite is true, you are started to be brainwashed by your bf. I'd run.

Butterfly44 · 19/06/2021 07:34

Set your bar higher. You to not want a long term relationship with this guy. There would always be issues, leave now rather than later. This is the perfect excuse to get rid

ihtwsf · 19/06/2021 07:39

The only way a doctor would have said not to get the vaccine is if there were contraindications. My uncle (well over 80) was not given the vaccine because he has had anaphylactic reactions to 2 or 3 different medications. His doctor advised against the vaccine.
If this had been the case with bf's mother I am sure she would have said she couldn't have it for that reason or some other medical reason.
A crystal healing "doctor" might have said it is unsafe but I can't imagine any GP doing that.

If this is a genuine OP and not a "let's start a thread to attract anti-vaxxers to get the message spread more under the guise of the OP supposedly wanting the vaccine", OP I would advise you to get the vaccine, not see him or his mother for 10 days and then dump him.

It is very controlling behaviour. Your body. Your health. Your decision.

sparemonitor · 19/06/2021 07:41

Your BF's Mum's GP didn't say this
Your BF is a controlling arse
His Mum is a bonkers anti vaxxer

have the jab and ditch both of them

NotTheCatsWhiskers · 19/06/2021 07:42

So why are you still with him 6 months after your last thread?

Your self esteem would be better if you weren’t with this loser. Being on your own would be better than being with someone who repeatedly brings you down.

ssd · 19/06/2021 07:43

Good try op

Zzelda · 19/06/2021 07:47

Your BF is a serial cheat and an idiot. Why waste any more time on him?

CaptainMyCaptain · 19/06/2021 07:48

@FadedRed

1) have the jab tomorrow as planned. 2) get yourself a nice boyfriend who has an IQ in at least double figures.
Good advice.
Borderterrierpuppy · 19/06/2021 07:48

Dear Op
Please Chuck this idiot your life will be better for it x

SunshineCake · 19/06/2021 07:48

Relationship over.

Lincslady53 · 19/06/2021 07:49

My MIL, 97, and my mother, 92, have both had the vaccine, as have all residents of my mum's care home. All are well, and we can now go and visit my mum. Your BF is an idiot and his mum is where he inherited his idiocy from. Get the vaccine and if he kicks off, dump him.

IWentAwayIStayedAway · 19/06/2021 07:52

19th June. Your future anniversary date for ditching the boyfriend. He's telling you whst life with him is like. Run for the hills

MiniMaxi · 19/06/2021 07:56

It’s not a live virus vaccine. You can’t pass on the virus.

That is true of some (maybe polio I think?) and can be risky for people with very low immune systems - but absolutely not the case here.

Hollywhiskey · 19/06/2021 07:57

Sounds like his mum uses a naturopathic 'doctor'. I have some relatives who have bought into this nonsense and they absolutely believe that the vaccine can shed and contaminate the unvaccinated. We were sent a bullshit video listing some of the effects on the unvaccinated such as a man affected by sleeping in the same bed as his vaccinated wife - he slept badly and woke with a headache.
My relative is a naturopath and absolutely peddles this sort of nonsense.

ItIsAShameAboutRay · 19/06/2021 08:01

First get the vaccine, then dump the ludicrous boyfriend.

Why does he live with his mum?
Why does he think he gets to tell you what to do with your body?

He sounds controlling, unpleasant, doesn’t seem to care if you get Covid. I’m sure he must have some redeeming features…or does he?

Librariesmakeshhhhappen · 19/06/2021 08:04

@FinallyFluid

Grow up.
This.
DeathByWalkies · 19/06/2021 08:08

@Trumanshow

I'm not allowed to see him for 10 days after vaccine either apparently... Because he lives with his mum (at 43) he says he will take it home with him. Never mind the countless people they both see everyday, it's just a control thing I think. I was starting to doubt my stance on this so thank you for reassuring me
So he's thick, an antivaxxer who lies about what doctors have said, is trying to control your healthcare decisions, has red flags for more widespread controlling behaviour, and is still living with his mummy at the age of 43.

Does he have anything going for him?

HaveringWavering · 19/06/2021 08:10

Swap the prick in your bed for a much more useful one in your arm!