Neighbours pis*ed off we're in our garden when isolating

[blakeway45]

Me, DH and 2x DC (age 4 and 2) are isolating due to DH testing positive (the issues that come with this could be a whole other post in itself!).

Neighbours know we are isolating as they know my MIL well.

Yesterday we spent most of the day in and out of the garden. We're all feeling fine, kids have been playing in their paddling pool and on their slide and I've been pottering about and sunbathing. We also had lunch in the garden as a family.

Neighbours are livid we're in the garden when isolating because we could pass it to them over the fence?! I appreciate COVID is making everyone worry in lots of ways, but we are not breaking ANY rules in doing and it's OUR garden?! I'd be going insane if we had no outside space! Although the gardens run alongside each other all the way down, the gardens are pretty wide, it's not like we're sharing a space or are massively on top of each other?! There's a fence and a great big bush between us for goodness sake!!!

They have text me and called my MIL saying they're not pleased we're outside while we have COVID and they'd appreciate it if we'd be more careful and not pass it along the street?!

AIBU????

I haven't replied yet as I don't know what to say!

Tell them to fuck off - they’re mental. Then tell your MIL that your PRIVATE medical information is not hers to share with whoever she feels like and to mind her own business. You don’t need to do anything else as you’re not doing anything wrong.

Is it still April 2020? I can’t believe after the last 15 months we’re back here with people condemning others for using their own gardens and throwing our talk of ventilators at every opportunity. I have massive de ja vu. There was always a problem with people trying to enforce rules and guidance that does not exist and I thought that had gone but apparently not. They’re still here with all the indignant righteous anger of the misinformed.

I’m wondering if the posters frothing on this thread are the same ones as last year using different names or if they’re new to it @JeanClaudeVanDammit

Has anyone mentioned the war yet?

Bet they’re all still disinfecting their groceries too.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat I would bet my annual wages they are the same ones.

Have any of you mouthy mother's had Covid yourselves? ...well I have and caught it going to the supermarket. I can tell you its damn scarey!

@Doodlebug71 no i do not believe what Boris says i am not stupid so do not FFS me!! I actually really do not like him. I do not have time for people who talk down to others and treat them like shit so there you are

Check out guidelines on the following government issued link and tell everyone they are wrong then!!
It states

• Take exercise within your home, garden or private outdoor space.

ALSO -I’m currently self-isolating, am I allowed into my garden? If you have a garden or outdoor space where you live, you can use that to go outside while you self-isolate. You should take extra care to stay at least 2 meters (6 feet, or 3 steps) away from other people who might pass by or look into your garden - for example, people walking on the street or neighbors in their own garden. www.worcestershire.gov.uk/download/downloads/id/13745/covid-19_self_isolation_booklet.pdf

FFS. You believe anything Johnson says? Neighbours are not being paranoid.

Who has to believe them? They are the ones setting the rules.

So, your agreement is not required for the OP to go in the garden.

I would love to know what research says it can float several meters away from one garden to another, in large enough amounts for infection. Would you be OK with it if the wind was blowing away from the neighbours?

One of the reasons, the first set of restrictions eased are on meeting people outside. Because if you are outside, more than a meter away, transmission risk is tiny if not zero.

If the neighbours got that close to the OP, that's their issue.

My son is self isolating (ends this weekend) from nursery but can't isolate from the family as he's a baby.
I remember last summer my neighbour asked us to not use our garden at the same time his kids did and none of us even had Covid. I said I had no problem with him using his garden and that there was a nice park up the road if he didn't want to be in the garden when we were . He didn't respond.

@Kazzzzzzzzzzz. My partner and I had Covid very badly in February despite taking massive precautions because we both have serious underlying conditions. My partner tested positive on a lateral flow test before being admitted to hospital for a necessary procedure. This later turned out to be a false positive, confirmed by two separate PCR tests - neither of which were admitted by the hospital but were sent to his phone as he had the app. They put him straight on a Covid ward without waiting for the results of the PCR and sent him home infected. He passed it on to me and we were both extremely ill. So yes, this mouthy mother has had it and I still find it ridiculous that people think it’s transmissible from a garden while isolating.

