Partners towel??

[Coatz]

My DP hasn't put his towel into the wash basket to be washed for at least 2-3 months now it might be longer but I've lost track... I know it hasn't been washed as he doesn't even know how to work the machine. This is disgusting isn't it?

If items that need washing are not in the laundry bin then they don't get washed. I don't do picking up off the floor, ever, and neither do I do deciding if someone wants something washed. I am not a servant.

I can't see that there is stand off, if your DH doesn't put it in the bin to be washed, it doesn't get washed. So what if it smells and therefore he dries himself with it and therefore maybe also smells - that's his problem!

As others have said, there is more to this, come on OP does he actually do anything around the house?

The issue here is not the towel. Your DP should be doing his fair share of the house jobs. You're not the slave or live-in housekeeper.

I would personally just grab the towel weekly when you're doing another wash load and stick it in the washer. But the towel would not be my issue here.

Why did you marry a man who thinks that housework is the woman's job?

Sorry, not marry, but live with, have children with etc?

towels only washed weekly, think i need to up down my game.

Just wash it, at least weekly. It is not worthy the hassle.

I do it all because he is of the opinion that women do all the household stuff. Plus I work part time (and DP says as I'm off for 2 days looking after our DC those are my days off so expects I have all the time in the world for household chores) which fair enough I get his point but shouldnt mean I should do everything in the house but I have no choice as he doesnt lift a finger ever.

I can think of plenty of choices. Leaving would be one. Well ideally rewinding time and not moving in and having children with a misogynistic tossbag, but leaving might be the next best thing. Failing that, stop doing things for him. He can dry himself with a manky towel. It's his problem.

That’s grim 😷 However, why are you keeping track? Are you his housekeeper?

You say you have no choice but to do everything in the house because your husband refuses to do anything as he says it's women's work. But your opinion is just as valid as his and you DO have a choice. If he can just leave things to someone else then so can you. Choose a household task that will impact on him more than you and DC and that cannot be left indefinitely and just don't do it. Don't warn him. Just let him feel the full effect of it and have to sort it out for himself. Tell him you are not his unpaid servant and he has to start pulling his weight around the house. Don't cave in and help him whatever you do. Just leave him to it. After years of fruitless arguments this worked for me. His reaction will tell you whether he's willing to change or if he just sees you as his unpaid skivvy.
I'm guessing when he lived at home he had everything done for him whereas you were expected to be the good girl who put others first and picked up the slack. Or maybe that's just me projecting .

Towels need washing on a load without fabric conditioner so I tend to wash towels in a batch on their own. I round up all towels and chuck them in. It’s not difficult!!

Is it a new thing? Has he lost his sense of smell? It’s a genuine question because my DH is not particularly focused on washing but would definitely notice a stinky towel.

He must stink.
Mouldy towel.

Like a wet dog.

@Coatz

I don't think it needs to be washed after every use or anything but surely when it's getting to months it's a little gross to not want it washed?

Yep. Its gross.

I do it all because he is of the opinion that women do all the household stuff.
More fool you, then. 🤷‍♀️

Yeuck! seriously anything more than a fortnight is just grim. There's be small amount of faecal bacteria on it by now. I would just grab it and wash it unless you can somehow convince him that he's actually a grown man who can start doing all of his own laundry.

*There'll be

I can't believe women actually walk into relationships with men like this and go along with it.

I believe men should hand over all their money for me to spend as I wish, cook a three course meal every night and massage my feet on demand. Yet no man is lining up to do this

Everyone seems not as disgusted as me! That is unbelievably disgusting! It is properly revolting and he would be coming nowhere near me if it was my husband. OP is getting a hard time here, unfairly IMO. He's your husband OP, tell him he's a manky fucker and to get a clean towel, the one he's using could walk to the machine by itself.

It is disgusting but OP needs to either tell her husband that or just wash the towel, since she knows it needs washing.

I think your main issue is that you've stated your 'd'p doesn't lift a finger. I would not be cleaning up after him. Tell him to start doing his share ffs.

I’d automatically just wash it when it’s bed sheer and towel day

@lavendarmoon yes he used to put it in to be washed so that's why I'm baffled as to what has changed. I mean he wasn't putting it in to be washed as regularly as he should, prob about every 3/4 weeks so I don't know why the sudden change.