Page 3 | Bitter about missing school occasions

Rhinothunder · 2021-06-18T20:31:45+00:00

Just really beginning to hate this government. Parents have been banned from sports days at all our local schools as they say its too much risk and they can't police lots of bubbles as required by govt guidelines. We've also been banned from assemblies and shows even if can hold them outside. I haven't seen a single thing yet in my 6 year olds school career. We saw so much for the older ones and was a real high for us and the kids. Meanwhile on the news we are watching g7 encourages, football officalls and z list celebrities swan round the world and mass together. It's so galling and I'm getting really angry about it. Struggling to accept it and thinking of how I can take action.

Glenthebattleostrich · 18/06/2021 22:09

@GoofyIsACow, please dont think that was directed at the school. They are doing the best they can within the guidelines given by our local authority / government. Our school school staff are amazing and the work they have done with DD is fantastic.

It was directed at the government and those who believe that only covid matters. having seen 2 family friends lose people because of suicide brought on by lockdown and seeing a friend who's cancer was missed because her GP wouldn't see her I'm feeling somewhat bitter towards the "but people die from covid" crowd who have forgotten those who are also suffering, or who disregard the suffering and label people selfish for caring about other things.

DappledThings · 18/06/2021 22:09

@doodlejump1980

What has annoyed me (and I know it’s petty in the grand scheme of things) but we have no official P1 photos. We have the doorstep ones, but no official school photos “because of covid” 🙄

That's crazy. We've had them this year. A full class photo and an individual portrait, all as normal. Sounds like your school using covid as an excuse not to bother.

Went in yesterday for parents' evening. In the hall rather than the classroom and only one parent was allowed to attend but it still happened.

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints · 18/06/2021 22:09

I'm bloody angry. Had an email from dc1(11,y6) secondary school yesterday saying the County Council have told them to cancel the planned induction day, as the risk is too high, even though they were going to be doing 2x LFT's in the week leading up to it. Luckily her trip to PGL can still go ahead. Dc5(3) has had his sports day & leavers assembly cancelled at nursery.

No, in the grand scheme of things these events & the others my middle 3 are missing aren't huge, but they're important to them. And, frankly, I'm sick to death of trying to explain to them why they're seeing large gatherings on the news (crowds of fans for the Eng v Scot game, Ascot etc on the news) but I can't go to sports day/leavers assembly etc.

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Rhinothunder · 18/06/2021 22:09

@LaProcureure

Yikes, first world issues much…

I'm not exactly complaining my diamond shoes are too tight.

These are milestone events that never happen again and there is no longer any logic behind robbing children and parents of these experiences. In fact we are seeing live on TV tonight 000's of people proving that it should be possible.

It's unjust.

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Yubaba · 18/06/2021 22:09

My dc school is running sports day this year, each class is having a 1 hour window. Only one parent per child can come and they need to wear a mask even though it’s outside.
They are also putting on the year 6 end of year play.
It’s better than last year, DS1 finished year 6 and he had absolutely nothing.

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Rhinothunder · 18/06/2021 22:10

Yes because freedom day was just changed so they have all been impacted now

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Rhinothunder · 18/06/2021 22:11

@BernardsarenotalwaysSaints

I'm bloody angry. Had an email from dc1(11,y6) secondary school yesterday saying the County Council have told them to cancel the planned induction day, as the risk is too high, even though they were going to be doing 2x LFT's in the week leading up to it. Luckily her trip to PGL can still go ahead. Dc5(3) has had his sports day & leavers assembly cancelled at nursery.

No, in the grand scheme of things these events & the others my middle 3 are missing aren't huge, but they're important to them. And, frankly, I'm sick to death of trying to explain to them why they're seeing large gatherings on the news (crowds of fans for the Eng v Scot game, Ascot etc on the news) but I can't go to sports day/leavers assembly etc.

Exactly.

It's the hypocrisy.

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Mischance · 18/06/2021 22:12

I am going to my GS's sports day - I am surprised that this is not allowed in some schools.

lordalmighty · 18/06/2021 22:12

I've never been able to go to my DDs sports day as it's always been on a day I work. Sods law, this year it fell on my day off and parents werent allowed to go. But she understands and wasn't bothered so it was okay. Things that make me bitter still are that I couldn't visit my mum in hospital for 2 weeks before she moved to intensive care when she became ill really suddenly and died, I had to go in myself in full PPE to say goodbye, couldn't hold a proper funeral, there was no wake or celebration of life and I still havent been able to travel to scatter her ashes where she wanted after a year. I try not to dwell on it but it is upsetting. Oh, I also didn't see her for months before she died as I'm an NHS worker, she was shielding & I was worried I would make her ill. Ha! It wasn't bloody covid that got her & I wish I had broken all the rules and seen her every single day had I known she would die at 52. It's been a funny old year for everyone and I think people, understandably, are finding it more difficult as time goes on. We aren't 'missing out on our children's lives' but it is okay to feel sad at what we have missed. (As an aside I work with children who are life limited and several have passed this year- I feel really upset for those families who haven't been able to make the memories I know they so wanted to)

CarrieBlue · 18/06/2021 22:13

I’m delighted that parents don’t have to attend sports day, assemblies, school productions, shell out for residential S or trips. No guilt for not being able to attend due to work, no ridiculous sobbing from parents at leavers assemblies, no over competitiveness from other parents at sports day or about SATs results. So refreshing!