Posted too soon. I blame the NHS totally for our infection. If we’re supposed to follow the rules why can’t they - they knew we were a huge risk and didn’t follow their own guidelines.

Had Covid-19 at the very start, family members who were not in my bubble also were extremely ill with it. No messing about here or taking chances. If we were to go out in public people could be walking around not knowing they had Covid so i still avoid busy places. Very few people seem to respect the 2 metre rule, could catch it anywhere

Yes well we're still learning alot about this virus and it's mutating so we don't really have enough information or research to back it up do we? They wouldn't admit it was airborne until fairly recently. Measles is a virus which is airborne and can travel long distances.

@Doodlebug71 I mean this kindly get some help for your anxiety or if you are what I suspect stop trying to wind people up it’s not funny .
I feel like a really rubbish broken record but you can’t catch Covid in your garden unless the op is stood chatting to said neighbours for a good few minutes within 2 metres . If op is in her garden and neighbours is in their garden the Covid virus that you are so worried will not blow over and pass into someone . Seriously you don’t actually think this ? So stop it and for you own mental health maybe just stop because you can keep saying it but it really isn’t true and there has never been any suggestion that you can’t go in your own garden while isolating .

When we all had covid the only person in my household that didn’t was my 1yo. Judging by this thread I should have locked her in a cupboard or something for 2 weeks to avoid contact…

I think it is supremely selfish that a neighbour would try and deny an isolating family the use of their own garden. Small children do not do well kept inside for any length of time. The neighbour can go out for a walk if they’re that bothered, the children don’t have any other outlet.

@Imnothereforthedrama i wonder if @Doodlebug71 is the neighbour 😂 Totally just here to scare and fight with everyone anyway

@Kazzzzzzzzzzz

Have any of you mouthy mother's had Covid yourselves? ...well I have and caught it going to the supermarket. I can tell you its damn scarey!

I’m not a mother so I presume I don’t count!

Have any of you mouthy mother's had Covid yourselves? ...well I have and caught it going to the supermarket. I can tell you its damn scarey!

Yes, I caught it on late Feb 2020. Still don't have my sense of taste or smell back properly and have been referred to a long covid clinic. Over a year later. When I got it there was only 15 reported cases in the UK. Clearly, there wasn't only 15.

Both me and my 8 year old were so ill we ended up in hospital. Everytime, I coughed I pissed myself. When I slept my chest was so crackly it would wake me up.

My aunt ended up in intensive care and we didn't think she would make it.

Is that enough for you?

You caught it in an indoor space. Not in your garden. So what's your point?

And as for 'we don't know much', we know more now than last year. And if we are going to go with that thinking, we would have to lockdown forever. If you can't go in your garden, because we don't know enough. You can't go anywhere.

Fruitcakes.
Don't waste your energy on considerable daftness.

I’d be pretty pissed off if my neighbour had covid and was sitting in their garden a couple of metres away from me behind a fence. I think YABU.

Loons - tell them to mind their own Effing business and you will do whatever you like on your own garden - and spend all your time in it

I’d be pretty pissed off if my neighbour had covid and was sitting in their garden a couple of metres away from me behind a fence

Why?

Very much a choice Doodlebug and my choice would be not to isolate anyone in a lone room if we got COVID in the house. Same as I wouldn't if we got flu, or norovirus or a staph chest infection. We are a family and get through these things together.

Your comment about ventilators is ridiculous too - it's implying that Covid inevitably leads to being put on one which is blatantly untrue and scaremongering - as an ITU nurse I know all about ventilators believe me, been operating them on patients for over twenty years.

I would certainly be using my garden in the same circumstances as the OP!

@chasingmytail4 Lots of my family and friends have had it because I lived in London last year at the start. My bro and his family were quite ill with it. Tons of my colleagues had it. One of my nieces has just had it.

Would still not isolate within the family if we got it in the house.

MIL has loose lips!