Groom to bride present

[Taskmasterlover]

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Wanting some recommendations for jewellery brands. Want something this kind of style lilyandroo.com/products/rose-gold-six-pearl-bracelet ie quite dainty for around £300/400 for my fiance to buy me for our wedding day, any suggestions please?

Out of interest, what are you buying him?

In your opinion.
If it's no big deal for the OP to seek recommendations for her
non present, what's stopping her allowing her fiancé to ask for some ideas.

My husband bought me some diamond earrings and I was so surprised. Wasn’t expecting them at all. Apparently his mum sent him out the morning of the wedding to buy me a present- result!

My husband bought me diamond earrings as a wedding gift I bought him an 18k gold watch. We still have and use them 42 years later. Money was tight but it was a kind and loving gesture . We did not discuss it but both so glad we did it.

@Justmuddlingalong

In your opinion. If it's no big deal for the OP to seek recommendations for her non present, what's stopping her allowing her fiancé to ask for some ideas.

There’s no ‘stopping’ or ‘allowing’ necessary because the people involved don’t share your parameters for what a present is and are happy to do it this way and consider it a present

So are you agreeing it's not an actual present, or are you changing the definition of what a present is?

We have been married for 27 years. We bought gifts for each other, mine was a watch and his was a tie pin. They weren’t expensive but gifted on the morning of our wedding to each other.

I think the bracelet is really pretty. Carrie Elizabeth have some lovely bits which are a similar sort of style

But would it not mean more if your DP chose something for you? It seems a bit transactional and cold for a wedding gift!

@DroopyClematis he would like his really nice watch fixing as it's been broken a long while

@BobMortimersPetOwl I'm going to show him the sort of one's I like and then let him choose/find one. He obviously has no idea what my dress is like or anything and I wouldn't trust him to just pick a piece of jewellery for me

@Justmuddlingalong

So are you agreeing it's not an actual present, or are you changing the definition of what a present is?

Yep, changing it. Bit like every married person on every Christmas thread, and everyone I know in real life.

My husband came into some money unexpectedly a few days before our wedding. He bought himself a Tag and surprised me on our wedding day with a diamond necklace and matching earrings which I then wore on the day.

Slight panic as his brother delivered them with my fiancé at the end of the driveway and I nearly opened the door myself 🤣

We had initially decided that the wedding was expensive enough so weren't going to bother with gifts so it was a lovely surprise

I don't know really.
Upon engagement I got a rather lovely ring. I bought dh a silver fountain pen - rather a nice one.

Upon marriage I had a v nice wedding ring. DH didn't want one so I bought him gold cufflinks engraved with our initials.

30 years next week. All good.

But just because his is £400, you don't have to have the same amount

If the one you like is £70 why not get that?

Dh and I wanted to exchange gifts. I got him a wooden chess set he'd admired and he bought me the Times Atlas of the World (I'm a total map geek and it's a huge book! Inside it he wrote "I give you my world".

We also had a huge traditional wedding and are still married 26 years later. We've replaced the chess pieces and the atlas is hugely out of date. But it was the right thing for us to do.

Enjoy your wedding and your lovely gifts.

Tiffany have some lovely bracelets around the £400 mark.

How about an aquamarine 'Colour By The Yard" bracelet for your 'something blue': www.tiffany.co.uk/jewelry/bracelets/elsa-peretti-color-by-the-yard-bracelet-32535585/

Have a look at Monica Vinader, her bracelets are a similar style and absolutely lovely. I adore her jewellery.

Never heard of buying each other gifts for weddings but it sounds really nice. I feel I’ve missed out now though, ha ha!

So you’ve found a bracelet you like for £70 but he has to buy something for £400 because that’s what you’re spending on him?

I wonder how long this will all last

@Derbee actually I showed him it and he said try find something more expensive. Thankfully I'm not insecure and don't take things strangers say seriously but hopefully you felt good for a few minutes saying something nasty.

@Taskmasterlover

Posting here for the traffic...

Wanting some recommendations for jewellery brands. Want something this kind of style lilyandroo.com/products/rose-gold-six-pearl-bracelet ie quite dainty for around £300/400 for my fiance to buy me for our wedding day, any suggestions please?

So you have found a bracelet you like but it doesn’t cost enough so you want suggestions of places that sell jewellery that looks like this but would cost more. Right. I feel sorry for your groom to be. 😅 I have also never heard of bride and groom buying each other presents on the wedding day, but even if it were a thing, shouldn’t he find you a present. There is literally no point to this..

@Aprilx thanks for your excellent input 👍

Wow, OP, you’ve really managed to rattle some cages here! Hilarious! Have you seen any others you like? I kept coming back to the Lily and Roo ones.

That bracelet is lovely! I'm quite tempted myself I would suggest going to an independent jewellers and asking their advice. Hope you find the perfect item.

There are some romantic stories on this thread @Nannyamc in particular was lovely

I think that is the point people are trying to make - if you are going to swap presents a sweeping romantic gesture is lovely and heartfelt

I had no input into my engagement ring other than saying I don’t want yellow gold but I understand that other people don’t trust their partners to pick jewellery

Just buy the bracelet for yourself. Such an odd concept to identify something and then insist someone else buys it for you