Groom to bride present

[Taskmasterlover]

Posting here for the traffic...

Wanting some recommendations for jewellery brands. Want something this kind of style lilyandroo.com/products/rose-gold-six-pearl-bracelet ie quite dainty for around £300/400 for my fiance to buy me for our wedding day, any suggestions please?

Why do you need a present? Presumably you have a ring already and you're getting married. What's the gift for? Why not just buy it for yourself if you're choosing it and directing operations? I'm baffled. Is this a thing?

I mean I can just buy it myself... He wants his watch he's had for a long time which is broken fixing and got a quote for £400 and I wanted a bracelet so just thought it'd be nice to do it for eachother. The advice is more for the piece of jewellery, not what people think of the situation :)

Does he not get to choose the gift?

@justmuddlingalong I don't think he'd know the first place to start, my thought was to get a few suggestions and then send him them so he could pick one

What was the engagement ring then

I’ve not known this to be a thing. We bought each other’s wedding rings but mine was cheaper than DH’s, because i said he should have platinum since I’d recently been bought diamonds for the engagement ring. I certainly wouldn’t then bid him to buy me another present for the day.

I just want suggestions for pieces of jewellery...

I know that I’ve got a BIG present for our wedding day next week and I’ve got my husband to be several nice presents too. Why not!

Although saying that OP, I think the link you’ve posted is stunning and I would get that one and maybe use the rest of the present budget elsewhere (like another present )

And posted in AIBU. Maybe move it to style and beauty instead.

@breadbinbaby glad you are too! I did think that too, maybe some nice perfume or something! I do really like that bracelet

Why do you have to spend £300/£400 when the piece you like is £70?

Odd.

[quote Taskmasterlover]@breadbinbaby glad you are too! I did think that too, maybe some nice perfume or something! I do really like that bracelet[/quote]
Definitely get perfume, so evocative! I got my HTB a luxury aftershave for that reason. The bracelet is stunning. Does it go with the rest of your jewellery?

Maybe try the brand Mikimoto. They are a high end jewellery brand that’s known for pearls. They have some similar bracelets but may be a little above your budget.
Or this one from Tiffany www.tiffany.co.uk/jewelry/bracelets/elsa-peretti-pearls-by-the-yard-bracelet-GRP02383/

God, such needlessly cranky responses!

YANBU to buy jewellery that you like.
YABU to post it in YABU though!

Ignore those who are asking if it's really a thing or why you even need a gift. They sound bitter.

I would personally go for something that can be worn every day and is a solid metal, like a white gold bracelet.

The one you have picked is very pretty too.

Congratulations and best wishes for your big day.

Oh OP, this is Mumsnet. Don't you know your wedding must be a quick signing of the register and a one course meal for immediate family? If it is in any way celebratory, you are destined for divorce in 6 months.

I got a pair of diamond earrings from DH on our wedding day. I bought him a watch. Insane as it is to want to buy your new spouse nice things and knowing the huge odds of splitting up due to such spoilt princess behaviour, we took the risk and we're still together 17 years later.

I'm really crap with jewellery so don't have any recommendations but hope you get something lovely.

You're going to get arsey answers because it's AIBU...

I think the bracelet is quite pretty OP! DH & I did gifts to swap the morning of our wedding and it was lovely to open & read cards from each other etc.

Do you normally wear pearls though OP? My father used to always say "pearls for tears" and it's stuck in my head - even though I wear pearls and love them...

@breadbinbaby ooo I'm sure he'll love that and the smell will always remind you of your wedding! Yeah I have a lovely pair of pearl earrings to go with it!

@FeelinSpendy thanks, I'll have a look!

@breadbinbaby It’s AIBU- I am not sure what the AIBU is but the answer is definitely yes!

Just buy for yourself. Jeez people are meant to select the gift they give. You will back with an AIBU in 2 years - AIBU to be annoyed that he still expects me to choose my own birthday present,

Thanks for all the replies everyone! I put my hands up and say I was being unreasonable for putting in AIBU so thanks for the responses.

Glad to hear other people have done this too!

[quote Nishky]@breadbinbaby It’s AIBU- I am not sure what the AIBU is but the answer is definitely yes![/quote]

The link you've posted is beautiful!

You could also suggest a Pandora Bracelet, they have so many different ones now that some of them are dainty. The Pandora me snake one is nice and he could pick his own charms that mean things personal to you both.
There's also the reflections ones but they are bit thicker and again could pick his own charms that mean something.

To those saying you don't need a gift. No you don't need a gift but what's the problem with gifting each other? It makes that item more special.

I didn't pick my wedding jewellery, any of it. My DH wanted to get it for me so I didn't know what it looked like until the day. I also put together a grooms box for him which he didn't know about until the morning. I think they add a nice touch, it's nice to have a surprise.

@bloodyhell19 the pearls for tears made me laugh, hopefully happy tears! Don't wear them massively but they'll go well with my dress

Not bitter, but not controlling or grabby either.