Friend making agreement to her covid views a requirement of her friendship

[dizzycatdance2]

Hi

Friend posts a lot online of her views of covid.

generalisation : she doesn't believe covid is a serious disease, mask wearing is unnecessary , "they" have ulterior motive etc.

That is her opinion and she is fully entitled to it.


Latest post :

If you think I'm selfish for not wearing a mask, not testing my child.

If you think the latest extension of lockdown is ok

Then un-friend .I don't have time for you.
..........

I'm really, really torn as to what to say / do.


It feels as though i have been forced to make public my own personal views / beliefs. E.g. say nothing = I agree with her, un-friend = I don't agree.


I realise this is just sm, I don't have to engage at all , i can just unfollow.

It feels almost playgroundish, "you can only be my friend if........."

But , it just grates in a way that her other posts did not. Although the post that looked exactly like an official "im positive , you need to take action" warning , but that was (right at the end ) positive for her being "sexy" felt mocking.

I have never posted to contradict her views , it's her sm she can say what she likes.

I'm trying to find the correct response but anything I think.of seems to come out ",wrong"

Any ideas

[WettyHainthrop]

“See ya then, you fucking goon.”

That oughta do it.

[octoegg]

@dizzycatdance2

Sorry to be dim how do I un-friend , not very sm savvy !

What sm platform? Sorry if I missed it .. If Facebook, go to her page and at the top it'll say 'friends'. Click on it and an unfriend option will appear.

[dizzycatdance2]

Thanks octoegg

[IncessantNameChanger]

Just put her on repeating monthly hide.

She is demanding something that you dont have to do.

Just do neither and ignore her. I keep putting my poor sil on a rolling hide as she keeps posting pictures in very skimpy outfits a few times every day. She is very pretty, lovely figure, but I dont want to see her sweating in her sports bra and knickers every day. Ta ta sil. It doesnt upset her, she has no idea. Win win

[shouldistop]

If you want to stay friends with her then ignore. If you don't want to stay friends with her then unfriend

[RubyViolet]

She’s lost the plot. I would ignore her post, she’ll change her mind in a few months.

[Ostara212]

How close is she?

If you are very close, I would be calling and asking "are you serious that you won't tolerate any difference opinion?"

One uni friend told me to assume everyone is just talking shit on social media. I only have MN really, I can't cope with the crazy and having to learn another language, so to speak.

[Rosewood017]

I'd probably comment that I don't agree but it's fine to have different views. Leave the unfriending in her court!

[WhatMattersMost]

@dizzycatdance2

Hi

Friend posts a lot online of her views of covid.

generalisation : she doesn't believe covid is a serious disease, mask wearing is unnecessary , "they" have ulterior motive etc.

That is her opinion and she is fully entitled to it.

Latest post :

If you think I'm selfish for not wearing a mask, not testing my child.

If you think the latest extension of lockdown is ok

Then un-friend .I don't have time for you.
..........

I'm really, really torn as to what to say / do.

It feels as though i have been forced to make public my own personal views / beliefs. E.g. say nothing = I agree with her, un-friend = I don't agree.

I realise this is just sm, I don't have to engage at all , i can just unfollow.

It feels almost playgroundish, "you can only be my friend if........."

But , it just grates in a way that her other posts did not. Although the post that looked exactly like an official "im positive , you need to take action" warning , but that was (right at the end ) positive for her being "sexy" felt mocking.

I have never posted to contradict her views , it's her sm she can say what she likes.

I'm trying to find the correct response but anything I think.of seems to come out ",wrong"

Any ideas

There's little you can say or do, in my opinion. It's likely she will push you to the very limit. You may need to love her and step away.

[BobMortimersPetOwl]

I just choose not to get involved in any conversations like that with people who have extreme views, because I'm very much of the belief they're unwavering in their opinion so it's only ever going to cause bad feeling. If I'm asked directly I'll share my views.

[Tigger1895]

She sounds challenging and is looking for someone to contradict her. The best thing you can do is not engage.

[BoredOfThisShit]

Unfriend.

Simple

[MrsPelligrinoPetrichor]

Just ignore her, you don't need to respond, people say all sorts of shit on line - more fool them.

Hopefully if she's a good friend she'll get over it and you can find a way forward if you want to.

[MrsJackRackham]

Reply saying that you follow all the guidelines etc and if she doesn't agee then she should unfollow you. Put the onus back on her, she's not the only person allowed an opinion.

[JetBlackSteed]

If you unfriend her on Facebook she will know. If you want to remain friends in real life, or avoid a confrontation, then just unfollow her and you can correctly claim never to have seen her posts.

[Mooda]

Just ignore it. How would she know you'd even seen the post?

[TidyOmlette]

For me I would unfriend her. She has every right to her own views and opinions and as much as I don’t agree with everything the government has done I have seen covid first hand and it’s horrific.

[saraclara]

I would absolutely unfriend her, and enjoy it. Not because she isn't wearing a mask, but because that kind of arrogance makes me stubborn.

[JackyinaTracky]

Another vote for unfriend.
I couldn’t be friends with somebody who insists that you have to agree with everything they say and do or you aren’t welcome in their life. By remaining friends (even if it’s just Facebook friends) you are supporting her view that it’s her way or the high way.

[Looneytune253]

Just comment: 'I'm really sorry you feel that way. Personally I do value your friendship and would have agreed to disagree but I'll unfriend now as requested.

She might end up bloody lonely but I imagine she's doing this post more for attention and isn't actually expecting people to unfriend her. I wouldn't hesitate to unfriend an acquaintance that had those views and put up a post like that. I might hesitate more if it was a good friend but don't think I would naturally have a close friend who's values were so much on the other side to be fair

[etopp]

I am sorry if this is a dense question, but why do you have to respond at all? Can you not just shrug and ignore it? If she said it to your face, you might have to engage with it one way or the other, but otherwise, I wouldn't bother.

FWIW, I have some very good friends who are in favour of lockdown, self-isolation etc. I am right at the other end of the spectrum, but we seem to have managed to remain friends. I can see why they see things they way they do, and they can see why I see things the way I do. Though our friendships aren't conducted online, so maybe that makes a difference.

[Gothichouse40]

In my opinion, part of living through these difficult times is trying to understand how others feel. I always ask my friends or family if they are comfortable to go to x, do x etc. If someone dictates to other people that it's their way or the highway, they obviously do not consider other people's feelings. I would not make my views public, I would unfriend and just not say anything. I got rid of Fussbook years ago, best thing I ever did. Im sorry but this person does not sound much of a friend.

[TenBobNote]

I would unfriend on FB and ditch her as a friend in real life. I have no interest in continuing friendships with those who think they are too special to be vaccinated. I have a DS with major health problems and cannot have the vaccine. I don’t need to be around people who have no problem with putting my son at risk.

At the end of the day my dc come first. I don’t know where “friends” have been, who they have been bothering with, whether they have covid. It’s not something I want to risk for my vulnerable DS.

[TheFormidableMrsC]

I was unfriended by somebody I considered to be a good friend because I questioned the utter shite she was posting on FB about Covid and specifically vaccines. She accused me of being "aggressive" when I politely countered her misinformation. I'm not the only one she has done this to. It is essentially "agree with me or we can't be friends". Such odd, childish behaviour. Mind you this same person told me I could cure my breast cancer with diet and not the "poison" of conventional medicine 🙄. I didn't take that advice obviously.

I'd just unfollow and walk away. It's such ridiculous behaviour and nobody needs "friends" like that. We are all entitled to an opinion. We are not entitled to impose conditions on others if our opinion differs 🤷🏻‍♀️

[Benjispruce3]

Unfriend.