Neighbours pis*ed off we're in our garden when isolating

[blakeway45]

Me, DH and 2x DC (age 4 and 2) are isolating due to DH testing positive (the issues that come with this could be a whole other post in itself!).

Neighbours know we are isolating as they know my MIL well.

Yesterday we spent most of the day in and out of the garden. We're all feeling fine, kids have been playing in their paddling pool and on their slide and I've been pottering about and sunbathing. We also had lunch in the garden as a family.

Neighbours are livid we're in the garden when isolating because we could pass it to them over the fence?! I appreciate COVID is making everyone worry in lots of ways, but we are not breaking ANY rules in doing and it's OUR garden?! I'd be going insane if we had no outside space! Although the gardens run alongside each other all the way down, the gardens are pretty wide, it's not like we're sharing a space or are massively on top of each other?! There's a fence and a great big bush between us for goodness sake!!!

They have text me and called my MIL saying they're not pleased we're outside while we have COVID and they'd appreciate it if we'd be more careful and not pass it along the street?!

AIBU????

We are all doubly vaccinated and one of us has covid 19 positive test !!

@Seahorsemama

Your neighbours and MIL are morons

No, they're not. Many of the PPs in here are, though. The ignorance, and entitlement is appalling to see. I can see why MN have lost sponsors. Companies don't want to be associated with that level of ignorance/stupidity.

Thank you for your email. You are correct in questioning why the husband isn’t isolating himself. Don’t this family know/care that even with the vaccine older people and those with underlying medical conditions can still get Covid. The family should advise the neighbours that they have taken their concerns to heart and will be staying 2 metres away from fence line.

I hope you've closed all the windows and hermetically sealed the house. Can't be too careful, can you?

@Doodlebug71 my dgs is isolating since a case of covid at his primary school. Do you think his parents should throw food in his room and shout instructions at bed time?
No, thought not.

@PinkSparklyPussyCat ah your husband should have isolated in a tent (if you have a garden)
FGS if you live in a small home your partner would have probably passed it to you before he knew he got it - isolating from family is fine if you have spare space but many people simply don't - all you can do is be extra vigilant on cleaning & washing etc & hope
I remember dd got mumps when she was little (days before vax for it) none of the 3 adults in the had had it - we were very careful & extra cleaning & none of us (that goodness!)caught it

YANBU Tell them to mind their own

What an odd and rather pointless analogy. GARDENS ARE A SAFE PLACE, and actually so is everywhere else. Unless you
re elderly or you have an underlying health condition. Recent tests in the US on donated blood for the blood donor programme, has shown a 49% covid antibody presence, at the point when America had only vaccinated 12% of the population. So herd immunity will happen, with or without vaccines. Vaccines are necessary to protect vulnerable people. For non vulnerable people, taking the vaccine is optional. We were never forced to have the flu jab.

It’s selfishness for them to ignore their neighbour’s request. Young people do not get as sick with Covid as middle aged people do. Tell them you’ll stay 2 meters away from the fence, a reasonable commit. Even with vaccine you can get Covid. I can’t believe people could be point scoring against their neighbours while new and more dangerous variants are about.

They're being silly.
I reckon everyone's been vaccinated.

You can't catch Covid outside unless you're in close contact for a prolonged period. Unless both your children and your neighbours are standing with their noses pressed up against the fence for 15 minutes at a time, OP, I doubt you fit the criteria

Covid-19 is a growing mutating virus that people can get from simply walking past a person. The new variant can stay in the air for hours or be propelled by wind. In Australia they are quarantine sites away from cities. This family are showing their total lack of concern for others and those that support them are ignorant.

You are not isolating. Person with COVID is expected to stay away from all. Of course it’s difficult with children, we have a pandemic. Just because you can does not mean you do. Yes you certainly are the cause and not the family I’d like as neighbours. Hope you read this and act in the interest of our community.

Neighbour isn't thinking it through rationally. I'd be advising they might prefer to stay indoors. Or they can go to the park. Something OP can't do.

I am a clinically vulnerable individual who follows all the rules strictly, and wishes everyone else would, too, and yet I think that you should absolutely keep using your own garden as much as you'd like!!

Here's one possible response:

Dear Neighbour,

For the mental and physical wellbeing of our family members, the use of our own private garden, which is entirely within the COVID isolation rules, is absolutely essential, and we will continue doing that as much as we like.

All of the available evidence suggests that there is very little outdoor transmission, so this poses no meaningful risk to you. However, in case you decide that you would rather stay further away from us by only enjoying parks and other public outdoor spaces, we will not take offense. We cannot do that ourselves at the moment, so we are sure you will understand our choices.

Regards,
blakeway45

Tell them to feck off.

Covid-19 is a growing mutating virus that people can get from simply walking past a person. The new variant can stay in the air for hours or be propelled by wind. In Australia they are quarantine sites away from cities. This family are showing their total lack of concern for others and those that support them are ignorant.

And this is pure scaremongering.

Why is DH not self isolating in bedroom? If he has Delta variety it is highly contagious and rest of family are being put at risk unnecessarily.

Hope you and the family are all OK. I would absolutely struggle doing an isolation at this point. And particularly not easy whilst entertaining 2 small children.

Whilst I would be wary if my neighbours had covid, I would realise that their need to use their garden would be far greater than mine. I have always erred on the side of caution with Covid, so I understand their concerns. But they are absolutely selfish to want you all to be confined to such a small space 24 x 7 for 2 weeks, when they can go everywhere they want. All the kind acts that we've witnessed. This is their opportunity to be community spirited.

2 meters =6.56 ft government distance guidelines plus as you say fence between you avarage fence is 6.6 ft high. I think neighbours are slightly paranoid! About S much chance of catching as winning lottery of a £.

Medically if someone contracts the virus when they've been vaccinated, it presents than no more than the common cold. Fact.

Delta variant Covid is 40% transmissable outside and airborne .So if the 4 of you are in the garden there will be alot of virus particles floating in the air. It is possible that some will drift over the fence and into the nose/eyes/mouths of your neighbours sitting in their garden. It's not impossible....

Let's all use some common sense with all this. Some people have been isolating for more than a year. And the rise in mental illness has soared, because of this. If your health is ok and you use some common sense, all will be well.

We're not doing anything wrong." Yes, you are. You are supposed to keep separate from the CV+ person. You're not.

IF YOU CAN! It’s not law FFS.

@Kazzzzzzzzzzz

Delta variant Covid is 40% transmissable outside and airborne .So if the 4 of you are in the garden there will be alot of virus particles floating in the air. It is possible that some will drift over the fence and into the nose/eyes/mouths of your neighbours sitting in their garden. It's not impossible....

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