To think this guy is showing a few red flags?

[nataliare]

Maybe I'm being too cautious or just been a silly over thinker.
Friday night (date 3) with a guy.
I had booked a restaurant which I had been to the week before.
Stood outside in the queue to get in and a few couples were behind us.
He told me to get the reservation up on my phone to show the staff.
I said I had been the week before and we just had to give our name and I didn't need to show it.
He completely ignored me and told the people behind "just go in front she needs to find the booking confirmation "
So I look on my emails and find it and get to the front and as I knew they didn't ask for it.

Afterwards we went to a bar.
There are 2 pubs opposite and I said "oh shall we go in this one " and pointed
He said no and let's go in that one.
I pointed out there was a huge queue and the other one was half empty.
He wouldn't budge and we had to stand in queue.

Aibu ? Or would you be a bit put off ?

YANBU that would definitely put me off.

Would definitely put me off

YANBU. Clearly he thinks you know bugger all and is the kind of bloke who thinks he knows all and your input and opinions mean nothing to him

Yup. That would be the end for me. If he's prepared to treat you like this on date 3 it does not bode well.

NEXT.

What a twat. Don't make the mistake of seeing him again.

In isolation yes as I'd find that bossy behaviour really irritating.

Whether that's a "Red Flag" or not is irrelevant here. If 3 dates in you're questioning things, as Aquamarine says "NEXT!".

Yeah, I wouldn't like that.

I think if I were someone who wanted to have everything “sorted”, I wouldn’t feel totally comfortable with relying on you only giving name last time. Not because I didn’t believe you - but it could just be that member of staff that time. HOWEVER I would always phrase it in a way that made that clear. And anyway… I wouldn’t interfere as you had the reservation, and it’s not like it would take more than 10 seconds anyway!

I think you’d have been better able to answer your own question had you not done as he’d told you, and seen his reaction to you refusing.

As for the pub… did either of you know them? I’d choose a queue if it was my preferred pub. Or if I didn’t know either, I may choose it assuming it’s better - or just like the look of it and not mind the queue. Again though, I would have phrased that in a way that didn’t leave you posting on MN!

I wouldn’t date someone who couldn’t say, “actually, do you mind a queue? I like the look of that guest ale poster, and maybe popular is a good sign!”

bye bye!

Sod that for a game, delete and block, bullet dodged. What a monumental arsehole.

They’re would be no 4th date if that was me.

He sounds horrible

Yep red flags
Move on

RUN

Ugh red flag city. What you say and have to contribute is obviously not enough for his brilliance so I would delete, block and move on.

And don't ever let anyone tell you you're wrong when you know you're right.

Pub, not necessarily. Maybe he hates that pub, or his ex works there or something. Restaurant, definitely.

Expects you to be the little woman, get rid OP x

I wish you had stuck to your guns and said you don't need the booking email, but I can understand why you didn't.

He's not even being bothering to be nice at this early stage, God knows what he'll be like 1 year in.

Ugh no, who does he think he is? That would put me right off him, I'd not want to see him again.

I'd ghost that without a second thought. I'd have left rather than queue for the pub. 'Think I'm done here and it's time to go home. Bye.'

Awful! It sounds like he isn't just bossy/thinks he is right (which would be annoying enough for me) but that he is deliberately showing/enforcing your place in the pecking order - below him basically. He's telling you how it is always going to be. Run run run!!!

Nope. Next.

You'll be forever wrong, unknowledgeable etc.

Get rid.

Tatty bye