OP please don’t feel the need to ‘do something’ on my child’s behalf (who really isn’t bothered as I don’t catastrophise around them so they know no different) or for me as a parent. I also appreciate that the staff at my child’s school are pretty much on their knees with exhaustion after the toughest 15 months of their careers, and all the things you are bitter about are things they do from their goodwill, extra to their job of teaching.

notanothertakeaway · 18/06/2021 22:13

[quote Dandelionstem]@LaProcureure

How is it a first world issue to want children to be settled into new environments and to be involved in their schooling?[/quote]
In the past, we didn't have transition days. We went in and got on with it. And it was fine

Crazycakelady17 · 18/06/2021 22:14

My DDs y6 and is currently away on her pgl residential, we are not going to sports day (I’m glad of that one my DD hates it and so do I)
The play and assembly are going to be on zoom so still doing them I’m happy with that it’s the transition days and the summer school that I’m more annoyed about but it is what it is

lordalmighty · 18/06/2021 22:15

Sorry that turned into a bit of a moan about my own problems I hope everyone manages to find a way to celebrate their children's milestone days/events.

GoofyIsACow · 18/06/2021 22:16

[quote Glenthebattleostrich]@GoofyIsACow, please dont think that was directed at the school. They are doing the best they can within the guidelines given by our local authority / government. Our school school staff are amazing and the work they have done with DD is fantastic.

It was directed at the government and those who believe that only covid matters. having seen 2 family friends lose people because of suicide brought on by lockdown and seeing a friend who's cancer was missed because her GP wouldn't see her I'm feeling somewhat bitter towards the "but people die from covid" crowd who have forgotten those who are also suffering, or who disregard the suffering and label people selfish for caring about other things.[/quote]
I’m really sorry about your friends, that’s tragic. 😥

BarbarianMum · 18/06/2021 22:18

Weird. Our secondary seconary school sent out a letter today saying that the usual move up week (every year moves to next year's timetable and teachers and the new Y7s come in) will be going ahead, albeit staying in year group bubbles.

toomuchfaster · 18/06/2021 22:19

@Rhinothunder she has been to the new school at least twice already, another session next week and at least one more as part of the whole county move up. That is happening first week in July as planned. Everything else is before 19th apart from Leavers BBQ, but that is traditionally in the last week of term. We are limited to one parent per child to keep to 30 and the assembly will be outside if necessary and only one class at a time, although it always is due to the size of the school hall. Parent's evening is online again, but I see my child's teacher twice a day and we can catch them for urgent things as always. Individual and class photos last year and this year as normal. The school has managed COVID unbelievably well, only 2 cases across 12 classes and both last year. It definitely sounds like some schools are using COVID as an excuse.

Dandelionstem · 18/06/2021 22:19

@notanothertakeaway

I went to transition days. I looked round the school and met my teachers. Great if you have confident self assured children. Mine would do better with more of a gentle introduction.

Why can massive crowds gather for football but children can’t meet their teachers? Because it’s all about money.

Stompythedinosaur · 18/06/2021 22:20

You understand that the pandemic is to blame, not the people making rules to keep people safe?

It is sad, but I think you are getting things out of proportion.

BarbarianMum · 18/06/2021 22:21

@Dandelionstem but they can, at least in many places. So it's obviously not government policy.

Malteser71 · 18/06/2021 22:22

So many things missed ‘because of covid.’

Pathetic excuse much of the time.

Dandelionstem · 18/06/2021 22:25

@BarbarianMum

Fair enough. It’s probably down to ‘interpretation’ of the rules. Or maybe some just can’t be bothered.

MarshaBradyo · 18/06/2021 22:26

People might be ok with missing stuff but isolation is problematic. Hopefully addressed very soon.

CallmeHendricks · 18/06/2021 22:30

@Malteser71

So many things missed ‘because of covid.’

Pathetic excuse much of the time.

Excuse by whom?

Watermelon221 · 18/06/2021 22:32

I completely agree Op.

It’s ridiculous that these things can’t go ahead when they are in school all day together and also when so many things have opened up especially sports events.

We have had prom, leavers assembly, last sports day, commendation day, residential trips, sports awards, school production, inter school sports etc all cancelled. These are things that my dcs in yr 11 and 10 have looked forward to for the whole of their school life. One dc had a main part in the production and was beyond excited.

For all those who say it doesn’t matter and they don’t care, there is more to life than lessons and exams. Some children don’t excel academically but are creative and/or sporty and that is their chance to shine.

I have no idea how some schools are able to run these while others have said they are having to be cancelled on lea advice. At least make it the same across all schools.

Or, even better, set up pcr testing in schools if there is that much of a problem and test pupils before these things.

Alloftheboys · 18/06/2021 22:40

I don’t understand how some of these events or activities aren’t taking place?
Surely class photos are ok? Photographer stays behind camera and teacher or TA gets the kids in the right place for them?
Year 6 disco, instead of the whole year together have smaller class parties.