Partners towel??

[Coatz]

My DP hasn't put his towel into the wash basket to be washed for at least 2-3 months now it might be longer but I've lost track... I know it hasn't been washed as he doesn't even know how to work the machine. This is disgusting isn't it?

I know it hasn't been washed as he doesn't even know how to work the machine.

Can he work the tv? Can he drive a car? If so, he can probably learn to work a washing machine. Which I know wasn’t the point of your question but I’d find this more annoying than the towel.

@Hallyup6

Yes it's grim but our towels never make it to the washing basket because I just walk into the bathroom and pick the whole lot up, chuck in the machine and then return them. I couldn't let something like that bother me.

This.

I also wouldn't be recommending that people put damp towels in the wash basket - if they're then sat there for a few days they're a prime breeding ground for mould and bacteria 🤢

Towels are left hanging up here and then put directly in the machine.

To clarify I'm not upset about a towel 😂
Clearly I do things differently to most and I dont go around looking for washing i just assume a grown man should know when something is dirty and put it in the wash that's all.
Yes maybe because my partner does f**k all I feel like he should at least know he needs to wash a towel every once in a while.

But I'll keep it to myself and just go and put it in the wash myself.

I get you OP, it's the same as people who leave their dirty plates and mugs lying around the house. If they want them cleaned they need to go in the place where they are meant to go to be cleaned wherever that is.

@Hallyup6

Yes it's grim but our towels never make it to the washing basket because I just walk into the bathroom and pick the whole lot up, chuck in the machine and then return them. I couldn't let something like that bother me.

I do this too.

But I'll keep it to myself and just go and put it in the wash myself.

And he will keep treating you like a doormat and nothing will change. Is this seriously how you want to spend your life and do you think it's a good model for your children to see that women have to do everything and men get treated like royalty?

I also wash the bath mat and hand towels at the same time so just grab the whole lot from the bathroom/s and wash then as one load. My kids would never think to put towels in the wash.

I wash all towels at same time … grab them all at the same time and shove them in. I don’t like them going in wash basket as it makes the wash basket smell of damp.

To be honest it’s pretty gross you’ve noticed this and are reluctant to grab it and wash it.

I never wash towels with other items .. they need a higher temp. I think you’re being abit unreasonable x

I think that's pretty grim OP, but I do think my DP would keep using the same towel until it actually smelled if I didn't change them.

He wouldn't think to put the towel in the washing basket though, although that is the rule with everything else. I usually gather all the towels and wash them at the same time, and replace them with fresh ones.

I change all the towels and bath mat together. Avoids the issue of my husband not noticing his towel is minging. I have come to accept that there are just things like that that he doesn't notice or care about.

Does the towel not stink? I wouldn't be able to avoid just binging it in the wash.

We have a separate laundry bin for towels and bath mats and my lovely DH washes them all every Wednesday (but he only works 2 days a week).

You just need to sort out your household system. I'm always a bit bewildered by households where everyone does their own washing separately, as it seem rather inefficient. I do the washing in our house, and DH knows that I will change his towels when it suits me - I'd rather take them when I need to make up a load, not have them land in the basket when I've just stripped the beds.

I should add that my DH is perfectly capable of running the washing machine, and hanging things in the airing cupboard; we just choose to split the chores this way.

[quote Coatz]@barbaraofseville I do it all because he is of the opinion that women do all the household stuff. Plus I work part time (and DP says as I'm off for 2 days looking after our DC those are my days off so expects I have all the time in the world for household chores) which fair enough I get his point but shouldnt mean I should do everything in the house but I have no choice as he doesnt lift a finger ever.

@moonshine11 yes I know I should just wash it and make it a non issue but even my 13 yr old knows to put his in the wash when he feels it needs washing (usually once a week) we have plenty of towels so it can be thrown in the wash and another one can be used, he doesnt need to wait for the same towel to be clean.[/quote]
This isn't really about the towel, is it? Although to be fair, it never is.

Yes it’s gross.

And your partner sounds like a sexist arsehole... which is a bigger problem than the towel. Any chance you can change them both

@GreenCrayon

It would bother me more that the person I had chosen to be my partner was apparently incapable of learning to using a washing machine to be honest. It's hardly rocket science.

This!!!

Nothing less attractive than an excuse ncompetant full grown adult.

I'd just wash it. Why wouldn't you?

But in this house towels are shared. Clean ones in a basket in the bathroom, current ones on the rail in the bathroom, then get moved every 2-3 days into the basket for washing. We dont do individual towels.

I'd just wash it. Why wouldn't you?

Because her partner appears to think himself above all this 'women's work' and sees it as something the OP should be doing because of her sex. Personally nothing would make me want to do something less than being expected to do it solely because I don't possess a penis.

Yeah I don’t wait for towels to go in the basket because if they’re a bit damp they’ll moulder in there. I just gather them off the racks and hooks and bung them all in a hot wash.

@GreenCrayon

I'd just wash it. Why wouldn't you?

Because her partner appears to think himself above all this 'women's work' and sees it as something the OP should be doing because of her sex. Personally nothing would make me want to do something less than being expected to do it solely because I don't possess a penis.

I think it's far more likely that he just hasn't thought about how often it might be appropriate to wash a towel. (But maybe my stereotyping is just as wrong as yours...)

Sounds more like he believes in the towel fairy and there's a fair few on this thread keen to make sure he doesn't stop believing.

Clearly I do things differently to most and I dont go around looking for washing i just assume a grown man should know when something is dirty and put it in the wash that's all.

But you are paying attention to this towel and its obviously bothering you enough to come online to give out about it, I don't understand why you don't just throw it in the wash basket yourself next time you're doing a wash?

Why don't you wash all the towels together? When I do a towel wash, I gather up all the bath towels, bath mat, tea towels and cloths and it all goes in together. Usually every third day.

I get that it’s annoying he can’t do the simple thing. But the yuck factor of months old towel would win over my he should do it card. At some point it’s got old some nasty dead skin, germs that I wouldn’t want rubbing off on my towel.

It’s more disgusting that a grown man doesn’t know how to use the washing machine. How can you respect someone like that? What a turn-off.